It seems like the experience taught Jason a valuable lesson. That’s a
good thing. But still feeling regret over it 10 years later misses the mark in
my book. There is not a single thing anyone of us can do to or for someone else
that could cause that someone to be denied the saving Grace of Christ. How
could we possibly think that Christ would give us, imperfect sinners all, the
power to determine another person’s salvation? If Jason’s
“Mike” would have changed his life for the better had Jason shared
his faith at that moment 10 years earlier, then Mike will be judged by his
heart, which is the same way we are all judged. It is true that we find joy in
leading others to discover Christ’s saving Grace, but we don’t
personally have the power of salvation or damnation. Learn life’s
lessons, but then move on. Refusing to forgive ourselves is just another way of
denying Christ’s power to forgive, heal, save, and redeem us.
Thank you so much for this article! It was very moving to me, mostly because I
have done the same thing and wished that I had a "do over". You are a
gifted writer and I always enjoy your articles. Thanks again!!!
Just from what I read, there seemed like some ways to interject the Gospel - but
hindsight is always better. Next time, take your wife and I can guarantee you,
she will probably have the nerve to talk and ask and interject some seed of
faith. I say that because my convert wife has often talked with non-members
about her new church life - or has made sure I invited a neighbor to church
when I was very reluctant. I was glad I shared with her after meeting her while
I was traveling and on the road. The 'fear of man' is a great obstacle
to sharing faith for me, feeling like the timing might be off or the context
wrong or I'd be rejected. I did have a captive audience on a plane once
but probably bored this poor guy to death sitting next to me. We can do damage
in sharing too much with too much enthusiasm and too much insensitivity.
I've probably heard those words Wright heard and didn't act on them
too. If you're traveling sometime, just mention you're from Utah, if
you are - always gets a response about Mormons.
Were I golfing with strangers and somewhere around the forth or fifth hole
someone started spouting religious overtures to me I'd have given him a
look like 37 kinds of household poison. It wasn't the time and place.
Sometimes the universe tells me to share some of my agnostic views with people I
know. I just tell the universe to "put a sock in it." I prefer to share
my views anonymously via the internet.
I M LDS 2Provo, UT"Orra"??I've never read
of that in the scriptures nor heard any Church leader preach such a thing.I don't believe in that."I think you are thinking
of the word "aura" - (meaning emanation surrounding someone) rather than
"orra" (meaning separated from a usual pair, odd).Re the
story, how sad when we allow our own foibles to interfere with somebody's
spiritual growth. I'm sure Mike wasn't blottoed - (meaning extremely
drunk) with four beers and perhaps he became quiet and withdrawn because he was
uncomfortable with the reaction to his choice of drink.Perhaps had
he known you were LDS before the refreshment cart he may have had overpriced
Gatorade as well. We'll never know.None of us converts lived
all the word of wisdom before we joined the church and still struggle with the
commandments after baptism. When we are confident and comfortable with who we
are, warts and all, we can more easily accept others for who they are, warts and
By the way Mr.Wright, I love your articles, they are very inspiring, g-d bless.
"Orra"??I've never read of that in the scriptures nor
heard any Church leader preach such a thing.I don't believe in
"When we finished the 18th hole, I'm not certain Mike even remembered
our names or how many holes we’d played."What does this
even mean? The guy has 4 beers in 4+ hours and you think his memory was
shot?Your story would have been just as complete without mentioning
Mikes drink choice. I would bet that the only person affected by his beer was
Our,.. we can see it as what it is, just a beer. The problem sometimes is the
perception of those who drink. We assume that they are evil, not worhy, ignorant
of truth, just because they may choose a beer, or two to drink. I assure you
that we are all Gods children, and if we are not willing to fill each other
hearts with good tidings, because of our egotistic perception of those who
"are not like us", than what are we doing. I often get the same reaction
from my neighbors when I order a drink at dinner. We can be talking about the
beauty of Yeshua, and than I will order a beer, and the conversation will turn
from, spiritual, uplifting, and encouraging conversation, to the Jazz game, lol.
Just because some may desire a drink, does not mean that they are not worhty of
G-d, because I am pretty sure, that if he was here with us at dinner, he too
would order a nice beer, "it is not that which goes into a man that harms
him, but that which comes out"
There is an orra we share when we are together. It changes the orra when the
first bottle of beer is opened and the first swallow is taken. Sails deflate and
reality sets in, that we are no longer together, I'm me, he is who he is.
Alcohol is a mind alternating drug in more ways than just for the one drinking.
What a wonderful and uplifting story about courage to do something that is
difficult. I feel the same way about the opportunity to share. I think we worry
about rejection or that we might not say what we mean to say. It shouldn't
be that difficult but it is for me. Others seem to do it without any thought. He
shouldn't be beating himself up for being less than perfect. There will be
another time and he can make up for it. At least he thought about it and that is