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Published: Monday, Nov. 25 2013 12:00 p.m. MST

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sandy, ut

I would bet that it is family pressure that is making the guy want to get married in the temple. Sad as it is, I would put money on it. If people would just let others live and believe as they please with no consequences if they don't think as you do then all would be good.

West Valley City, UT

IF this guy suddenly wants to get married after 2 months of dating and suddenly wants to get married in the Temple after not being active, I'd have to question this guy. He sounds flighty and subject to impulses instead of thought.

Here, UT

Two months is not all that much of an "investment". Seriously.

Here, UT


Jesus said it best: "You reap what you sow."


To be fair, he may not have known how deeply he felt about getting married in the Temple until he fell in love. You can’t enter a relationship with anyone and expect that they will never change. Both partners will change over time. What would have been unfair would be if he kept his true feelings hidden until after the two married. There has to be honesty or there can’t be any trust.

The advice I’d give to “Now What” is to make it clear to this guy that she has no intention of resuming being an active LDS, but that she will be as supportive as she can be of his returning to activity if that is what he wants so long as he doesn’t pressure her to do likewise. If he can’t accept that, then the relationship is over, and she should feel lucky to have found out about this *before* they got married.

layton, UT

RE: Temple marriage ,Colossians 2:20-23(AMP)… [Why do you submit to rules and regulations?—such as]:
21 Do not handle [this], Do not taste [that], Do not even touch [them],22 Referring to things all of which perish with being used. To do this is to follow "human precepts and doctrines”

.23 Such [practices] have indeed the outward appearance [that popularly passes] for wisdom, in promoting self-imposed rigor of devotion and delight in self-humiliation and severity of discipline of the body, but they are of no value in checking the indulgence of the flesh (the lower nature). [Instead, they do not honor God but serve only to indulge the flesh.]

Montrose, CO

If that desire is truly in his heart, it sounds like he would sincerely like to spend eternity with you and your posterity. Personally when it came to a choice for me, I loved my wife and kids so much I took the plunge, and have never been happier. But it is a commitment, and if neither of you are up for that commitment, then don't do it. It will only bring you a lifetime of happiness if you abide by your covenants, and why would one want such joy unless they're a fanatic? Like me and my wife. Hope you see your way clear to study, learn, commit, and go for it, but, on the other hand.........

Mchenry, IL

Get married. You can sealed after at some point. For goodness sakes dead people are sealed by proxy. Most early members did marriage ceremonies separate from sealings. In some countries you do the marriage publicly first, then get sealed. You need to determine if your home will be a place where you go to church and practice religion.

A Scientist
Provo, UT

Religion even poisons relationships.

Cedar Hills, UT

@The Scientist,

Consider your comments.
You suggest that the Bible contradicts LDS doctrine, yet you don't believe, "in any of this religious persnickety-ness," and haven't cited anything to support your argument anyway.
You suggest that you've committed to your wife forever, then express doubt as to the existence of an afterlife while at the same time dictating terms to God just in case....
If you doubt the existence of God or an afterlife, it seems like priesthood authority is far down the list of things to concern yourself about.
I sincerely invite you to pray and establish a relationship with your Heavenly Father. Until you have a relationship with Him, the rest of the discussion is moot for you.

A Scientist
Provo, UT


I have tried for over twenty years.

God is moot as well as mute.

I don't come by my atheism lightly.

Potsdam, 00

Oh boy, I guess am not used to this kind of stuff.
A lot of people in here need to repent, don't they?

Let me define my view and if you two happen to read this then stick to it, if you can.

The idea of temple marriage got to you not because of your faith or mormon believe,
but because of the love that you never felt before, is that not so ?

You can struggle all the mountains in the world you want, you can achieve all the faith you may desire, but this little light that you both have discovered is more worth than all of this talking in here, remember when it is too late, take a hold of it now.

1. invite Heavenly Father as to be your new home
2. take your time to talk about anything, everything, anywhere, seek perspective
3. tempel will meet you on the way, don't listen to people listen to your new family
stick to love, nobody can pay for the loss if you listen to others
4. never loose the battle for each other, the church is about that(people not know)


Okay, so if this woman does NOT want to get married in the temple, then just what are her plans for the next life---and in the resurrection? Just conveniently avoid it for the rest of her life and then hope it all goes away? I heard about someone with cancer who did that---ignored it and didn't have it treated. They are no longer here today. We all make choices in this life. We have to lie in the beds we make.

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