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Published: Sunday, March 2 2014 3:05 p.m. MST

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I know it. I Live it. I Love it.
Provo, UT


What about Fathers who would love their children and provide a good home?

In the current system, you can protect an innocent child, but an innocent Father can also be abused of his rights. With a change, it's win/win. A father's right to raise a child is preserved, BUT it could still be challenged if the Father was a credible danger to the child. From a legal standpoint, if a woman says "He's unsafe", that's not enough because human beings lie... it's a fact of life. But if there is reasonable evidence the child would be in danger with their father, then it's win/win because you can still protect children.

There is no such thing as a perfect system. But we should be working to preserve rights, preserve families, etc... not working toward something else. I'm not saying you would have anything else. I don't know. I'm just saying that I know what's right, and it's that.

Hurricane, UT

My wife and I adopted while living in California. The mother put our foster child up for adoption. Even though we had had the child in our home for over two years, only then did the process begin. We had to be approved. Her mother had already agreed to the adoption. We spent months while the father was found. He said that he wouldn't sign but then immediately ran off so that he couldn't be held responsible for the child's care. We spent several more months trying to find him again, but eventually the court had to remove his rights before the adoption could proceed. We gave both parents ample time and legal options before being able to adopt our child. Even though it was hard on us, my wife and I know that we were not "stealing" their child. It's better that all involved have ample time to make their choices -- father, mother and adoptive parents.


@AZKIDbeing The father being married to the mother is not always the perfect solution either. My husband had a daughter with his first wife. They got a divorce while she was still pregnant. She wanted to put the baby up for adoption, he did not. He was willing to take the baby and raise it. She did not want the child but did not want him to have it either. She ended up keeping the baby who had Cystic Fibrosis. She made his life miserable as well as the baby's. My stepdaughter ended up dying at age 7 from complications from the cystic fibrosis because of choices the mother made. We tried for 2 years to get custody but no judge wants to take a child from a mother that seems like she is doing the right things. It has been one of the saddest things I have ever had to endure.

Henderson, NV

If a woman, alone, has the absolute right to kill her child (through abortion), how can she not have the same right to place it for adoption in Utah (where infants are only adopted to two-parent families)?

If we’re going to give fathers the absolute right to stop an adoption, then we must also give those same fathers the absolute right to stop an abortion of their child.

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