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Published: Tuesday, Nov. 5 2013 5:00 a.m. MST

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george of the jungle
goshen, UT

A code of conduct.
!. watch what you say.
2. Don't take what any one said to heart or personally.
3. Never assume anything.
4. Always do your best.

SilverRain
Salt Lake City, UT

The beautiful thing about Facebook is that, rather than publicly judging and mocking what interests your friends, or what they think might interest their friends, you can click the little "do not show" button.

When people write these Facebook post moral superiority diatribes, they probably don't realize that THEIR friends may not care about the new deck just built and would rather hear about the amazing soup just ordered.

The Dixie Kid
Saint George, UT

Hopefully Facebook just goes away.

Farr West
OGDEN, UT

Amen! Great job Jason.

Third try screen name
Mapleton, UT

I turned off Facebook a few months ago when Zuckerberg took up the amnesty for illegals cause.
It isn't as easy as it sounds. You have to fill out a form on-line and at the end they'll inform you that the account will remain active for two weeks in case you change your mind.

It freed up 15 minutes a day for me. I don't miss requests from friends for hay for their unicorns in their mindless game.

I discovered that Facebook is NOT an open political forum. People are more than willing to embrace a PC position but not so willing to put their name to an underdog cause.

I do miss the photos of my babies, but there is always e-mail.

And knowing that Facebook survives by selling your information to the NSA and corporations, I'm glad I turned it off.

bigv56
Cottonwood, CA

Please change your profile with a new selfie every other day too,send me dozens of reports and things I must send on to everyone else. Check in so I know where you are eating,. Spew your crazy love four your spouse , boyfriend,girlfriend or dog in embarassing ways. That way I know who to hide.

O,b

Trigotan
Kennewick, WA

If a tree falls in the woods, and nobody hears it, does it make a sound? If you don't like what people are saying on Facebook, you have the magical ability to not consume what they are saying. With a mouse-click or two you can filter out those people who tend to share TMI. Isn't technology amazing? So, rather than expecting the world to conform to what you want, maybe you should take it upon yourself to change your own environment. This was an extremely weak article. I agree that many people share too much on Facebook. I have probably filtered out 90% of my FB friends so I don't see what they post. The author should do the same rather than participating in the whining that he claims to so disdain.

EduardAE
BUENA PARK, CA

The Bill of Rights sets down the privileges of individual citizens and national governance should be for the benefit and convenience of the whole community and the communities of which it is composed. It is not. Today our world of technology is the only known source of miracles. Is it not a sign of the times? For 1000’s of years, the secretive aimless and unsystematic behaviors of past rulers and celebrities have found their ways into our universities. If some of the members of the multitudes have lost a sense of shame, do not blame them. After all, are they not practicing, what they have seen and heard from our modern rulers and celebrities and have these not been educated at our finest universities.

Larry Chandler
CEDAR CITY, UT

Facebook is frequently used for just idle chatter, the way we talk everyday. "Sorry, I'm late, the traffic was terrible and I had to pick up some milk before the store closed." Sometimes people overhear this, but so what? It's not like a formal announcement "John and Mary Smith are pleased to announce the new arrival of a bowl of oatmeal for breakfast." And people can overdo it or misuse it the way you can talk excitedly in public about something that should remain private. People don't always think or care about what they say. So why should Facebook be different? Over time people will edit themselves (or not), but why do others care? What was the point of this post, that people say dumb things? In other breaking news, WWII ended.

caleb in new york
Glen Cove, NY

somewhat lame article. If its so important to Wright to exclude much of the trivial status updates, he's free to unfriend any of his facebook friends who don't live up to his standards of substantive facebooking. I agree that people should be careful about gossip on facebook. Wright's line that "Pictures of your cat wearing a sweater and a fake mustache? Super inappropriate." is almost laughably a bad conclusion. Of course, many might not be interested to see the cat in a costume but there is nothing inappropriate about doing it as long as the cat is not being injured.

I look at facebooking as like a party, maybe even a dance party, where people are acting a little goofy. If you're bugged by a little goofiness, then you are free not to come to the party.

Serenity
Manti, UT

I don't mind hearing what my friends had for breakfast, and seeing someone's cat wearing huge sunglasses is cute as far as I'm concerned. I also like to see pictures of my friends, the weddings in my family and my friends weddings or special occasions. I would never put things on F/B which I didn't want the world to know, but if there was an especially good talk at church, or a new temple is having open house, of course I will say it and share it. I love to keep in touch with my family on F/B and I can send private messages to their page if I choose to do so. I love hearing about birthdays and sending (and receiving) birthday wishes or giving sympathy to friends in need, or just keeping in touch. These conversations are not something you would be embarrassed about if overheard on a bus or even in church. I disagree with this article. True, people should be discrete in what they publish, but it is good to keep in touch by F/B. I do limit my number of friends and have privacy settings on "friends only"

Father of 8
Evanston, WY

I think many of you missed the point a bit. Obviously you are free to post whatever you want, even what you had for breakfast. However, I have many friends and even some family that I would like to know what is going on in their life, but I am not willing to scroll through the thousands of posts of mindless chatter to see the updates about their kids. So I hide it all.

