“'I try to build up my daughter's self-esteem and tell her she
is beautiful, but people say hurtful things to me because I also have a weight
problem, and that hurts me,' Suffern said"------------------As their parent, I hope this mother will find a
way to help her daughter not only withstand the stupidity of bullying, but also
change their home so that she AND her daughter will be able to withstand the
temptation to eat too much or exercise too little. In the end, the ability to
do both those things (and many others) is the only real way for us all to be
What a wonderful brother! Family needs to get help for daughter to lose weight.
The bullying and teasing is going to add to the eating problem. She's
going to eat to feel better. You need to find something besides food that will
make her feel better. If not, as an adult, her life will be miserable, and very
First of all, quit blaming mother/daughter for overeating. Looking at this
picture, considering that these two are fraternal twins, something else is at
work here. If overeating was the problem, the brother would be just as heavy as
his sister. They both eat at the same table, probably the same food. And
even if this is the problem, the bullying is evil, and children who do this have
a far greater problem than this little girl, and parents in this case are
responsible in failing to teach their children how to love and accept EVERYONE.
Our children were sent off to school each day with the admonishment,
"Make a new friend today".
I think the 2 comments above reflect why there is such a 'bullying'
problem in the first place. We as a society 'acknowledge' there is a
'bullying' issue, Yet, we are quick to point out the faults of the
'victims', and almost, unintentionally, justify why they're being
Bullied. It's ridiculous to me. The true issue is, how do we
'Fix' the kids/adults that are doing the 'bullying'?? How
do we get kids to stop being mean? It's easy to have an opinion about the
obvious; like losing weight. But few want to discuss the shortcomings of
parenting, and raising 'mean' kids.. This mother should
commended for raising such a great kid!
This is refreshing. I recently sat through a lecture where it was argued that
altruism doesn't exist. His letter to Santa shows true selflessness.
I am appalled at the school's lip service:"We are awesome,
and don't have those problems. But if someone thinks we do, we'll
issue a press release so everyone knows how awesome we are, and then things can
get back to normal." Which normal, unfortunately for the sister,
will be miserable torture....It's a private school, and the
bullies are likely kids of rich donors who feel they can't be touched.