Published: Sunday, Feb. 2 2014 12:00 a.m. MST
50 years ago a young man graduating from high school had a reasonable chance of
earning enough money on his won to raise a family and buy a house. So that is
exactly what they did. A high school graduate to day has a reasonable chance of
a part time job behind the counter at Wendy's with little chance to earn a
decent living. So they stay in their parent's basement.If
working class men had the same economic opportunities that their fathers and
grandfathers did, many of our social problems would solve themselves.
Wrestling is a great outlet for young men but since Title IX in 1973 over 200
programs dropped the sport including in our state BYU, Utah, Utah State, SUU,
Snow College and Weber. This is just one example among many where the
educational establishment and social engineering to a certain extent has and is
attacking the male.But since a teacher salary is so low, males tend
to avoid the profession today. Male teachers are disappearing across the nation
in secondary schools and are pretty much an endangered species at the elementary
level. This leaves a dearth of male role models in our schools. For
those male students in schools, the institution is best structured for female
students. Outdoor activity and play is lessened in favor of students following
directions and being quiet. Finally, the male is under assault in
our media. Take a look at our television programs. All too many males and
fathers are portrayed as clueless and useless. I think this makes a difference
in the psyche of our boys and young men in combination of these factors noted
The so called "war on women" and pay inequality that Obama and the Demos
loves to tout has been debunked! Obama loses what little credibility he still
As a mother of five sons, this issue has been preying on my mind for years now.
I see so many public efforts to promote my daughters, to encourage their
education and achievement, but so little for my boys. It's as
if society has forgotten that the inequalities of the 1960s were fifty years
ago, and the pendulum has swung the other way. But we have such a hard time
moving on here in America, that we assume males still have all the
advantages.They don't.My husband and I try to
counter the marginalization of men we see all over the media and in public
schooling, but it's a tough, tough battle, even with two parents. I'm grateful more people are noticing that BOTH sexes need encouragement.
We seems to naturally ignore one when we obsess over the other. Balance is
crucial for a balanced society.
I think that there is something very special about challenging and mentoring
young men to do HARD THINGS, to rise to difficult challenges, and be MEN OF GOD.
Men, (my husband included) like to be challenged to be courageous and be
encouraged by others, (including their wives) to rise and conquer difficult
challenges in their lives. It takes strong leaders, and mentors to hold them to
the bar of righteous manhood. I applaud all the young men who stand firm in
The root problem is the decades long liberal disease of "political
correctness" which has undermined multiple traditional values which built
strong families, a moral society, and provided economic opportunity for those
who worked hard and followed the rules.Instinctive and inherent
gender roles have been denigrated and attacked.The very institution of
marriage has been attacked.The family unit as a prerequisite for child
bearing has been attacked.The concept of reward for work has been
attacked,and replaced by an entitlement mentality.Schools have shifted
from teaching fundamental facts and skills into "feel good indoctrination
centers" where everyone is a winner and no one excels. In short,
liberalism has destroyed American men and families in order to make people
dependent on liberal government programs and sustain liberals in power. It
worked.The solution is to dismantle the liberal programs and restore
traditional values. But, we have spent so much leaving our country so deep in
debt, and so many people drowned in entitlement mentality that it may not be
possible to recover.
Good article--until you get to the last paragraph "Governments must..."
Since when did government solve ANY problem--ever? Governments ARE the problem;
at least a good-sized portion of it. If the problem is to be solved, it will
only be solved when people realize that and entire culture based upon free and
easy sex is perhaps the biggest issue: people are not getting married and
creating strong family units. That, and that ONLY will ever solve the problem.
And sorry, gay-marriage-advocates: your life style "just ain't gonna do
it, neither", so-called "marriage" notwithstanding. When strong
family units cease to exist, we see deterioration is every single aspect of
society: the family is the "atom" of society and all the
family-destroying tendencies of modern society are radioactive decay.
To lump all men together is a mistake. What socio-economic classes and races
are skewing the statistics one way or the other.I've always
thought that one of the consequences of the women's liberation movement was
the fact that it can emasculate men at the same time. There was no movement for
men at the same time to adjust to the new ways. Men are expected to
provide for their families. When they can't do that or are stopped from
doing so without an alternative we will see problems and breakdowns in
While there are many common sense elements of feminism - it is unfortunately
based upon a clear and blatant lie: the assumption that biology does not matter
and that men and women are merely persons with parts.Until that
basic hate is vigorously confronted and expunged - both men and women will
Everybody agrees that education is the key to success for young men. But we have
made it virtually impossible for young men to afford going to college. It's
breathtaking how much $$$ you have to put out when you have little or no income
in the first place. What we could use right now is a free public university
system. Of course Republicans would have a cerebral embolism if anyone were to
Instead of trying to make this another opportunity to push religion, let's
push knowledge. Knowledge and intelligence are valuable, and the women of our
society seem to have a better grasp on this than the men. That, and men have
abandoned its' pursuit.It's not necessarily mens' fault; our
society heaps scorn on smart people but lauds the sports participant, jock, and
warmonger. Are we celebrating creative arts or electrical engineering today. No,
we're watching football. Is football really important? No.
