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Published: Monday, Sept. 30 2013 11:10 a.m. MDT

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Mrs Ribit
Palmdale, CA

My son married the sweetest girl that isn't LDS. He fasted and prayed before he asked her out and said at the time he believed in the church. She loves him as much as I could ever have hoped for. Everyone says they can see how in love they are. Because of how they started I know there's a reason for them to be together. I think there's a possiblity that this is how her family is meant to find the church. I love my DIL and will do all in my power to support their family.

Redlands, CA

So many comments, so much tact. Stay out of it. She has thought long and hard about this relationship and if he is a good guy, all the power to her. I've seen temple marriages crash and burn, so that's not a guarantee.

Dietrich, ID

Will the Spirit tell someone to marry someone they can't take to the temple? Seems like some people use personal revelation as an excuse not to follow the personal revelator. The spirit does not contradict himself.

As for religion if it is important than you would want your spouse to be of the same religion as there is a lot of friction and people not of the faith can't be married in the temple for eternity. Not that they are bad people because they probably are wonderful people.

Few people convert after marriage so that is an issue. As or other issues like stalling and where it is going maybe friend can give her advice but she has to live with her actions not her friends.

North Pole, AK

I was one of those non-member boyfriends. She says the guy is wonderful. She is, I am sure, well aware of the risks. Just be supportive of her. And you never know, he may end up the same as what happened to me: I was eventually converted and we are now sealed eternally.



Actually the spirit quite often contradicts itself. That is why different people get different answers about the same questions. Either it contradicts itself, or it is unreliable, or it doesn't exist. Take your pick.

clearfield, UT

Every case is individual. I know of cases where non members married members and the non member became a great Church member. Conversely, look at how many member marriages have ended up not working out. Let them be and hope for the best.

Whos Life RU Living?
Ogden, UT

So the other day I found out that my friend's girlfriend is a Mormon! I am not sure if I should tell him, but I don't think she is the right girl for him. I thought he had so much better standards than that. /sarcasm off

Good job Angela. This letter will hopefully help some people off of their high horses.

Salt Lake City, UT

"stay out of it" is an easy thing to say and then sight numerous positive examples...but what about the ones that don't turn out positive? What about the marriages that never make it to the temple? "Stay out if it" is that what The Lord said when the Israelities settled the holy land and were commanded to destroy all non covenant making peoples? People that simply say "stay out if it" either don't understand the importance of temple marriage or don't love their friends and family memebers enough. Agency will never change but to not raise a warning voice is a demonstration of lack of love.

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