There are a couple of people I know that post things that are wildly inappropriate, and I have let a couple of them know it. If you don't want your spouse to talk about your bad habits with their friends, Why would you think it is appropriate to tell all your Facebook friends about theirs.

As far as your cat, I don't really care, but if you post 500 pictures of your cat, don't be surprised that I didn't know that your kid made the honor roll, because I hid you from my feed.

Lyle
Springville, UT

Funny you should mention breakfast. I have one friend who cooks these wonderful meals, especially breakfast, then describes them so well and so beautifully that your knees go weak. Then you wind up copying him in your kitchen and life is just a little bit better.

LKaumans
CLEARFIELD, UT

Perfect article! I've chosen to hide some people because of their inappropriate posts. Posts like complaining about a neighbor's yard, wondering why the police are at a neighbor's house, complaining about a neighbor's child, complaining about people's actions in church, complaining about a husband's very busy church calling. Posts that do nothing except invite gossip and bad feelings. Why would you ever think it appropriate to complain about your neighbors on Facebook? Especially when it's worded in such a way that everyone in the neighborhood knows exactly who you're talking about. I tried unfriending this particular person (yes, the passive-aggressive way) but that didn't work so I then turned to hiding all posts. I too wish people would stop to think about how their words will affect someone else, before hitting the 'post' button. However, I can only control my own actions, and hide posts from people who can't edit themselves.

RedShirtUofU
Andoria, UT

My favorites are the people that often declare how busy they are and how they can't get anything done. You also have the people that just post "I am so sad today" or "I am so happy today" without any story about what is going on.

perfidemintrepidus
Riverton, UT

Undoubtedly this is a message that should be shared more frequently as society seems to embrace social media and seems to be a centralized focus of networking and modern communication. I agree that certain topics and sentiments should never be expressed in a public format like Facebook. Nonetheless, we must remember that the purpose of social media is to share opinions and not everyone will do so in a respectful, conservative manner. This lesson is most appropriate for teenagers that are opening their accounts for the first time and their parents to teach by example. Tragically, there are many that are enamored with gossip and the providers of that gossip are seeking attention they feel is not being given by those they interact with every day (spouse, children, parents, co-workers, etc.). Although we cannot control the words and actions of others, we can prioritize ourselves and what things we focus on. Furthermore, we should always remember that we should not take offense "when offense was not intended" or choose to ignore, delete, block, or otherwise withdraw from intentionally offensive situations if not directly and personally malicious.

jkcook
Petersaurach, Germany

Dear Jason, Sorry you don't like knowing about your friends. Please don't judge me because I do like to keep in touch with my friends and family members. I do happen to think it's cool that I can know what my family and friends are doing, even the unimportant things. It's like being able to read your grandma's journal and so feeling closer to her through that. If you don't enjoy it, fine, but don't look down at those of us who do.

Magna Ute Fan
Magna, UT

I like fb. It has helped me reconnect with friends from my past that I otherwise never would have. I been able to go on vacation with friends because of fb. I have received tickets to sporting events from friends that I otherwise never would have received.

I have made new friends with people, that were formerly just acquaintances, through fb.

I like to use fb to promote a lifestyle of self reliance, family values, patriotism, and faith.

Most importantly to me, fb helps me to be more connected to my nieces and nephews. I get an additional glimpse into their lives that I otherwise would not have.

Mona
Beaverton, OR

Yeah there's so much of the inane on FB. I've found I can scan through it, skipping over the inane, and be done in a minute or two. And I have hidden all of the games that people invite me to play, so now I don't even have to look at that junk. I do value the connections on FB since I don't live near family or old friends. I have also found it's valuable for family history connections. Distant relatives I never heard of have "found" me on FB. What I can't figure out is why busy moms of many children spend so much time posting. It's absurd to read "omg, my baby just threw up!" So why aren't they tending their baby instead of posting on FB? Sheesh.

Heather Moore
Lehi, UT

I agree that if you wouldn't say something to a roomful of people, then don't say it on Facebook :-) Which is common sense to a lot of us, but not everyone. And pictures of cats... I haven't gone that far yet, but I've been tempted! I have the cutest, fattest, most stubborn cat ever!

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