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Published: Wednesday, Jan. 22 2014 12:30 p.m. MST

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South Jordan, UT

I read this blog post a few days ago and I was so beyond inspired! Wow, talk about trials but the author seems pretty amazing and strong. I very enjoyed reading about her and felt incredibly humbled.

Mark from Montana
Davis County, UT

I agree with the idea that God will give you more than you can handle. Six years of torture has convinced me of this. I suppose we learn more from being squashed than we do from any other circumstances. Like being in an olive press.

sandy, ut

I don't think god gives us the trials, they are a natural and random consequence of life. How could god give a person a terminal illness. How could he cause a child to die? No, he isn't the one doing those things.

Eldersburg, MD

Ronnie W.

I appreciate the truths in your response, while also respecting the author. The concept of "handling" trials in life is a subjective proposition.

On one hand, when hard trials occur in a moment, anyone can feel initially hopeless and helpless with not "handling" but instead becoming overwhelmed. It is only when we submit our will to God fully and decide to accept whatever He gives a as response, can we be granted strength beyond ourselves to endure that time.

On the other hand, if the patterns of our lives have allowed the Atonement of Jesus Christ to transform and sanctify us through the strengthening of testimony and conversion, then we can become able to bear the hardest burdens near the moment they occur, if we give these burdens unto the Savior immediately. This is not to say we won't suffer. Rather, we can find the joy of trials more quickly than suffering breaks us down into misery.

I can imagine trials not unlike Job experienced that could be a breaking point for anyone, regardless of spiritual progression in this life. I find it is best not to compare, but extend compassion to everyone.

Eldersburg, MD


If trials are a natural consequence and there is no God, even endure them in the first place? Wouldn't we just give up, or abandon principle entirely and become hedonistic to place pleasure seeking above everything?

If trials are random, why do so many people who experience them testify abundantly later after the suffering has been lifted, they are now much stronger, knowledgeable, etc. to create more meaning, gratitude, and humility in life? Why wouldn't they just instead continue to suffer and harp upon all that went wrong? Is this merely explainable by the differentiation of physical DNA?

If God is real and we know trials are inevitable in life, wouldn't there instead be purpose to these things for us to learn what we cannot understand vicariously? For if we die and are no more, why do so many people suffer, while others seem to coast? There would be no purpose in living at all, except for pleasure.

I submit to you there are things more sure than sight and the physical world. There is a God and you can know Him when you decide to seek beyond what the world has told you.

Lakeland, FL

As this article rightly points out, we need God to helps us through our troubles; we can't do it completely on our own. "... whosoever shall put their trust in God shall be supported in their trials, and their troubles, and their afflictions, and shall be lifted up at the last day" (Alma 36:3).

orem, UT

I tend to agree with the author. I think we hear the phrase "god will not give you more than you can handle" and hear the word "alone" at the end. Then we wonder why we are so beaten about at times in this life. I think no one gets out if this life without traveling through their own dark personal "pit of dispair".

However, I think we are given what we can handle - with the help of God and others. When we fall apart there are people around to help hold us up even if, in our darkness, we cannot see that for a while. This has been my experience anyway.

As to the idea of God giving us trials -
I believe God has put us on this earth with its fantastic, breathtaking beauty and blessings and with its wrenching realities. Whatever we experience is a result of being placed on this earth. I do not believe God makes
us sick, or directs cars to crash. Rather these things happen as a result of life and he is ready and willing to carry the burdens with us, guide us to peace and make us better than we were.

G L W8

I have what admittedly may be a semantic argument. But it seems to me that if we endure a trial beyond our ability to do so, to the point that we put our ultimate trust in God to carry us through--yes, we have handled the trial in the most real of senses. But as the article points out, we must come to that point where we rely on Him to do what we cannot do for ourselves. That has been our own family's experience in some very real trials. These trials are not random nor chance-driven, but are central to the very purpose of life--to give us the experiences that will prepare us for life in the hereafter.

sandy, ut


I never said there was no god. I am confident that there is. I just said I don't think he interferes in our lives, and I sure don't think that he is the one giving us trials. I don't think he gives people cancer, causes people to be handicapped, or deaf, or blind for their own benefit. You are right - when people go through hardships in life (and everybody does) they come through them stronger, more humble, resilient, and much more. People react differently to trials. I will say that those who believe that god gives them trials may have that extra motivation to get through them. That in no way means god created the trial or that he helped them through it. Humans are strong, we bounce back - with or without the belief that god is testing us.

