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Published: Saturday, Jan. 18 2014 5:00 a.m. MST

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george of the jungle
goshen, UT

Self discipline to have meaning in your life is a life to live for.

gmlewis
Houston, TX

The most common lie is answering "No" to the question "Does this make me look fat?" After 40 years of marriage, I get away with truthfully answering "Yes" on rare occasions because I routinely give dozens of compliments a week on my wife's wardrobe and appearance when it is true. Speaking the truth is easy if you find every opportunity to say positive things.

Of course when you must say a negative, it is worth the effort to focus on any positives that go with the negative. If your daughter flunks her spelling test, you can at least compliment her on her expansive verbal vocabulary, and then urge her to practice harder on the spelling.

Rikitikitavi
Cardston, Alberta

As a volunteer seminary teacher for over six years I discussed difficult situations with my class: you are with friends and YOU are not the driver but you find yourself innocently at someones home and the parents are away. Booze, drugs or whatever nasty appears and the driver will not leave. Even if you have to tell your friends you are not feeling well, call your Mom or Dad to come and get you. In the future simply avoid these "friends". But for now just get out.

skeptic
Phoenix, AZ

In America people spend over twenty percent of their days living lies, telling lies and receiving lies and with the expansion of telecommunications, politics global markets and religion the percent is rapidly growing.

Kazbert
VAIL, AZ

It would be easier to be direct in answering questions if people would be direct in forming the questions. If the question is loaded up like a minefield, the person asking it isn’t going to get a direct, honest answer.

I used to pride myself on being fully honest. But I’ve learned that part of answering a question honestly is understanding what the person is really asking. The “Does this make me look fat?” question usually isn’t asking for a critique of the clothing but a acknowledgment of personal worth. In telling her, “No. You look beautiful” I’m not lying. I’m answering the question behind the question. And we both know that.

Craig Clark
Boulder, CO

Carried to the extreme of a truth fetish is not only making a big fuss over very little. It makes someone so annoying to be around that you wish they would go find a book to read. We all know the difference between a lie with malicious intent and the ones that comes in handy when telling the truth causes more trouble than it’s worth and comes at the expense of common sense.

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