This story puts a smile on my face and a tear in my eye. It isn't about
where we've been but rather where we're going. Good for you lady and
your handsome family!
While this woman seems nice and her children seem well-adjusted, the choice to
have them in the first place was extremely selfish. While children
without fathers are 2-3 times more likely to be poor, here are some other
figures to ponder: fatherless children make up 63% of suicides, 90% of the
homeless, 85% of behavior disorders, 71% of high school dropouts. These figures
are just scratching the surface. When discussing the fatherless
epidemic, most people are quick to blame men for being “deadbeats”.
Rarely do we hold women accountable for choosing irresponsible men to father
their children. But what is most disturbing, which is highlighted
in this article, is the growing number of women who are choosing to get pregnant
with the intention of raising them on their own.
If this woman had waited until she was 37 and married to start her family, she
would be facing the same infertility issues she has now, and may have completely
foreclosed the opportunity to bear children. As it stands, she is happily
married to a loving man and she has three beautiful children who are being
raised by a loving mother (and father). She put herself through
nursing school and certainly doesn't qualify as "poor".
She describes herself as naive. Given that she dedicated her life to raising
her boys and loving them, I wouldn't call her selfish. Naive probably is
the best description.
Dacheat22,This woman came from an amazingly bad background and had no good
examples until much later in life. She has done an outstanding job with what she
was given. I think the word "selfish" is better suited to someone who
grew up knowing better.
I think this woman is very brave to have her life for everyone to read. I think
this story will/should inspire single parents. Just because you grow up a
certain way doesn't mean that that's the end, that you will be
"poor" and your children will have a less chance of any type of success.
She has proven that you can grow up in a terrible environment and came out at
the top. She became a nurse, had three beautiful children, and always made the
right choices by staying away from the environment that she grew up in. You
should be proud of all your accomplishments and good luck with you fertility
issues. You deserve to be happy.
I think this woman is incredibly brave putting her personal life story for
everyone to read. I think this is a great example for single parents everywhere
that grew up in a terrible situation. Just because you grow up a certain way
doesn't mean you will end up "poor" and your children will grow up
with less prospers. Her story is a terrific example of you make your life how
you want/desire. She came out on top and put herself through nursing school. She
is a success and she should be proud of how she chose the right path to follow
rather than the bad examples she was surrounded by. You give others hope. Good
luck on your fertility issues, everyone deserves happiness.
This is a very heart-wrenching story. I'm happy that she was able to
overcome such a bad childhood and change things in her life. What makes it even
sadder for me is to realize that for every success as portrayed in today's
article there are many that have obstacles placed in their way making it that
much harder to crawl out of their hard lives. It could be low minimum wage, not
having a support network, getting sick and not being able to qualify for
medicaid and so on and so on. It's great to celebrate a success of someone
who beats the odds but it's an entirely different thing to structure our
system in such a way that people in places like she was in can get easier
assistance to get out of it.
How many articles do you plan on running about the plight of the single mother?
How about we single dads? Try that on for size.
She parented the children she made. Doing things on the worlds schedule
doesn't mean you will not get everything in life you expect, like the
husband and place of her own. Saying it's selfish to have and raise your
children is like saying it's selfish to grow old. There are costly and
problematic statistics associated with that too. When you look at who is getting
free lunch at school often it's the two parent family and the child of a
single mother is packing their own lunch. Statistics mean nothing. Perhaps if
the world weren't so hostile the suicide and drop out rates would be lower?
Nice article about single parents - there are so many and this may give hope to
many! Even a married parent can actually be single when the other parent is
indifferent of not involved. It is admirable when a single parent loves to
parent and becomes a blessing to the children. Wishing all single parents,
married but single parent, and their children(dads and moms) hope, happiness and