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Published: Thursday, March 6 2014 12:00 a.m. MST

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lynn
Roosevelt, UT

This story puts a smile on my face and a tear in my eye. It isn't about where we've been but rather where we're going. Good for you lady and your handsome family!

Dacheat22
Saratoga Springs, UT

While this woman seems nice and her children seem well-adjusted, the choice to have them in the first place was extremely selfish.

While children without fathers are 2-3 times more likely to be poor, here are some other figures to ponder: fatherless children make up 63% of suicides, 90% of the homeless, 85% of behavior disorders, 71% of high school dropouts. These figures are just scratching the surface.

When discussing the fatherless epidemic, most people are quick to blame men for being “deadbeats”. Rarely do we hold women accountable for choosing irresponsible men to father their children.

But what is most disturbing, which is highlighted in this article, is the growing number of women who are choosing to get pregnant with the intention of raising them on their own.

ironmania
San Diego, CA

If this woman had waited until she was 37 and married to start her family, she would be facing the same infertility issues she has now, and may have completely foreclosed the opportunity to bear children. As it stands, she is happily married to a loving man and she has three beautiful children who are being raised by a loving mother (and father).

She put herself through nursing school and certainly doesn't qualify as "poor".

Eliot
Genola, UT

She describes herself as naive. Given that she dedicated her life to raising her boys and loving them, I wouldn't call her selfish. Naive probably is the best description.

jeanie
orem, UT

Dacheat22,
This woman came from an amazingly bad background and had no good examples until much later in life. She has done an outstanding job with what she was given. I think the word "selfish" is better suited to someone who grew up knowing better.

Vicki24
salt lake city, UT

I think this woman is very brave to have her life for everyone to read. I think this story will/should inspire single parents. Just because you grow up a certain way doesn't mean that that's the end, that you will be "poor" and your children will have a less chance of any type of success. She has proven that you can grow up in a terrible environment and came out at the top. She became a nurse, had three beautiful children, and always made the right choices by staying away from the environment that she grew up in. You should be proud of all your accomplishments and good luck with you fertility issues. You deserve to be happy.

Vicki24
salt lake city, UT

I think this woman is incredibly brave putting her personal life story for everyone to read. I think this is a great example for single parents everywhere that grew up in a terrible situation. Just because you grow up a certain way doesn't mean you will end up "poor" and your children will grow up with less prospers. Her story is a terrific example of you make your life how you want/desire. She came out on top and put herself through nursing school. She is a success and she should be proud of how she chose the right path to follow rather than the bad examples she was surrounded by. You give others hope. Good luck on your fertility issues, everyone deserves happiness.

Instereo
Eureka, UT

This is a very heart-wrenching story. I'm happy that she was able to overcome such a bad childhood and change things in her life. What makes it even sadder for me is to realize that for every success as portrayed in today's article there are many that have obstacles placed in their way making it that much harder to crawl out of their hard lives. It could be low minimum wage, not having a support network, getting sick and not being able to qualify for medicaid and so on and so on. It's great to celebrate a success of someone who beats the odds but it's an entirely different thing to structure our system in such a way that people in places like she was in can get easier assistance to get out of it.

just-a-fan
Bountiful, UT

How many articles do you plan on running about the plight of the single mother? How about we single dads? Try that on for size.

K
Mchenry, IL

She parented the children she made. Doing things on the worlds schedule doesn't mean you will not get everything in life you expect, like the husband and place of her own. Saying it's selfish to have and raise your children is like saying it's selfish to grow old. There are costly and problematic statistics associated with that too. When you look at who is getting free lunch at school often it's the two parent family and the child of a single mother is packing their own lunch. Statistics mean nothing. Perhaps if the world weren't so hostile the suicide and drop out rates would be lower?

Ximena
Provo, UT

Nice article about single parents - there are so many and this may give hope to many! Even a married parent can actually be single when the other parent is indifferent of not involved. It is admirable when a single parent loves to parent and becomes a blessing to the children. Wishing all single parents, married but single parent, and their children(dads and moms) hope, happiness and love.

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