My kids always knew they had to get through some of this stuff on their own. A
lot of it. We're working to keep 'em fed, and that often doesn't
come with helicopter parent time. And that's OK. My parents seldom had time
to mess with school stuff.
I would love to *not* be there sometimes, but I am in a position that I can be,
so the teacher has some adult help. At this point, I don't know if my
youngest (5th grade) would even care if I'm there or not. I do continue
showing up because I like it and the teacher needs additional help but it
doesn't validate or invalidate me as a parent if I'm not there for
As a working mom, I did my best also in trying to attend what I could. I managed
to make it to most of the programs and performances my kids were in but I just
couldn't make it to all the class room activites. My kids understood.
However, parents weren't always as understanding. During one classroom
activity one parent actually told our son that we weren't good parents to
him since we seldom made it to classroom activites but since he was there for
his son, he would just have to take our place. Nedless to say, it was a tough
time at our house that evening. I probablly could have done more class
activities if I was the chief of police and my office was accross the street
from the school.