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Published: Thursday, Jan. 2 2014 3:25 p.m. MST

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Kearns, UT

"Never heard traditional marriage proponents state that their happiness depended on the law allowing them to marry."

1.) They were never compelled to say that because the law has always allowed them to marry.

2.) Perhaps you have never attended an LDS meeting, gone to a wedding, or talked with an engaged couple. I hear all the time how much marriage makes people happy.

Sandy, UT

So... am I supposed to feel sorry for these ladies? Let's get something straight. I don't agree with same sex marriage. I also don't agree with people simply getting divorced because they changed their minds 10 months later. Accept responsibility for the "rights" that you demand access to.

Salt Lake City, UT

I recently saw research from Massachusetts that were showing that since gay marriage has been legal there for ten years, that their divorce rate has declined. As to whether or not that had anything to do directly with gay marriage being legal there is not certain. But it stands to reason that it does. However, in any state in the U.S, divorce is legal, so I feel for this couple. It stands to reason that both marriage and divorce should be legal everywhere.

Dr. Thom
Long Beach, CA

Not so much as one would think.

If a marriage (or any activity) is recognized in one state and not in another, then the couple in question would have to go back to the state in which the marriage was established and apply for divorce in that state. If plural marriage is legal in Utah, and the couple moves to a state where it is not legal the same would hold true. This will be a can if worms in record time...

Now about the legalization of marijuana in one state and not another.........

Tempe, AZ

This liberal has no problem with polygamy as long as it's between consenting adults.

The people saying that people will be able to marry kids or animals are fools. No one is fighting to marry anyone that isn't a consenting adult. The fact that you have to act like this is any kind of argument is telling.

This article isn't about gays not thinking they have to deal with alimony or any of the other pains of divorce. This woman is complaining that she doesn't have the right to divorce in any state. That's it. She's right to be upset about that.

To the people saying "the will" of the people is what we should be rules by, you obviously have no clue what the constitution is for. If we ran government by popular rule, a majority of people could take your home away if they felt like it. However the Constitution PROTECTS you from the will of the people. Homosexuals are PROTECTED by your bigoted opinions concerning their rights.

You people will be look upon the same way that people who were against civil rights are looked upon today.

St. George, UT

The divorce rate in the states that allow gay marriage is 20 percent lower than in states that prohibit it. The state with the lowest divorce rate, Massachusetts, was also the first state to legalize same-sex marriage, in 2004. (Massachusetts’s divorce rate has actually declined since then.) Of the 15 states with the highest divorce rates, all ban gays and lesbians from marrying.

Overall, the divorce rate among same sex couples is roughly half that of opposite sex couples.

I guess conservatives could learn a thing or two about successful marriages from liberals and homosexuals.

Phoenix, AZ

"A federal court ruling striking down Utah’s law defining marriage as between a man and a woman made it possible for same-sex couples to legally marry. It also made it possible for same-sex couples to file for divorce."

This is way to funny! Welcome to the world of marriage.

Why would this lady want a divorce? Just move out and move on. And if she wishes to shack up/move in with someone else, just do it. Forget the marriage. Marriage is primarily to birth and raise children. In same-sex relationships this objective/goal is either nonexistent or way down the line in relevance. The main purpose of same-sex marriage is companionship and you don't need marriage to engage in/get companionship. And it makes separating much, much easier.

Phoenix, AZ

"As far as polygamy goes, that is another battle for another day."

No. Polygamy and all other types of marriage combinations are the issues of the day as well as same-sex marriage . If one divergence of marriage beyond heterosexual is allowed, to be fair all types of marriages should be in the offing.

"Once you go beyond two people in a contract, then you have a wide variety of issues to address ranging from custody, inheritance, multiple people on a health policy, and so on."

These issues are easily solved... by prenuptial agreement or other types of contracts. Divorce courts can easily handle these issues. As for multiple people on a health policy, that happens now... for a family with children, even up to age 26 per the ACA.

Provo, UT

No. Facts that make someone look bad are hateful, bigoted, racist and BAD facts.

