Comments about ‘More Utahns raising relatives' children due to parents' substance abuse’

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Published: Wednesday, Sept. 18 2013 7:46 p.m. MDT

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across the sea
Topeno, Finland

There is NO SHAME in seeking the best for children. These relatives and the children have earned our love and respect.
The only shame here is that Utah is so ravaged by drugs and addictions and living in denial, that it is a huge part of this tragedy.
I am not from Utah. Actually we now live in Saudi Arabia, but I am keenly aware of at least 10 of these children, because their mothers
OD'd. I wonder, and wonder, when will the media and the people wake up to really battle this monster? Living in ignorance and shame... The shame is only there because of addicts, parents, families and (especially) society does not want to face the reality.
The first step of healing is always in recognizing the present reality - something Utah has NOT done.

The Scientist
Provo, UT

But these are not the children's "natural", biological parents! That can't possibly be part of god's "plan of happiness"!

Or do we have to admit that good parents and families come in many configurations, including same sex couples?

suzyk#1
Mount Pleasant, UT

To: The Scientist...I think the Lord is always pleased when good people will step in to save the life of a child no matter the situation. The Lord hopes that the original parents will be responsible and raise their children with love and guidance, but unfortunately with the laxidazical attitude many parents have toward their children He is happy someone will step up and protect them. I've never understood the neglect, the abuse. Children deserve love, protection and happiness like anyone else. It's a sad world we live in and it doesn't seem to be getting any better.

Brave Sir Robin
San Diego, CA

Substance abuse is tearing more and more families apart....and yet there are people out there who think we should legalize drugs.

Tell me, do you think that the negative effects of drug use would just magically go away if drugs were legal? So why should we make drugs easier to get?

heidi ho
Fort Collins, CO

I don't live in Utah either, but I do know the ravages of drug abuse and how working an AL-Anon program helps with detachment, boundaries with adult children and working with the legal system to allow the addicts to have reasonable consequences for their behavior. Children need to be protected and the addicts need to be reported so that the children will have a safe situation. My hat is off to these wonderful relatives who are willing to put the children first.

LittleStream
Carson City, NV

I have long believed that we tackled the drug problem from the wrong side. Where there is a supply and demand, the demand must be stopped or decreased past monetary gain for there to be success. We need to find out what makes people take drugs. We need to provide alternatives for that.

Kaotic
USA, UT

Goes to show that drug abuse is a very big problem in Utah...bigger than anyone can imagine. It is prevalent in all religious and socio-economic groups. All families are affected by drug abuse in one way or another and to think that being religious or richer makes you immune is being arrogant.

JBQ
Saint Louis, MO

Society is deteriorating right before our very eyes. Drugs are a "rite of passage" for poor elements in our society. Drug dealers offer an element of danger and risk to young women in stable families. The women do not realize the ultimate goal foisted by these modern day "Errol Flynn's" with their "golden tongues". What is left are shattered lives and children who are ticking "emotional time bombs". The entire scenario is very problematic for the future of law enforcement and the stabilization of the family. Certainly, the answer is not a socialist one where the drug dealer is seen as an innocent victim of a sexist and racist society. That is the problem in the first place. When stable schools reach out to help the children of those less fortunate, they have to "keep the faith" and not give in to the belief that single parents will reform schools and therefore society in their own image. In many cases, single parents do a great job. However, the majority of single parents have lost control of their children and loosened them as "demons" on the innocent lambs of society.

esodije
ALBUQUERQUE, NM

I have a brother and sister-in-law in Pleasant Grove, both in their early 60s, who are having to raise very active, 6-year-old twin grandsons due to their mother's ongoing substance-abuse issues. I don't know how they do it, except that you play the hand that's dealt to you. I can't speak to the prevalence of drug abuse in Utah, but I think it's safe to say that many of these children would have been put up for adoption, or aborted in the first place, in other states.

defibman
Syracuse, UT

This is not just a Utah problem. The Stats are the same if not higher for the Nation as a whole. Keep trying Mr Scientist to make this a "Utah" or Mormon problem. I have read your posts before and you are a very one sided person who wants everyone to look thru your glasses which have tunnel-vision.

tgurd
Gonzales, LA

Its pleasing to hear the kindness that is stated in these comments. The tragedy is how many are sucked into the drug, pornographic, sexual and drinking addiction we have, I am glad we have parents that are their for those children. The comment about same sex parents doesn't fit into these equations, the question is not whether they may be kind or not the question is answered in the Proclaimation of the Family, the worlds idea of a family is skewed and sad to say I agree that these things cross all social and economical areas. My heart goes out to parents who have to end up taking in their grandchildren because of choice their children make. I would say to parents don't beat yourselves up if you have tried to teach your children correct principles, each of us has to make decision and the usually affect others, mostly our families. Heavenly Father will be with you grandparents as you show love and kindness to these special spirits. God bless each of you and know these acts of love and kindness are not going un noticed.

ulvegaard
Medical Lake, Washington

It is amazing how many still contend that if people want to use drugs they should be able to, that it only effects them.

Willy tPS
West Valley, UT

I don’t know if my other one went through – but there is some help for those grandparents or other family members raising these kids, if the parent’s addictions or actions put them in prison.
Please help out these grandparents even more so some of these children that lost a parent to drugs and incarceration - by supporting the ‘Willy the Plumber Scholarship’.

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