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Published: Tuesday, Nov. 5 2013 7:15 a.m. MST

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jeanie
orem, UT

I used to think moms of missionaries needed to chill out a little. They were always talking about their missionaries with such fervor and counting down the days when they would see their son/daughter. I thought I'd be more...well, calm or less giddy, more circumspect.

Because of the change in age, we will likely have our two oldest sons out at the same time here soon. Having not sent a missionary out before I don't know how I will do it. I think (I know) I will be worse than those moms I judged. There is no place I'd rather have my sons and they are anxious to go, but I feel such a hole in my heart when I think of them leaving.

I know there will be blessings and they will come back. I just admire all those families who have made this sacrifice, because it is one.

Mormon Ute
Kaysville, UT

I love this article. My second child is currently out on a mission. She is our daughter and while sending our son out was hard, especially for my wife, having our daughter out is even harder on my wife and I. At the same time it is all about love. The love of God, our Savior, the Gospel and the people being served by our children. We would do this over and over again just for the opportunity to bring eternal happiness to even one other person.

patriot
Cedar Hills, UT

Having served a mission myself and sent sons into the mission field I can say the separation is bitter sweet. You love the fact that they are serving a mission because you know the good it will do for them and for others. The wonderful transformation that takes place for a missionary is unmatched. However you worry too - you can't help it - you see the head lines of 12 missionaries killed this past year and you pause and say a silent prayer for protection for your son or daughter. I think every parent today has to be careful not to focus on those headlines otherwise you would be a nervous wreck and for the vast majority of missionaries everything turns out just fine however you still can't ignore the facts. I have to say I wish the Church would do more to address the safety of missionaries in a public way so parents could feel more at ease.

Nana Rose
Peachtree City, GA

I have been a young missionary some 40 years ago. I have sent 3 sons on missions and I am now a senior missionary missing my family but loving the service. Yes, it often starts out as duty but duty rarely can sustain the effort it takes to stay so it must turn to love. Love of the Savior, love of parents, love for the people you meet and for me, coming full circle, love of the young missionaries whom we watch over. I have learned again in the last 16 months that life "is about what you can do for other people".

Thankful Heart
Bountiful, UT

I cried when I read this article. At this very moment one year ago today, we were at the airport welcoming home our third missionary son. Our great joy at our reunion was mingled with profound sorrow at the loss of our precious son-in-law to a tragic accident two days before.
Our missionary was scheduled to come home only 5 weeks later in December but the Mission President was inspired to encourage him to come home and be with us in our grief, knowing the special peace and spirit that comes with these returning servants of the Lord. As we enfolded him into our arms upon his arrival, it was not hard to envision the sweet reunion on the other side of the veil for our dear Joshua whom we had so recently lost.

There is a great spirit of love and growth that comes with missionary service whether on this side of the veil or on the other side that is beyond compare. Two years is very short in the eternal spectrum of time for such an education.

Farr West
OGDEN, UT

I totally agree that we serve because of love. Many years ago I went on a date with a really sharp young lady that changed my life forever. I was 19 and less active in the Church. I asked for a second date and she asked if I was going to go on a mission. I said, "No. a mission is not for me." She said, "Then I cannot go out with you again." I asked why. She said, "If cannot love the Lord enough to serve him for two years, how can you love me for eternity? That statement from a 16 year old YW who was just beginning to date floored me. About 4 years later, I was active and served a mission for the right reason. I later married a wonderful young lady and we just celebrated our 31st anniversary. CK will probably never know what a difference she made in my life. Yet I will forever be grateful.

emmkwalker
Bakersfield, CA

What a beautiful article. I just put my son in the MTC this past Wednesday. I thought my heart was going to break. These are exactly the words I needed to read this morning. I bawled...I know my son will be a wonderful missionary and this is where he is suppose to be.

islandboy
Honolulu, HI

Yes indeed, love is what it is all about. Reading this article and the accompanying comments took me back to the sacred times when we welcomed back each of our children from their service. Our prayers continue to be with those who are currently serving both young and mature. May God protect and watch over his faithful servants.

esodije
ALBUQUERQUE, NM

I didn't fully appreciate the sacrifice my parents made in sending four sons on missions until we sent our son out. I definitely had mixed feelings--I knew he was where he needed to be, but I was anxious for his safety all the same.

Granny Barton
Woods Cross, Utah

All 6 of my children, 3 boys and 3 girls, have gone on missions. I was always glad to see them go because I figured the Lord could take better care of them than I ever could. The experience, training and spirituality is something that they could not have gotten any other way. They came home strong and capable young men and women who were truly blest for their service. After the last one came home my husband and I went on 3 missions and really learned to love and appreciate the young missionaries.

