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Published: Friday, Sept. 6 2013 9:00 a.m. MDT

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I was spanked and yelled at when I was a kid and I turned out fine. It got me ready for the real thing called adulthood. I believe if there was more discipline in the home from ALL parents and a whole lot less cell phones and IPods then we would have much better behavior from our kids. We have made things too easy for our children and they have become very spoiled and very disrespectful. We have created zombies with the texting and the problems the internet can create. It has made our kids a lot less attuned to the real world and becoming responsible adults. I think the article doesn't define the real problem...

Salt Lake City, UT

It is horrifying to note denial, defiance, rationalizing, and soft-pedaling, relative to the study's conclusions, on the part of some. Decidedly, the truth can be hard to bear.

I quote Elder Dallin H. Oaks:

"When we consider the dangers from which children should be protected, we should also include psychological abuse. Parents or other caregivers or teachers or peers who demean, bully, or humiliate children or youth can inflict harm more permanent than physical injury."

(General Conference, October 2012)

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Salt Lake City, UT

An article says "don't yell", and everyone suddenly complains about being told how imperfect they are. It seems people have a bigger fear of how they are viewed as parents, than how they actually act as parents. If propriety isn't a factor, I simply don't think anyone would complain about this article or the people replying to it.

No one is the perfect parent, but that doesn't make it wrong to point out things to avoid either. If this is a guilt-inducing article, then it's no worse than an article that says "don't beat your kids". The fact is, right is right and wrong is wrong and you either are doing the right thing or you aren't.

It doesn't make you a bad person to make mistakes. It makes you a bad person when you want to make them or don't care to try to improve. This article may help some people who don't consider the consequences of how they talk to their children. If you feel too guilty reading it, maybe the problem isn't in the article.

This isn't rocket science. It's parenting 101.

North Salt Lake, UT

You know what studies and statistics and actual data show is really, really, REALLY bad for kids, especially boys? Growing up in a home without a biological father.

Today it seems we are constantly barraged with "studies" by "social scientists" which purport to show the aspects of child-rearing traditionally associated with a stern father -- corporal punishment, yelling, deprivation -- are somehow abusive and damaging to children. Yet the reality is kids who don't have a Dad present in the home are much more likely to drop out, get pregnant, use drugs, be depressed, or go to jail.

I've seen this first-hand: My niece is raising three boys by herself; their father is not involved at all. She's nice and she tries hard, but she's in over her head; the oldest just started kindergarten, and he already has been suspended once for disciplinary reasons.

Statistically-speaking, kids are far, far more likely to grow up to be happy and successful in a house with a loudmouthed Dad than they are to grow up in a house with a soft-spoken mother.

Mesa, AZ

Drawing from the scriptures

“ Reproving betimes with sharpness, when moved upon by the Holy Ghost; and then showing forth afterwards an increase of love toward him whom thou hast reproved, lest he esteem thee to be his enemy;”
(D&C 121:43)


I am amazed that social engineers are given much attention as real scientists. I guess they need it to be credible. How did mankind made it this far without them? Life is a dog-eat-dog world. No one gives you anything for free. Yelling at kids may not all be bad. When they get out there on their own, being yelled at will be something they have already learned to deal with. No emotional breakdown or shocked when dealing in the real world. My qualifications? A parent with five children. All productive citizens in their communities. They all served LDS missions. They all graduated from BYU. I would do it over again (same routine) if I had to start all over. I'm just saying.

Pleasant Grove, UT

If it's all the same, I think I would have preferred being yelled at instead of the frequent beatings and spankings I received as a child.

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