Comments about ‘'Get Married and Be Submissive': Controversial book teaches brides the art of submission’

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Published: Wednesday, Dec. 18 2013 1:00 p.m. MST

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ThornBirds
St.George, Utah

Don't see this making any best seller list.
Those purchasing it will likely soon toss it into their box headed for the local charity.

dski
HERRIMAN, UT

Good for the author. Our opinions as Americans are not the only ones that count in the world. The same folks who promote diversity are the same ones who are up in arms for diversity of opinions. I will not buy the book but I respect the right to put it out there. Good article!

Strider303
Salt Lake City, UT

What I find fascinating, to quote Mr. Spock, is the response by people who do not agree with the author's point of view or her philosophy on a wife's role in marriage. I do not understand why those who disagree need to behave in such a juvenile immature way of destroying a book,or books, in public or calling for a ban on it.

Maybe someone who holds a contrary point of view would articulate their view in a book and work to promote it. The interested public could avail themselves of both, or various, points of view. Those with no interest in the matter could move on with their lives.

For those who disagree with the book's premise to throw a public "hissy fit" over a book some may not have even read, seems a bit immature.

Talk of banning a book because of content, which according to the article does not incite the public to riot, violence nor endanger morals, life or fortune, appears to be a bit totalitarian in nature.

On the up side, the publicity probably is good promotional press for book sales.

AT
Elk River, MN

Quote: 'If you only do what is right for you, what you think, then you are not married to a man, you are married to yourself. Instead of doing that, you should submit to him,'

So, a wise husband would read this, swap the gender and pronouns (e.g., "him" to "her"), see that it applies to him as well, and act accordingly.

MercyNLovelie
USA, CA

What a disappointment! A misrepresentation of righteousness - and in God's name, too - really hurts the credibility of His Word. You can't "change" someone else, and being critical of one's spouse hurts both of them. I can only guess this author had a blissful marriage to which she gives her actions all the credit.

I think the best advice on marriage I ever received was: "Be champions to one another's self-esteem." (Hubby and I know that was excellent advice because we're still happily married!)

Also, God never gave people - even husbands and clerics - authority to override Him. Women must discern between righteousness and selfishness, they don't "submit" just because they are women. That would violate God's commandment, "Thou shalt have no other Gods before me." I'd ask the author - honestly - WHO do you think Paul wanted the women to "learn" from? God puts responsibility on the men too, don't you agree?

Brave Sir Robin
San Diego, CA

The only thing wrong with this advice is that it's only 50% complete. Wives SHOULD submit to their husbands...but also, husbands SHOULD submit to their wives.

The best bit of advice I've ever heard is that both partners in the marriage should both truly value the needs and wants of the other before their own. If both can do this, their marriage will be successful. All divorce is rooted in selfishness by one partner or both.

So yes, wives, submit to your husband....but only if he submits to you too.

JT4
Salt Lake City, UT

This is great! Wonder if I can convince my wife of it....

Seriously, though, I agree with "AT", And the reason my wife and I have a fantastic marriage is precisely because we feel that both of us need to try to do good for the other. As we have become less and less self-centered over time, our marriage has gotten commensurately better. Funny how applying the Second Great Commandment to marriages and families works better than any other philosophy ever espoused.

Sasha Pachev
Provo, UT

I assume the people who ripped up the book bought it first. Then other who feel the same way will also want to rip it up, but again they have to buy it first - I imagine the publisher will not give them free copies just for the purpose of ripping. At the same time others will be curious about what it is that created such a stir. Maybe that was the intent of the book to begin with - share a message with a little bit of controversy threaded in to make people more passionate.

The book might be a bit off, but it has a good point - our modern feminist zeal is not conducive to building a strong marriage.

Shane333
Cedar Hills, UT

I don't like the notion of one spouse being subservient to the other.

On the other hand, if we changed the words "submit to your spouse" to "serve your spouse" instead, and applied it to BOTH spouses, marriages all over the world would be much stronger.

Liberal Ted
Salt Lake City, UT

How about both husband and wife submit to God first, then serve each other in righteousness.

Downtime
Saint George, UT

This will go over really well with the hyphenated last name crowd.

t702
Las Vegas, NV

"The Washington Times reported that feminists in Italy have staged a public demonstration, tearing up copies of the book in protest." Just another example how close minded liberals are. If two adults choose to live that way, who are we to tell them otherwise? Get a life people!

procuradorfiscal
Tooele, UT

Re: "Controversial book teaches brides the art of submission"

I may buy it.

If my wife lets me.

spring street
SALT LAKE CITY, UT

@t702

right, heaven knows a conservative has never burned a book and that since none ever have done that means all conservatives are the same. oh wait.

FDRfan
Sugar City, ID

Now I know what I should get my wife for Christmas.

antodav
TAMPA, FL

A book that actively promotes unrighteous dominion and even wrests the scriptures to do so at a time when marriage and the daily are already under attack from all sides in society. Yeah, that's all we need right now. Thanks.

antodav
TAMPA, FL

*marriage and the family.

Sorry about the typo.

I M LDS 2
Provo, UT

I recall one of my aunts had a book published by Deseret Book years ago, called "Fascinating Womanhood". It, too, was all about women submitting to their husbands. My aunt loaned it to my mother, and it so offended my mother that she wouldn't talk to my aunt for years.

I doubt this book will fare much better than "Fascinating Womanhood".

E Sam
Provo, UT

And here I was looking for the perfect present. . .

Furry1993
Ogden, UT

Women are not slaves, and should ever be told to act as slaves. This book promotes unrighteous dominion and, as such, it should be immediately and strongly rejected and condemned. I don't advocate banning or destroying it, but I advocate giving it the attention and support it deserves by totally ignoring it.

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