Karen R.
Houston, TX

Further evidence that homosexuals are no different than heterosexuals...

Dave D, thanks for your response to Socorny. It was spot on.


I suspect that Taylor is right. There will be an influx of Homosexual and Lesbians couples filing for divorce within a few years. As I said before, when the dust settles, reality sets in, and people soon realize that there is no magic in maintaining stable healthy relationships. The problems that plague married couples will be the same for Homosexuals and Lesbians as it is with a man and a woman. I think they will be more severe because a man can't be a woman, and a woman cannot be a man.

Here, UT

Ah, Christopher B, you don't understand how equal treatment works, do you?

You people seem to expect a higher standard from LGBT people than you do from yourselves. Gay/Straight, we all marry for the same reasons. Gay/Straight, when we divorce, it'll be for the same reaons.

@DN Subscriber 2;

Is it so difficult to treat a same-sex couple the same as an opposite-sex couple? Why?

@Mike Richards;

We are fully aware of the rights and risks associated with marriage. We weren't born yesterday. We actually make our decisions after thoughtful consideration, since it is generally pretty difficult for us in the first place. And it wouldn't surprise me in the least, if at some point down the road, the numbers are comparable.


Citations please.

Bluffdale, UT

oragami, "..Massachusetts, was also the first state to legalize same-sex marriage, in 2004."

Massachusetts never legalized same-sex marriage, a Federal judge did. Mass had laws against same-sex marriage until a judge overruled.

Just a little but big clarification.

Bob A. Bohey
Marlborough, MA

@ DN Subscriber 2: "More slippery slope stuff from messing with a natural and fundamental definition which had served civilization well for thousands of years." Do you realize that arranged marriages were the common method for pairing couples up until about the 19th century?
I didn't think so. It never ceases to amuse me that stringent supporters of "traditional marriage" no so very little about which they speak.


Razzle2 said, "Massachusetts never legalized same-sex marriage."

Good point.

Massachusetts is not so socially liberal (as the west coast, while even California voted to ban SSM.) We are now the most Catholic state in the U.S. at 45% of the population. The Catholic Church does not support SSM nor does it support divorce or abortion.

I lived in Boston when the Massachusetts law was turned over. With the Catholic Church and Romney as governor we were shocked that our laws could crumble by a court decision.

By the way, Razzle2, although it was not the people of the Commonwealth or the Massachusetts legislature, it was not a Federal Judge that overturned the law either; it was the Commonwealth's own Supreme Court.



I think the resurgence of the Catholic Church in Massachusetts, which is against divorce, has more to do with the low divorce rate than the same-sex marriage rule.

Happy Valley Heretic
Orem, UT

@Canyontreker: Mass is also 48 in the nation in live births, so is it really good Catholics (who believe it a sin to use birth control) that are causing a change? I mean Utah is number one, so not worried about a decline in Utah child bearing because of gay marriage.

Even 50% of 5% isn't going to compare to the male/female divorce rate, so maybe get your house in order before worrying about people who are used to fighting for every right they receive, instead of just having it by being born.

Breathe Deep
Eagle Rock, ID

What a Gay couple getting divorced? According to some people on here, Gay marrage is the epitome of society.

Leesburg, VA

I wouldn't be surprised that in a state like Utah where SSM came so suddenly and many couples rush to marry fearing that the window of opportunity to marry could close quickly. Probably, you will find some higher than normal rates of divorce. But, once it becomes the norm, only then we will be able to make some reliable studies.

"So... am I supposed to feel sorry for these ladies?". No! they don't even know who you are.

@ wrz
"Why would this lady want a divorce? Just move out and move on. And if she wishes to shack up/move in with someone else, just do it." You... such a romantic fool (sarcasm) Kind of crude and vulgar btw (no sarcasm)

Breathe Deep
Eagle Rock, ID

@ Ranch
Why should CDL list citations? It appears from your past posts that when they are given you discredit them as being flawed in some ridiculous manner?

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