Very interesting survey with wild conclusions by those interpreting the data.
There is plenty of sacrifice from both parties in having a "successful"
family life and marriage. People who assume otherwise are either inexperienced
or bitter because they were not able to acheive it. Success in balancing work
with family is always a difficult struggle, and yet it appears that the majority
of people, both male and female, still see it as the most important thing in
life. At least in this survey of only 1000 people, which is really small to be
gleaning any generalities for the larger population.How stupid to
think that this is the result of guys' obsession to want it all.
When I was younger, I worked night and day and frequently had to travel. I was
able to achieve a better work/life balance by taking my family on work trips
with me, driving the car instead of flying. It was a sacrifice, but it was
worth it. I'm now able to work at home 3 days out of 5, and
that is really wonderful. Occasionally during the day I can walk away from the
computer for ten minutes and hold our new baby granddaughter or play with the
older ones. This luxury makes me very loyal to my employer! My
wife has worked off and on during our marriage to help out in rough spots, but
only for as long as is absolutely necessary. I helped with housework and
childcare a little extra during those times. She was always glad to go back to
watching the kids and grandchildren as soon as she was able. Are we
lucky? You bet! We have been supremely blessed.
Pretty telling report, sure the man doesn't get asked how he balances work
and family because he is assumed to have already sacrificed his family for his
job/work. He is constantly fighting the balance because he is culturally
expected to make his work the priority, she is given an opportunity to make the
choice of which to pursue. I would have liked to have had the choice, even with
the implications that she has in reduced wages/salary and opportunity. Someday,
she will wish for the good old days; she isn't going to really like being
"equal" when it means that she gets the same crappy deal that he gets