Published: Tuesday, Nov. 5 2013 12:00 a.m. MST
" Even one child stolen from his or her home is far too many."And here we go again. A shock piece, without the benefit of any numbers to
put the problem in true proportion, and that threatens to put a freeze on
adoptions, has no element of solution what so ever. What does the author
propose? That we leave a thousand needy kids in orphanages because there have
been some ambiguous number of abuses in the system?No parent should
have their child taken from them. Just as in our own justice system that daily
takes children from parents the courts feel are detrimental to the kids welfare.
Surely there too there have been mistakes and abuses of the system. This is
not in debate. But what are you to do... stop removing kids from abusive
environments because a few may be done mistakenly.Lazy journalism
does far more harm then good. Just as with the capital punishment, we know
mistakes have been made.... and yet we don't stop prosecuting murders
because mistakes have been made in the past. You do your best...
that is all you can do. And when injustice happens, you set it straight.
There have always been pitfalls involved in adoptions, and they should be
addressed. We have greater potential now to be vigilant in making sure children
find homes in an ethical, humane and legal manner.I once gave up a
son for adoption. It was many decades ago, and I depended almost entirely on the
word of my OB-GYN. He knew a mom who wanted children desperately. He was certain
of her reliability, sincerity and other qualities one would want for a child to
have. It was true. She was an admirable dedicated mother to both sons she
adopted. The dad was elated too, but he also had an alcohol problems. This had
an adverse impact. I have no idea if it would have been better for the sons to
have been in another home (how does one weigh the positive and negative
aspects?). Of course I had no idea of the problem at the time, and didn't
learn until the son contacted me. He appreciates greatly the childhood he had,
but he is disappointed that his dad let alcohol have a negative impact. All
children should have good homes, but we live in an imperfect world.
" Even one child stolen from his or her home is far too many."A less extreme version of this is Utah's extremely leniant policy on
giving children up for an adoption to the point that there are women who travel
to Utah to give birth and give it up before the father is able to find out and
claim guardianship of the child.
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