What happened in this letter is not bullying, it is an assault. I hope you took
your kid to the emergency room to get the wounds verified and treated. With
video available online, mom should have also immediately called the cops. The
kids involved should be criminally charged and their parents should be paying
medical bills and offering apologies. The definition of bullying is
vague. This instance is premeditated assault and is not bullying. Some of what
is classified as bullying is not bullying, rather it is free speech, but poorly
used. We need to be careful with how we define these terms. One's
constitutional rights, though poorly used, is still a right.Personally, way back in 7th grade, I was bullied and it happened (repeatedly)
right in front of the school office. The school did nothing. I would walk
home, hoping to avoid the bullies, though we lived in the same ward. One day I
finally told my dad. He told me how to defend myself, and I did. He called
their parents and threatened a lawsuit (dad was a lawyer). The bullying
stopped. The "bulliers" apologized, saying they were just having fun
and no harm was intended.
This is way beyond school jurisdiction. Assaults are police matters. Get a
lawyer too, for the personal injury portion. Your son deserves compensation, and
a protection order. Your son shouldn't be the one forced to change schools.
It should be the other kids, or he and you should be compensated for that
too.I am not an injury lawyer fan, but this is a real case and you
need a good one.
Call the district office.Most principals WILL respond, once they get
the call from "on high".Also, check the policies of your
school district. SOME districts take responsibility for the behavior of the
kids both coming and going from school. I'm wondering if the
incident happened "off grounds" so the school doesn't think they
have any responsibility?
Carol, I was so saddened to hear your story. Your son is so lucky to have an
aware and caring mother. You're right. Bullying should absolutely not be
tolerated. I hope your son is doing okay and can get over this. In the meantime,
I do hope you can spin this around to stop further incidents from happening. You
sound like a strong woman who can make a difference. God bless you.
Before the video gets pulled down either try to save it on file somehow and/or
take a camera, run the video and actually film the video. Also, if it happened
at or near the school maybe they have video surveillance. Best wishes Carol to
you and your son.
What happened to your son was outrageous. The principal should immediately
investigate or be dismissed. There's something deeply wrong with the
culture of Utah County.
Carol, I am so sorry this happened to your son. You should go to the police and
file a complaint. If the videotape is still on facebook, show the officers and
ensure that charges are filed against these bullies. Additionally, it may be a
good idea to check into filing charges against their parents as they are
responsible for not teaching their children better. Until incidents like this
are prosecuted, vigorously, they will continue to be a problem.
Talk to the police and to a lawyer. This was a pre-planned assault (pre-planned
since they were ready to film it). They clearly have no remorse or fear of
consequences (proven by their publicizing what they did for the world to see).
The lawyer should be able to tell you if the school or the families of the
bullies are liable for what was done as well or of other charges that could be