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Published: Thursday, Jan. 2 2014 3:25 p.m. MST

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Mchenry, IL

Why marry in what state and live in another?

Lane Myer
Salt Lake City, UT


Mchenry, IL

Why marry in what state and live in another?


It's never happened before, has it? No one has ever gone to Las Vegas to be married, even though they do not live in NV!

These two actually lived in CT, but when they broke up, one moved to Utah. Maybe she has family here? Maybe her job transferred her here? Who knows why.

Mr. Smitty
Salt Lake City, UT

Someone wrote, "I sure wish liberals would stop being hypocrites and start including polygamists rights in their fight for equality. "

I might be open to the right of people to marry multiple people; however, I am also open to arguments demonstrating that it may harm people, which is an argument that doesn't work for gay marriage. If the argument doesn't hold any water, I'll accept it.

If more and more men marry multiple women, it means that more and more men would have less opportunity to marry. I think marriage is healthy, so shrinking the population of available women would probably do harm to society. But, again, I'm open to contrary views.

The bottom line is this: gay marriage and polygamy are two different things. So far, no one can make a reasonable argument that gay marriage should be banned. I'm not sure about polygamy. I haven't thought about it and researched it enough to have a strong opinion either way.

Here, UT

@Breathe Deep;

Facts are important. Flawed studies lead to incorrect conclusions. Incorrect conclusions lead to incorrect actions (like Amendment 3, for instance). Should we continue to let people think the Earth is still flat? If he isn't going to cite his sources, he's probably just blathering.

@Lane Myer;

I know, isn't it just amazing? Straight couples are born, live and die in the same state and never, ever go anywhere else. It just boggles the mind.

Cowboy Dude

If marriage is a state issue, than divorce should be a state issue.

Phoenix, AZ

"There will be an influx of Homosexual and Lesbians couples filing for divorce within a few years."

These people can avoid the vicissitudes of divorce. The need for same-sex marriage is mostly for companionship. That can be had very easily without marriage. And separation is a snap because there's no divorce. Just wave good-bye. With heterosexual marriage the primarily goal is to give birth and rear children. Children survive best in a stable long-term relationship albeit some heterosexual marriages end in divorce... which seems to be increasing year after year.

"You... such a romantic fool (sarcasm) Kind of crude and vulgar btw (no sarcasm)"

Crude/Vulgar? (sarcasm) Try imagining how SSM's consummate marriages. (no sarcasm)

Leesburg, VA

SSM is a work in progress. As long it is done state by state we will find these discrepancies.
The SCOTUS (forget Congress)should come out with a ruling for the whole country. As long as states have reciprocity for the so called "traditional marriage", that reciprocity should be extended to all legal marriages.

(Activist) Passive Aggressive authorities who oppose SSM will delay any action that may benefit the implementation of SSM or Divorce for those couples.

It will take time but we are getting to "Equality". Actually faster than anyone would have predicted.

It is a good time to be alive.

Mr. Bean
Phoenix, AZ

@Mr. Smitty:
"If more and more men marry multiple women, it means that more and more men would have less opportunity to marry."

How many men have been killed in all the wars of the world? My guess is in the hundreds of millions. How many woman? Probably a few hundred. Leaves a perpetual sex imbalance. Don't you have concerns for the many women who can't find husbands because potential mates have been killed in wars? Further, women live longer than men... by as much as 10 years in some societies.

Besides the Christian Holy Writ says: "In that day (last) seven women will take hold of one man and say, 'We will eat our own food and provide our own clothes; only let us be called by your name to take away our disgrace.'" Isaiah 4:1

Go figure.

John Pack Lambert of Michigan
Ypsilanti, MI

The claims in this article are hogwash. Since the state does not recognize the relationship at all, this lady had the much easier option of ignoring it as well. The state would not in any way act to enforce her "marriage" and so she would not in fact be married.

Stop believing false spin. This person was not in a bad situation, but people locked into same-sex marriage contracts will find it hard to ever truly get away, as happened to a lady in Vermont who eventually fled to Nicaragua to avoid being forced to continue some connection to the relationship.

John Pack Lambert of Michigan
Ypsilanti, MI

Actually, it was the top Massachusetts court, not a federal court, that ruled in favor of same-sex marriage. A federal ruling in favor of same-sex marriage did not happen until 2010 after Prop 8, before that all rulings had been in state courts.

Mission Viejo, CA

John Pack Lambert of Michigan, in 18 States that recognize marriage equality, it does matter. And it matters for Federal law. Ignoring the marriage doesn't mean it goes away. Just because you don't want to recognize it, doesn't mean government entities don't. The problem is most states have residency requirements before you can get a divorce. This left these two women in a bind.

Also, please be honest about the Vermont case. The woman illegally kidnapped a child of whom she no longer had custody.

the old switcharoo
mesa, AZ

Oh how simple it would be to go back to living conservative logic that doesn't have to be consistent nor make sense.

Gay divorce means gay marriage is illogical? Mmmmm, lets ponder that about ALL marriages.

Salt Lake City, UT

Why would this lady want a divorce? Just move out and move on.
Would you give that same advice to a straight woman with no kids at home....like your mom or daughter/granddaughter? What about community property or alimony? If your mom left your dad, would you be OK with her moving out with just the clothes on her back with no alimony community property?

These people can avoid the vicissitudes of divorce. The need for same-sex marriage is mostly for companionship. That can be had very easily without marriage.
Gays want SSM for the same reason heterosexuals do...to provide legal and financial stability for each other and to provide a stabile environment in which to raise children. Why is this so hard to understand and accept?

truth in all its forms
henderson, NV

First they want to get married, now they want to get divorced? Why cant the gay community make up there mind?

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