Puppies curl up with their mothers, kittens curl up with their mother, hamsters
curl up with their mothers, in fact I can't think of a mammal that
doesn't curl up with their mother... except maybe dumb humans that would
believe a government study trying to break the parent child bond.
bagdergirl, I'm sorry for the loss of your grandson.
Not long after the birth of our first child is when the initial study was
released condemning co-sleeping. Concerned by the news accounts, we looked to
the primary document and were surprised to find in the data something quite
different than a condemnation of mere co-sleeping. According to the
data, heavy drinking, heavy smoking, exhaustion, or heavy drug use don't
mix well at all with co-sleeping in the first few months; they amount to high
risk activities alone or mixed with co-sleeping and I'm sure other
activities as well. But for parents who don't basically drink themselves to
sleep, the increased risk was insignificant - especially when one considers the
benefits.On only a few occasions so far, having co-slept now with
four, soon to be five, have I found it necessary, after working over 30 hours
straight, to sleep on the couch out of concern for the increased potential risk
of injury to our child due to exhaustion. Having read that earlier study and the
underlying data probably made me more attentive to that risk. I
would certainly be interested to see any new data on the subject.
I recall seeing in the "Nanny 911" series strong indications that it is
the mothers who want to sleep with their babies rather than parents of both
genders. What seemed to accompany that syndrome was that those mothers also
had a problem, after accustoming their babies to sleep with Mommy, they had one
heck of a job getting them (the children) to move into their own beds, even at
the age of four and five at times. Some of them were still using pacifiers
too.In that show the mothers were as likely to be white, as black or
Hispanic, but maybe these shows were from before the named watershed year of
2000. Your pictured mother is white though, which is, according to the article,
less typical. I noticed she also is fully made up with her hair neatly combed,
also very untypical I should think. That probably had more to do with the
vanity of the poser however.
Can't trust government sponsored studies.
Babies need to sleep in their own safety-tested cribs. SIDS aside-the danger of
asphyxiation, suffocation, and just plain rolling off of the bed are good enough
reasons to make sure the little ones are safely in their own cribs. We lost our
own 7-month old grandson that way.Parents, don't be foolish.