But the women crave the attention. Objectification is exactly what they are
aiming for; and men are more than happy to grant the women's wish.
When creative costumes are either hard to design or hard to execute women can
always turn to the attention grabbing immodesty. Men pander for that and women
want that attention, else why do it. Those women who want attention yet remain
modest will find a way and put the effort into it. It's not much different
than if I had a really clever costume or if I paraded around not wearing much;
as a man I'd certainly get the looks and attention I was after either way.
There is nothing wrong with "immodest" costumes. Halloween is fun and
if women want to dress up in fun costumes, that is perfectly fine.
I think we should re-think both the +/- connotations of having the freedom to
wear whatever, since you focus on the negative and with unflattering labels.
Americans are fortunate to have the choice to celebrate/accept all forms of
expression. Think of the Saudi women who have no freedoms. They might have issue
with your costume. One womans provocative is anothers conservative. Take Brazil,
a womans body is something considered beautiful. You will see all ages on the
beach in tiny bikinis. Are the 70 year-olds doing this to be sexy? No, they do
this cause they love their bodies and their culture celebrates that. You need to
take into account cultural latitudes in standards.Women in India live in
fear of rape as they walk home from work. We as American women have freedoms
that others dont, and protection to our freedoms. The fact that we can dress in
whatever fashion without being raped is a testament to our countr and ability to
accept all standards/beliefs. Which is more of an object? Women being able to
dress how she wants, or women being told what to wear by males because they have
no rights as objects?
Why do we have to slut shame women? Let women express themselves how they wish,
especially when there is no real harm done. And why is there no mention of
men's sexual costumes? Human Breathalizer stating "blow me" at the
crotch? Totally classy and appropriate. Women are not defined by our bodies. By
shaming women for showing skin (which you find inappropriate, but many others
don't' even blink at)just reinforces that idea that women are only for
sex. Her skirt is above her knees. She wants to have sex with someone. You can
see cleavage. She wants to have sex with someone. Women are for much more than
just being looked at....no matter if they are dressed as nuns or sexy vampires.
I agree with this article 100%. People say there is "no harm" in being
"immodest". Would you say there is harm in pornography? I hope you would
say so because even "scientific" studies are coming out showing the
dangers of pornography. "immodesty" does the same thing to the mind as
pornography does, just maybe not as extreme depending on the amount shown, but
it is the same principle. I completely agree that women are for much more than
just being looked at, but the best way for them to be viewed in the respectful
way is if they are wearing respectful clothing. Girls can tell guys to just
"control" their minds all they want while they walk around with little
clothing, but it's not as easy as that. Being modest definitely helps them
to control their mind. How selfish is it to ask a guy to control his mind when
the girl isn't willing to be modest? Why should he put forth the effort if
she won't? It's a two way street :)
Agree 100% The VS stores with their larger than life posters hanging up with
completely nude and partially nude women is deemed appropriate. Yet, if I go in
and put on the same lingerie and stand next to these posters, I would be forced
to put clothes on, kicked out of the store and probably banned from that mall
all together for being inappropriate. Such a contradiction. The reason why
women dress like that is because they are trying to compete with other women. I
did almost every Halloween, sadly. I knew that any party or event we went to
all of the women would be dressed as a sexy something. I didn't want to be
the odd one out, and I didn't want my date to be oogling after everyone
else and feel ugly because I wasn't dressed sexy enough. Are those guys
any good, and should I have worried about what they thought? Absolutely not.
But I did, and I'm ashamed I did. But, that is why women do it. If men
weren't visual but respectful, and if women weren't judgmental or
competitive I think costumes would be fun, not trashy.
"not in being ogled by every male in the room at a party but in knowing what
we have to offer them — our hearts, our minds and our personalities"?
+++++Hearts, minds and personalities while important are
not the full package, they aren't enough, specially to a man. A man's
attraction to a woman is mostly visual.Take away the looks that
women bring to the table, and men would feel mostly empty. This in innate. Short
of genetic reprogramming it wont be changed.
A line from the movies Stripes came to mind as I read this. "Lighten up
I love this article because shaming them is definitely the best way to encourage
young women to develop a healthy love and respect for their bodies. Since
respect and modesty is objectively defined by one person, these women must have
per Bob A. BoheyAgreed. I'm not a fan of Halloween. That said,
I can see the wisdom of letting your "darkside" out every so often and
blow off steam. I'm not surprised the DN would point out the
potential downfalls of being too carnal on Halloween. Will we see an article in
Late Nov about the dangers of gluttony? I doubt it.