We should add Romeo and Juliette, which Shakespeare wrote as a cautionary tale
about the dangers of Romantic Love versus The traditional values of arranged
Marriages of the upper classes. Juliette's parents had arranged for her to
Marry Prince Paris. Surely going against this results in a dire price both young
lovers pay. Also, the John Ford Classic Western "The
Searchers". Where Ethan (John Wayne) searches for his kidnapped Daughter,
Debbie, that he had by his Married Sister-in-Law Martha after he left for the
war. Ethan, a complex man of his post Civil War time, is driven by the loving
memory of Martha and trying rescue the remains of that relationship.
I rather liked this list, thank you. I'll have to look at some of these.
I enjoy romances, but I share the pain that the author does in that despite the
large number of "romance" films, there are just not so many that are any
good.Not only is actual romantic love confused with lust, it is
openly mocked when presented as it really is. Some who have learned about love
from media would belittle sexually restrained, socially-focused, future
family-minded attraction as something "old-fashioned" or
"archaic", which they deem arbitrarily undesireable.
I would add Serendipity to the list.
Yup, not much romance these days. For me the pivotal year was about 1970, when
so many women became angry, aggressive and highly sexist. The same women also
lost their surviving morals: you know things like pre-marital sex with men of
low morals and abortion. It didn't totally knock the romance out of me but
I think it did with many, and made me pretty cagey.I'm long
married now and my wife is much more of the old school, a singular woman in many
ways these days; I can feel romantic with her.
Thanks, Chris. Great list !! I own all but a couple of these and can certainly
"second the motion." Glad to See "Best Years of our Lives" in
the list -- truly one of the greatest movies ever. I think the 40's and
50's "got" romance because of the privations of war (that would be
WWII) which sorta set everybody's odometer back to what was really
important. In that context, "Best Years" is a great place to start...
I'm extremely impressed you put "Shadowlands" on this list. Props
to you, Chris Hicks. It's my favorite movie and musical score. It's
about real love and loss. They go together. It's real. Way to go.