The Scientist
Provo, UT

God does not give anyone anything. God does not exist.

Tom Johnson
Spanish Fork, UT

I appreciate the sentiment of the author that by God giving us more than we can handle, we turn to God and become more humble and learn to know him better than we would without those trials, but, in addition, to 1 Corinthians 10:13, which the author quotes, we also have 1 Nephi 3:7: I know that the Lord giveth no commandments to the children of men save he shall prepare a way for them that they may accomplish the thing which he commandeth them." The key is in whether we turn to God for help in times of trouble--if we do, we will be able to bear it; if we don't we will be broken by it.

Eldersburg, MD


Good differentation.

If God created every living organism and element on the planet, surely He understands perfectly the trials in our physical DNA, life experiences and choices having consequence of momentary or future perils, and the events we cannot forsee. A being omnipresent and omnipotent to create worlds must fully comprehend as the author of trials.

Like you said, that doesn't necessarily mean God reaches down in a moment and torments someone with an awful affliction (not that this doesn't occur as the scriptures testify). Rather, there is a natural order for all of us. We can alter destiny in life by our personal choices, but some events we must experience are independent of free will.

In other words, if God did not provide the opposition required for us to learn by way of trials and suffering, how could we progress, let alone grow to be stronger and appreciate the things in life we might otherwise take for granted?

To understand why bad things happen to people is to recognize they occur for reasons way beyond our mortal understanding. God sees and acts with an eternal perspective. Bad things here could very easily be eternal blessings.

Gail Fitches
Layton, UT

I can sure relate to the author of this story, and there is a lot she has left out. I know because I have felt the same way, and have gone through a simuliar situation. I am almost becoming numb to deal with all of the deaths of those I love and care about the past 10 years. I begged God for a miracle for my Mother and Boyfriend, but what they were given as medications is what killed them. Cancer is off the charts right, and there is cause and effect, and no one is addressing the causes, because it harm the industries that are poisoning us. God gives me the strength to continue, but I am also angry and bitter of what is allowed in our food, water, medications, vaccinations, and the air we breathe that are causing so many people to die before their time. The last 10 years have been so hard, and I know they are going to worse, because nothing is being addressed to stop the causes. Anyway, outstanding article. It brought tears to my eyes reading it.

Las Vegas, NV

Life without trials will be boring and worthless. Trials are part of gods plan for happiness. How can there be happiness if there are no sadness?

Phoenix, AZ

Does god pick the winners and losers at the Las Vegas roulette tables, not likely. So why blame him for mans suffering or fortune. Look to nature, chance and mans imperfections and sublimity for answers.

Salt Lake City, UT

“If you let go a little, you will have a little peace. If you let go a lot, you will have a lot of peace.” ~Ajahn Chah

It's probably just a coincidence, or NOT, that the Bible has 365 references to letting go of Fear. One for each day of the year...

For those of you who don't have God in your life listen to Tolle. Eckhart Tolle believes we create and maintain problems because they give us a sense of identity. Perhaps this explains why we often hold onto our pain far beyond its ability to serve us.

We replay past mistakes (trials, traumas etc) over and over again in our head, allowing feelings of shame, fear and regret to shape our actions in the present. We cling to frustration and worry about the future, as if the act of fixation somehow gives us power. We hold stress in our minds and bodies, potentially creating serious health issues, and accept that state of tension as the norm.

Let go...and let God. This literally probably saved my life.

Phoenix, AZ

USAloner, excellent advice; but it is easier said than done. It is a bit like saying: to solve your problem just don't be yourself. However, if you have a doe able way to implement it, Ihope you will share it. thx.

Salt Lake City, UT


If it was easy, everyone would do it, and no one would suffer for a day beyond what is necessary, right?!?!
It sounds like you don't believe in God. I do. Big time. So, my help would be biased. I would refer you to the Buddhist teachings of Allowance and Acceptance. Tara Brach is a PhD and Buddhist teacher and you can find her free podcasts online.

Good healing!

City, Ut

Oh Kayla. Thanks for sharing. I have really learned from you. I think I will always remember your words. I hope you find peace.

Taylorsville, UT

Well said, I also have pondered on the scripture which says we are not tempted above which we are able.I've found that I have been tempted above which I am able if I don't use the tools around me, including God, friends, scriptures, and many other things, I don't have (and I don't think anyone) has strong enough free will. So, it is a measure of strength to rely on God, not weakness.

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