Let's not handle this issue with kid gloves. Let's tell it like it
is. Young men are largely unproductive members of society because that is what
they have been trained to be.Modern parents have spoiled and
indulged their boys to the point that the boys are not expected to do anything
that is the least bit hard. This is then reinforced by the public schools which
have already lowered curriculum and expectations to the level of the least
common denominator.This is all supplemented by the left-wing
entertainment industry which teaches that a man is not a man unless he engages
in wanton, uncontrolled sexuality. This will be on full display during the
commercials and half time show of the Super Bowl.Society as a whole
should be condemned for allowing young men to be such wasteful beings.
Reformation must come before it is too late.
Education is the key to success. A couple of years ago a former teacher
developed a classroom program to teach middle school kids the value of how to
manage their money. It has been accepted at schools across the nation. She
brought it to my school district and it was reviewed with resounding complements
and praised as something that really filled a learning gap in simple economics
which our students need. It never came back the next year it didn't return.
When I asked why I was told it was too expensive and the money would be better
used on a soccer field. I guess it is more important to learn to kick a ball
around than to balance your checkbook.
In 2013 there were 17 members of the Utah legislature that were women.
That's 16%. Women hold 99 of the 535 seats in congress. 69 women are
admirals or generals (~7%). Approximately 5% of Fortune 500 CEO's are
women.Every major statistic shows men in the majority. How can men
be so discriminated against?
That is an interesting editorial. The comments about that editorial are just as
interesting. Most people "get" the fact that society has changed the
roles of men and women. Some "elitist" decided that the proper role of
both men and women was to spend their lives chasing money. Some
"elitist" decided that families were for "sissys" and that
nurturing children was the job of the State, where that nurturing would take
place in day-care and eventually in the school room.That
"elitist" was wrong; but, correcting those ideas will take personal
effort; correcting those ideas will require strong families; correcting those
ideas will require that fathers and mothers tell their sons that it is time to
leave the comfort of the nest and that they must assume their proper role of
husband and father in society.Government has told men that if they
have sexual intercourse, that they don't need to shoulder the
responsibility of fatherhood. Government tells them that abortion is the first
answer and that if abortion is rejected that welfare to the mother is the next
answer.Strong families must reject government intrusion.
My wife and I have recently taken a vacation to the Island of Curacao. This is
one of the things that REALLY stood out to us. As far as we could tell, the men
around there did almost nothing. When driving around, you would see them
standing around and drinking beer at all hours of the day. As we talked to
natives and long time residence and even a few missionaries, that is the
prevailing male culture there. The men are in the mindset of doing as little as
possible to get by. They also seem to try to father kids that they have no
intention of raising. The Women of that island are the real driving force from
what we heard and what we could see. I certainly pray that the men
of this country does not wander down that road.
How does a high school education, cut off before college to do a religious
"mission," help a young man complete college and enable him to achieve
in an economy requiring no less than a Bachelor's Degree to have any
success in life? College IS expensive, but it's mandatory for financial
success, for men AND women. Time to stop arguing about who has the advantage,
guys had it completely until 40 years ago, women are catching up. Griping
won't change that, only hard work, college education, and equal pay for all
doing the same job! The war on women continues, in spite of Title IX.
I've got a young man. He has multiple issues, including Asperger's and
both learning disabilities and giftedness. Think Sheldon, only totally
disorganized and messy, and perhaps not quite so socially clueless (although
still very much so!). Nevertheless, our expectations include a bachelor's
degree, a mission of one kind or another, and that he will work and pay for it
all himself. He has a full time good job, and he's going to college part
time as he can afford it. I think way too many parents have just decided to
throw up their hands. You have to set expectations, teach them how the system
works, and follow through. You have to stay on top of it. We got him through
high school, we'll get him through this, and he'll wind up with a STEM
degree in a money making, desirable field where he can make a living and support
a family. Even with his issues, he'll be ahead of 60% of the other young
men out there...
Boys and young men need fathers who are a positive role model. A study recently
published showed that boys get better at reading if a man works with them. I
recently retired from teaching in the elementary school, and I could see a big
difference in those children who came from intact homes and those who did not.
If the father remained actively engaged in their sons life, some of the boys did
well. I once had a boy in my classroom who was always getting into trouble. It
about drove me crazy. It wasn't until we did our program at the end of the
years and his father didn't show up that he completely fell apart. I had
never seen him cry before. It was then that I realized that most likely he had
misbehaved because he wanted attention from his father.This was an
"40 percent of all babies these days are born out of wedlock."
What's the demographics of that 40%? Poverty families? Rape? Race?
Background of the mothers? Equally across America?
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