“But they put in 4-5 hours doing homework every night. Nearly all of them
were aided by strong-willed and driven parents as the students developed the
discipline, skills and passion it takes to be academically and professionally
successful.”I cannot agree more.My personal
experience is that any parents let their kids have “natural
choices”, their kids will be doomed. Doing 4-5 hours home works in high
school time is not necessary means that kids don’t have happy childhood.
It’s most likely you will have happier kids than sad kids later. (key
words: 4-years college or walmart)
cjb,What exactly is "forced losing of a childhood?" Parents
making sure that their child practices the piano? Ensuring that their child
understands each math lesson, even practicing those concepts at home?
Structuring a student's free time, so that homework and chores are
finished? As an AP history teacher at one of Utah's finest
high schools, I have taught, mentored and learned about our highest achieving
students over the last twenty years. None had lost their love of learning or
"lost" their childhood. All were talented, intelligent, hard-working
and passionate students. They are generally funny and happy kids. But they put
in 4-5 hours doing homework every night. Nearly all of them were aided by
strong-willed and driven parents as the students developed the discipline,
skills and passion it takes to be academically and professionally successful.
"Tiger Mommas" support their kids. All subjects and disciplines have
skills that need to be mastered, knowledge that must be understood and absorbed.
This must happen BEFORE one gains an idea of what the subject matter is truly
about. STRONG parental support is the most vital ingredient in the educational
I have taught to many diverse populationa and have found that my students rise
to the standard where ever I set it. I don't dumb things down but at the
same time I have encouraged students who are struggling in my classes to take a
step back and get more of a foundation in another class and then come back to my
class the next semester. I believe that people, once they know what is expected,
either rise to the challenge or go a different direction. It is about choices
and opportunities and a mind set. I think Amy Chua is right on with her
Forced losing of a childhood is too high of a price to pay for getting into
Harvard. Being forced so hard to study, these kids have most likely lost their
love of learning. Once they get out of school they will avoid academics except
where necessary.The greatest progress is made by people who love the
field they are in, not by people who think it is a chore.
Interesting thoughts, Idaho. I think Chua's assessment of being
Chinese at a time we're all wondering what China will do next is key, too.
Classrooms have become places where teachers must teach to the
lowest common pupil in the class so as not to make the child feel subpar. If you
have bright children, it's up to you to find ways to increase their
learning at home, and feed their need to grow intellectually. Imho,
America needs to do away with the stairway approach, and allow students to
advance at their own rates of ability. Teachers can stay where they are, and if
a student needs three years of third grade reading, they can stay with that
teacher, but excel in math or something else and move up to fifth or sixth.
The author's 3 areas: feeling superior, feeling insecure and having strong
impulse control. Compare that to the attitudes of people in Colonial
America at the time of the Revolution, and the decades shortly thereafter. I
believe these three traits were amply evident in the general colonial populace -
they may have felt superior to other nations due to their newfound liberty from
tyranny. They were in many cases forging a living in newly settled wilds - talk
about insecurity (and the fostering of reliance upon God...). And in such an
environment, impulse control and sticktuitiveness would be paramount if one
didn't want to starve to death - no entitlement attitudes there! One might wonder if those three traits had anything to do with the success
of our nation then, and the decaying of our nation today, by contrast? Very interesting topics for discussion.