There's a decent chance, C, that this kid wasn't yet 21, and therefore
not legally a full-fledged adult in most people's eyes (and in many cases,
the law's eyes, as well). I think parents should, if they can and to the
point they can, HELP their kid who is going to college. But you're right on
other points. If they were paying all that stuff while the kid didn't work
and spent his spare time pretending to be a rock star, that's just wrong.
I've pushed the envelope, I knew what the limit was and when I crossed the
line. I learned the consequences, It's part of growing up.
Dave AND this kid's parents have missed the problem. The parents
shouldn't have been supporting this college-age-"kid" to begin
with. He's not a kid - he's an adult. Parents shouldn't be
supporting their "adult kids", period, whether they're going to
college or not. That's half the reason why this "kid" decided to
have a band and drop out without telling mom and dad - because he wasn't
footing any of the bill for his schooling or living expenses, sounds like, so he
did not appreciate what he had and he figured no big deal, he'd just drop
out. Had he been working and putting himself through school (with maybe a teensy
bit of HELP from mom and dad), this could have been an entirely different
story.Furthermore, to Dave and these parents, and I quote, "as
far as paying for his rent, utilities, gas, food and cell phone bill?" they
shouldn't have been doing that to begin with. College or no college. The
problem and the advice have both missed the mark.