What a silly article. There needs to be a follow-up study that figures out how
many of these bullied spouses have major soending problems. Money is the biggest
conflict in my marriage. My wife is so smart and talented, yet after years of
discussion she just can't keep a budget to save her life. Luckily I make a
good enough income now that she can't spend it all. If I made less than
six figures we'd be ruined.
I wonder how many couples -- committed or otherwise -- discover that one of the
partners is a complete and utter spendthrift. As in "You can't tell
me that all ten pairs of these shoes are necessary?" "Of course they
are not all necessary."
When I saw this article I would curious as to what bullying meant. I know
people who spend very irresponsibly. If such a person is married to a person
who is responsible with money, the irresponsible person might think they are
being bullied if their partner insists they change their ways.Some
advice to people who are considering getting married. Check out the other
persons credit score and find out how much debt the other person has. This may
seem un-romantic but if the prospective mate doesn't know how to handle
money, the marriage will likely end up in divorce any way or worse this the
irresponsible spending habits could cause a lifetime of misery.
Having some money is the object, the objective. I hate the words goal and
budget. I try to use words like limits and boundary not crossing the line.
That's where things get lost in translation.
I'm assuming this article is about unmarried non financially obligated
couples in this farce of a story.The author has omitted all
reference to marriage committed adults with or without children that may or may
not be the biological parents of with no shared obligations of debt or household
costs.No obligation is always the center of breakups and civil
disorder among unmarried relationships to have a bed mate. Bedding each other is
a convenience and expected benefit of each partner but that doesn't pay the
bills or promote the well being of the home.You can' gloss it
over like the author has done in the article, conflict and sharing is always the
stress of cohabitation, which is an unhealthy lifestyle for any couple and
children to cope with. Children never feel like they are a part of the parents
lives, and children grow up with no identity or self worth and value their lives
with little regard. Children are not proud people when strife and sharing is a
mine and yours divided diversity of cohabitation where both bully each other.