Anyone who has survived (or is currently stuck in) a YSA ward where women
greatly outnumber men live this scenario every day of their lives. As the author
of "Confessions of a Latter-day Virgin" so aptly described it-women hit
each other over the head with their trays of freshly baked cookies and stab each
other in the back in their efforts to impress the two or three active priesthood
holders who know how valuable they are as eligible bachelors in the game. No
obstacle too great...except temple marriage.
Can I just ask--especially considering it's MLK day--WHY with an article
focused on women and competition, does Deseret News choose a picture of two
Latina looking women? Why not at least 1 caucasian woman? Honestly--I looked
at the picture, and the title of the article--and all I thought was "racial
profiling? Really?" In this day and age, think outside the proverbial box
of representing women and competition please!
I respect the researchers for their academic sills, but does it really take a
study to find that women are often aggressive to one another and that this is
damaging? Women are far more adept at manipulation and it can be very
insidious. I am so lucky I have worked primarily with men -- much easier to
know where I stand and get a straight answer.
The words to the song by Tom Jones, She's A Lady, started playing over and
over in my mind. After reading the story.
Competition is a necessary attribute among men, women, and children, it
establishes an order of ascension that is inherent with being an animal with
survival instincts and a brain. Competition has no religious bearing and it even
exist in religious organizations so its an inherited instinctual trait we all
have to acknowledge and adjust to. Its a reward system and the meaning of the
origin of species and survival of the fittest even in human realm.What sets women and girls apart from men and boys is that instincts are the
rule of law. Women have been in competition to attract the male since god
divided man to create a woman. Every aspect of a woman's life is devoted to
be better and more desirable than their friends and co workers and siblings. Its a mans nightmare when women go into battle, sports excluded. A
woman's purpose by instinct is to be a threat to each other and there is no
peaceful solution. Polygamy takes advantage of this instinct in home and the
workforce and why women accept it is puzzling. Even with intelligence,
education, and world full of opportunity, competition among women is personal.
In a "Christian" (utopian) culture, this type of behavior is damaging to
individuals and the group as a whole. We are counseled to love one another, but
the competitiveness and aggression many women engage in, sadly, puts us at odds
with one another. Is pride or insecurity to blame? I feel we are less Christian
when we give into these aggressive impulses, which men do not always recognize,
but women can certainly feel and suffer from. Is this one reason some LDS women
feel depressed. And while many people have a certain personality type and shared
traits, God did not make us all the same. We need to stop punishing those who
have a different story or talent set - especially those that are trying to build
the kingdom in ways that vary from the majority.
In the sports world I would rather watch a lousy boys game then a good girls
game. Go to girls game to get good seat for boys game. Not as fast paced