Oatmeal
Woods Cross, UT

Whoever has been away a long time from a loved one, and them have them return to our embrace, understands the interconnecting power involved in at-one-ment. It is quite simply, a loving relationship.

Are You Kidding
SALT LAKE CITY, UT

Shane is my step-brother and has been living in College Station, TX for awhile now working for Texas A&M University. They are a wonderful family with great kids and have just experienced the finish of that two year miracle (eighteen months for young women) that my family has had the wonderful opportunity of experiencing twice with a son and a daughter. Nothing compares with the time they are out serving and the blessings they receive, the blessings their family receives and the blessings the wonderful people they meet and teach while they are out receive also. I am glad the photo of Connor and his Mom, Amy, hugging at the airport was included in the article. There is nothing like that moment of what I call "The Mom Hug" at the airport. We Dads, sit back and let the Moms and siblings go first and then we get our time for our hug. I wish I could experience it a million times more! I encourage each of you to do everything you can to help and assist others go also, you will never regret it and neither will they or their families.

81Ute
The Middle Of, UT

23 long months until mine comes home.

goode_day
Westminster, CA

"Missionaries leave their families for two years so others can be with their families for eternity." I love this quote and it helped comfort me during my son's two year absence.

OC Fan
Orange County, CA

Thanks to all those parents who send their children to us - we love they joy they bring to us through their missionary service! We know know you miss them while they're gone because we miss them when they're transferred or go home.

WYOREADER
Gillette, WY

I just today received my "Dear Family of Sister..." letter from my daughter's Mission President, along with a picture of her with them! I got through the article OK but I bawled like a baby reading all of your comments! It is so true that sending a daughter is so much more difficult. I sent my son from our little airport here in WY straight to Brazil and was sad but I had been prepared his whole life. When we took our daughter to the MTC it was like ripping my heart right out of my chest to drive away from that curb! She is just 19 and I had not had the time to prepare myself and it hurt!! A funny kind of hurt though isn't it? You know they are doing exactly what they want to do and what the Lord wants them to do and what we want them to do also but it hurts! I love being a missionary mom again! I can hardly wait for that hug! I remember it well from my son when he returned honorably to that same little airport!

Say No to BO
Mapleton, UT

You're not losing a son; you're gaining a car.
Seriously, the most difficult return is the delayed return. Our son was in Brazil and due to come home on 9/12/2001. Needless to say we were on pins an needles, thinking he was part way home a stranded in a South American airport. But the mission held his group of 12 at the mission home and they spent a week eating brownies and pies and watching movies.
He arrived home a week late but safe and sound.

Laura M
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Although it is hard to let them go, the blessings of having them out in the mission field are so great that you would never want them to miss out on that experience! Our missionary son wrote us last week about a spiritual experience so strong that he now feels he KNOWS the church is true. Every week for him is filled with the companionship of the Spirit, and his spirituality and maturity have grown exponentially since he has been out. What other experience could give your child such immeasurable blessings? It's SO worth it!!!

katiefrankie
Tualatin, OR

I decided to go on a mission 10 years ago, much to the surprise of my parents. After I admitted that I didn't like "hot, cold, weird food, talking to strangers, being away from family/friends, being tired, getting up early, riding a bike, knocking on doors, no books/movies of my choice, being away from school, wearing nylons all the time, etc." I STILL wanted to go on a mission. I would break my dad's heart - he is not a member of the Church and really doesn't like Mormons. I would miss my twin sister (and only sibling) getting married. I wouldn't get to study abroad. The guy I really liked might not be there when I got back.

But it didn't change my mind, because I loved the Lord and His Church. So many people who loved me had shared the gospel with my family and now it was my turn to show them how grateful I was for their love. So I went, and it was harder than I anticipated, but that same love carried me through. And that guy I liked went too, and I was there when he got back.

gcrobmd
GADSDEN, AL

When my sons went on their missions, I felt more love for them than I ever thought possible. Love filled our home like never before. When they returned, the Mom-hug moment was unsurpassed in the love that we felt. The missionaries go to familiar or very strange places. They know little about the cultures or peoples, but when they come back they love those people, the language, the culture, the places, the individuals, and the two years they spent serving the Lord. This taste of heavenly love is one of the greatest blessings life has to offer. I suppose our reunion after passing through the veil will be like that. With 80,000 missionaries in the field, loving the people they serve, what a marvelous way to make our Church a global community. What a wonderful way to spread love throughout the world.

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