We are parents of 9 combined and grandparents to 18 with 2 more coming this year
and we live 2000 miles away from all of them. When young parents allow us to
play, tease and hold their children it takes the sting of loneliness away for
us. I cannot tell you how MANY people "make fun" of my husband and I
for loving and paying attention to children not in our family. We are all in
God's family and why wouldn't we talk to the kids at church or in
Walmart or the grocery store? Why do people assume the worst instead of
appreciating the attention? I realize there are weirdos everywhere but if
anyone knew HOW lonely we are for our own kids and grandkids would they be a bit
more kind and sympathetic to us?
I have 4 children and get a lot of negative looks and comments out here on the
east coast where one or two children is the norm. I love it when someone says
something nice! I still remember when my youngest was a baby, and I took them
all to the library. As we walked in, a woman stopped me and asked if they were
all mine. I warily said yes and braced myself for her response. She just
smiled and said, "What a blessing! You are an angel!" It made my day
and it still makes me smile when I think of her!
Ahhhhh1 Such a Cutie!! Gotta admit i "gushed" when I opened her
picture!!Some mighty fine specimens your boys are turning into must be
Well, your baby sure has some scrumptious cheeks if I may say so! I get lots of
comments on my baby, but I think it's because she's the only one. My
sister, who is pregnant with her 4th doesn't get nearly as many. I'm
not sure what the deal with that is (seems like there would be more to look at /
notice) and it's a shame, but I think it's true.
I hate being asked, "What do you want?" with regard to gifts for
Christmas, birthdays, or just any old time. I'm a wife and a mom. And I
do want things. I have often wondered why I am always stymied by that question,
though. This article reminded me that finally, after more than 21 years of
wondering, I came to a conclusion. I discovered I want my family to be happy
more than anything else I've ever wanted. And sometimes my other wants
conflict with that vision. But looking at my family, even though they are far
from perfect, I realized THIS is what I want -- and because I let go of some of
my past wishes, I HAVE exactly what I want right now. What I want MOST has left
some dreams withered on the vine, but those would have come and gone and perhaps
been forgotten. My FAMILY will be here and continue even after I am gone. And
for the future, I want more of the HAPPINESS they have and share, for them and
for their children, and their children's children.
If your children were only dogs, they would get a lot more attention. I'm
serious. I have a good friend here in Vegas (single, no kids) who owns a cocker
spaniel, and we cannot go ANYWHERE without people rushing up to her to ask about
her dog. It's downright comical. And depending on where YOU live (you
only indicated 700 miles from your family), people may be downright contemptuous
about your having too MANY children, and that may be why they don't speak
with you or pay any attention to your beautiful children. Regardless, the world
is bigger than the few close-minded people you currently live near.
Remember what Jim said about King Solomon in Huckleberry Finn? "He had too
many chillun, so one chile more or less don't matter..."