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Published: Monday, Feb. 24 2014 5:00 a.m. MST

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niners
SAINT GEORGE, UT

I can't believe how judgmental people can be. I am in the military and I got a quote tattooed that truly expresses who I am and what I want to become. Everytime I read that quote it motivates me during the rigorous training I have to go through and it reminds me of who I am when am tired and want to quit. There are so many reasons to get tattoos, some tattoos express what people feel are just a part of who they are. Some of you just see a "rebellious act" or a "temporary feeling" for some reason, when in reality, most tattoos are never even seen (like mine). Tattoos have real meaning to a lot of people that get them, and just because you don't have any clue what that tattoo means to a person, doesn't mean its a "rebellious act".

niners
SAINT GEORGE, UT

DocHolliday

reno, NV

Machado -

I don't why people like getting their ears pierced... so what. Do I care if they do it?
I don't get why people like to golf, seriously I just don't get it.
I don't get why people like to buy expensive cars. seriously I just don't get it
I don't get why people drink soda and are out of shape and obese but still claim they obey the word of wisdom, seriously, I just don't get it.
I don't get why people like to go to lagoon. Seriously, I just don't get it.
I don't get why people like to worry about what other people do to their bodies. Seriously, I just don't get it.
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Best comment on this board! When I was Mormon both of the bishops counselors were, to put it nicely, "obese" which clearly shows disobeying the word of wisdom, and is extremely unhealthy, yet somehow by picking and choosing which sins are worse, they feel like they can judge others. Also I have temple attending family members who eat meat nearly every night. No big deal though..

Machado
South Jordan, UT

Last post (DNews rules).

I find it interesting how many use the failings and weaknesses of others to rationalize your own behavior. Yes, you will find people who eat too much meat or drink too much soda. And you can certainly look around your own families, friends, neighbors, and church associates and find far more egregious failings than those. But are those people really the standard for your behavior? Is that all you aspire to be? I thought Christ was supposed to be our exemplar.

It is easy to take a conglomerate of the weaknesses of others and, before you know it, you have accepted all of them yourself and become weaker than any of them individually.
"Dad swears."
"My brother lives on video games."
"The bishop is fat."
"My buddy smokes."

If you accept all those as excuses for you own behavior, you will soon find yourself to be a smoking, swearing, fat, video game king.

If you must pattern yourself after others, take their strengths instead of their weaknesses.

Excusing your tattoo because someone else has one and is still "temple worthy" is cowardice. Own your own choices.

crimendelsiglo
Spanish Fork, UT

i'm 70; i have 6 tats: each forearm, each shoulder, left chest and across my back. they were done many many yrs ago. active LDS with temple recommend.

took me many years to make the decision to have them done. i don't think i need to repent of them; i'm not ashamed of them. i would not add more. they are not offensive, except to those who take offense

HF will deal with me in His way

they are none of your business; they do not affect you (or my parents.) we each will deal with our own issues and not those of other people.

stick to the subject: she asked, what is the best way to handle the situation NOW that a vacation is coming up

i've grown to appreciate Angela's advise
thnx

crimendelsiglo
Spanish Fork, UT

i forgot to mention i am a veil worker at the Provo Temple. the question abt tattoos was never raised when i was interviewed; i innocently did not even think of it myself to volunteer.

DocHolliday
reno, NV

Machado

I don't even have tattoos! I think they are ugly. I defend other peoples rights to have them if they want them and feel good about them. It isn't your place to call them unworthy of entering the temple because of them - that is between them and the bishop and god.

sharrona
layton, UT

@Utefan4Lyf,“everybody should remember one thing: Matthew 7: 1-3, True,
In Mt 7:3-5, Jesus spoke against hypocritical judging, which often comes from judging by one’s own opinions.

(John 7:24) Judge not according to the appearance[tattoos], but judge righteous judgment. or judge according to the truth and ”*evidence.” i.e..

The LORD said “no” Tattoos or body piercing. (*Lev 19:28 NLT)

RE: Crimendelsiglo (Tattoos) are not offensive, except to those(The LORD) who take offense. True, See above,”*evidence.”

RE: Niners, they feel like they can judge others.
True,
Not that which goes into the mouth defiles a man; but that which comes out of the mouth, this defiles a man.(Mt 15:11):
John 2:1-11, Jesus turns water into wine =(oinos) not wine into water. In Mt 11:19. He was accused of drinking wine, and Mt 9:17,implies fermentation.

Wine (gleukos)denotes “sweet” new wine. Acts 2:13 where the accusation shows that it was intoxicant. Today Jesus would be Judged not Temple worthy.

RDJntx
Austin, TX

The Church's postion on a lot of things stems less from what GOD wants than from public perception of the behavior. Multiple ear peircings, tattoos, mustache's and Beards, missionary standards of dress have all been discouraged and or defined by how the public perceives the activity. When I was active in the church I had a mustache after my mission. I was told I could not go out with the missionaries or the seventies on splits so long as I had it. Mustache's were seen as a sign of rebellion. Tattoos and multiple ear piercings have consequences in the workplace and the rest of society that many young people don't think about before getting them, Ergo I think the church discourages them.

Personally I have no issues with tattoos, I have wanted on for years, but I have yet to find something really meaningful enough to get one. I have no issues with them if they have real meaning to the person and are tasteful. I have no issues with my daughter getting one under the same conditions. So the reaon behind getting a tattoo is just as important as the tattoo itself IMHO.

jarka-rus
Layton, Utah

crimendelsiglodi
Did you wear a long sleeve shirt to your interview?

jarka-rus
Layton, Utah

Its always interesting how discussions like this always turn out in the vilifying of those who stand for what's right and the doctrine that has been revealed to us from Heaven. If so your being judgmental, unchristlike etc etc. Yes the Lord is merciful and will judge with perfect justice, but he still cannot look on sin with the least degree of allowance. Whether you think it doesn't matter to disfigure our mortal bodies or not, the truth will still stand to judge us one day.

Mormon Book Worm
----------, UT

I find most of these comments offensive to SOME people. Just saying. Maybe start to NOT fight and actually provide helpful insight to the post...? Some people have different stands. The word STANDARD means: principles of conduct informed by notions of honor and decency. Some people have different opinions and standards than you. "Defend your beliefs with courtesy and compassion but defend them." Was anyone listening to conference and knows who said that quote? Jeffery R Holland. We must defend our standards, but kindly. As for the tattoo thing; people make mistakes, and to get help just tell your parents. Are you regretting the tattoo? Why get one when you think you know how they would react?

Best wishes. Sorry I don't really know what to say.

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