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Published: Tuesday, Feb. 25 2014 6:00 a.m. MST

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Hutterite
American Fork, UT

But, isn't any kind of wealth redistribution bad?

PLM
Kaysville, UT

Trying to launch successfully into adult life without a father's guidance is very difficult. Access to the money needed to raise a child is important and unfortunately many men do not provide what they need to or could.

A dad provides other important benefits; Gary Chapman's "5 Love Languages" calls them: quality time, verbal affirmations, physical touch, gifts and acts of service. A child deprived of its father, his attributes and influence is at a disadvantage in life and it shows even in kindergarten.

When the dad leaves home, the mother usually does too, out of necessity, to provide for the family. The child, in essence, loses both parents. Studies have shown that young people, especially men, are at greater risk for violent behaviors when deprived of good men. It is usually selfishness that creates this situation.

My heart goes out to the men who are trying to do what they can for their children and for their children who need them desperately. Also for the women who struggle to rear children alone. And most of all for the children trying to navigate through a complex world alone.

Lobotech
Grantsville, UT

I think most fathers would be satisfied with not having the deck stacked against them in the judicial system. I have seen the dead beat bums that refuse to pay a dime in support, will even quit a job on order to keep from paying. The courts do little to nothing to them. But, when they find a father that will pay for his children, they bleed him for what they can.
As far as getting custody of his children. The man had better go to court with a lot of video and photographic evidence, notarized by at least 2 experts, and affidavits from the woman's family. She on the other hand just needs to make accusations.

bandersen
Saint George, UT

No! Stop supporting politicians that love welfare and voices that prefer welfare over work, and especially politicians who want more welfare and will lie to anyone to keep welfare recipients right where the politicians want them! Wake up America!

DavidMiller
Bountiful, UT

This situation calls for a work/self improvement program where this man (and others like him), who currently has the deck stacked against him (by his own choices as well as circumstances beyond his control), would have a close mentor to help guide him along the path of self improvement and an opportunity to work where the focus is on gaining skills and opening doors for future opportunity. It reminds me of the stories from a couple of years ago shedding light on the full scope of Deseret Industries and other church welfare programs.

If he has the desire to improve himself and provide financially and emotionally for his family he should have access to the support that will enable him to better himself so that he can do so. That would create one more productive member of society and one fewer family relying on inadequate government programs.

RedShirt
USS Enterprise, UT

Reading this article, it seems like focusing on the dads is just treats the symptom of the underlying problem.

If men and women abstained from sex until marriage, and then waited until they were out of highschool before getting married, how small would this problem be?

In other words, if people stop having kids when they are lest prepared to care for them would this be as big of a problem that it currently is?

Paddycakes
South Jordan, UT

For far to long, probably in excess of 50 years, the politically correct Carrie Nation types have had adverse influence upon the law, which has morphed into a misandrist society. Men in the West are universally condescend and relegated to 2nd or even third class citizen with little or no voice in the rule and upbringing of the man's offspring. He is looked upon economically has paramount and legally liable, yet is right are inundated with neglect and rejected for the alleged better logic and wisdom of the woman, and even the media jumps on the bandwagon and presents the man as being a dolt, lacking judgment and unable to be of sound mind without the advice and consent of the female. Sad. Albeit, this is modernist agenda fostered and forced upon society, it has resulted in the desires and innate wisdom of the father being cast aside as useless and undesired. What a shame, she it is God who set the male as the administrator and leader in the home. Anything else will and does result in failure and willful neglect for the child.

frostbyte3964
Draper, UT

I agree with some that have posted an opposition to ALL welfare programs like this. The more you reward someone for not being able to take care of themselves, the more people who will try and live like that. That being said, if you are going to allow "only females" benefits, then a good way to at least have equality is to allow both sides the same benefits...or remove it from the one side. Decide on one, but you can't be biased and only allow one side the reward if you want to call it that. Remove child support and alimony and award 50/50 custody. If you know going into a marriage that you will not be rewarded for someone elses work, you will either know you are stuck in the relationship or you will deal with not having any marketable skills if you leave. Stop reqarding bad decisions with financial reward if you want to fix the problems.

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