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Published: Friday, Feb. 21 2014 8:00 a.m. MST

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Idahoan138
Pocatello, ID

The author's 3 areas: feeling superior, feeling insecure and having strong impulse control.

Compare that to the attitudes of people in Colonial America at the time of the Revolution, and the decades shortly thereafter. I believe these three traits were amply evident in the general colonial populace - they may have felt superior to other nations due to their newfound liberty from tyranny. They were in many cases forging a living in newly settled wilds - talk about insecurity (and the fostering of reliance upon God...). And in such an environment, impulse control and sticktuitiveness would be paramount if one didn't want to starve to death - no entitlement attitudes there!

One might wonder if those three traits had anything to do with the success of our nation then, and the decaying of our nation today, by contrast?

Very interesting topics for discussion.

Kjirstin Youngberg
Mapleton, UT

Interesting thoughts, Idaho.

I think Chua's assessment of being Chinese at a time we're all wondering what China will do next is key, too.

Classrooms have become places where teachers must teach to the lowest common pupil in the class so as not to make the child feel subpar. If you have bright children, it's up to you to find ways to increase their learning at home, and feed their need to grow intellectually.

Imho, America needs to do away with the stairway approach, and allow students to advance at their own rates of ability. Teachers can stay where they are, and if a student needs three years of third grade reading, they can stay with that teacher, but excel in math or something else and move up to fifth or sixth.

cjb
Bountiful, UT

Forced losing of a childhood is too high of a price to pay for getting into Harvard. Being forced so hard to study, these kids have most likely lost their love of learning. Once they get out of school they will avoid academics except where necessary.

The greatest progress is made by people who love the field they are in, not by people who think it is a chore.

spinner
carlsbad, NM

I have taught to many diverse populationa and have found that my students rise to the standard where ever I set it. I don't dumb things down but at the same time I have encouraged students who are struggling in my classes to take a step back and get more of a foundation in another class and then come back to my class the next semester. I believe that people, once they know what is expected, either rise to the challenge or go a different direction. It is about choices and opportunities and a mind set. I think Amy Chua is right on with her thinking.

Oatmeal
Woods Cross, UT

cjb,

What exactly is "forced losing of a childhood?" Parents making sure that their child practices the piano? Ensuring that their child understands each math lesson, even practicing those concepts at home? Structuring a student's free time, so that homework and chores are finished?

As an AP history teacher at one of Utah's finest high schools, I have taught, mentored and learned about our highest achieving students over the last twenty years. None had lost their love of learning or "lost" their childhood. All were talented, intelligent, hard-working and passionate students. They are generally funny and happy kids. But they put in 4-5 hours doing homework every night. Nearly all of them were aided by strong-willed and driven parents as the students developed the discipline, skills and passion it takes to be academically and professionally successful. "Tiger Mommas" support their kids. All subjects and disciplines have skills that need to be mastered, knowledge that must be understood and absorbed. This must happen BEFORE one gains an idea of what the subject matter is truly about. STRONG parental support is the most vital ingredient in the educational process.

A_Chinese_American
Cedar Hills, UT

“But they put in 4-5 hours doing homework every night. Nearly all of them were aided by strong-willed and driven parents as the students developed the discipline, skills and passion it takes to be academically and professionally successful.”

I cannot agree more.

My personal experience is that any parents let their kids have “natural choices”, their kids will be doomed. Doing 4-5 hours home works in high school time is not necessary means that kids don’t have happy childhood. It’s most likely you will have happier kids than sad kids later. (key words: 4-years college or walmart)

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