I know this is an old article, but it's a good one. I wanted to add my two
cents to what "The Solution" posted: "divorce has more long-lasting
consequences and affects children more than any parent about to take that path
can imagine." Judith Wallerstein, PhD, wrote in the Journal of
the American Academy of Child and Adolescent Psychiatry: "significant
numbers of children suffer for many years from psychological and social
difficulties associated with continuing and/or new stresses within the
post-divorce family and experience heightened anxiety in forming enduring
attachments at later developmental stages including young adulthood."My parents were divorced over 35 years ago, and I completely agree with
both 'The Solution' and Dr Wallerstein. It completely changes
everything when your parents divorce - especially if you are still a young,
dependent child. I am a much different person than I would have been if my
parents had stayed married - some of it for the better, I hope. All I know is
maybe Trevor wasn't married yet at the time of this article because
he's still sub-consciously dealing with his parents' divorce.
Always enjoy Trevor's insight to college football. Of course, he has
covered several BYU games, so I have heard him a bunch over the years. I hope
he can one day find himself a good wife and start a family. Divorce has more
long lasting consequences and affects children more than any parent about to
take that path can imagine.
Article quote: "Going through my mind was the fact that football is good and
football is important, but someday football is going to end. Where would I be on
that day if I based my entire life on football? I thought of what doesn’t
end, and that’s my relationship with God, my family and with our church.
So I left football, knowing that I might not ever play again. But even if I
didn’t, there would be no regrets, because the most important thing would
be taken care of.”Now THERE is one wise man! Good on ya,
While watching ESPN yesterday I was impressed with Trevor's knowledge of
the game. I also thought he looked and sounded familiar. Thanks for the story. I
guess I'm not going crazy after all.
Great story - here's a guy the make things happen regardless of what's
in front of him. Great life lesson, thanks for sharing
Sure do remember this fine young BYU alum, tremendous story indeed. All of us
and our sons and daughters can gain courage from the hardships he overcame.
I knew Trevor quite well in Mexico. He was a very good missionary and fun to be
around. He isn't kidding about the weight loss. He was quite ill for a
number of days in Chihuahua after eating a ham sandwich sold from a street
vendor. Of course, none of us gained any weight there.
Interesting story; and you only have to hear Matich for a few seconds on ESPN to
know that he is substantially more literate than other "analysts."
However, let's put things into perspective. His life may have had some
hardships, as described, but his was hardly a Dickensian childhood, full of the
kind of adversity that many children have in our own neighborhoods. It's
not like "The Blind Side." He was still pretty-darned privileged. I
remember when he was on campus he was treated like a god. He lived pretty good.
And if Matich truly believes that he has worked harder than anybody he has seen,
then he doesn't see much, and has a lot more spare time to make such
determinations than those who are otherwise busy working.
Seems like a neat guy. I wonder what happened to his father and if there is any
relationship there or desire for a relationship. Also wonder why he is
single...seems like a great guy and I'm sure plenty of available LDS women
would make great companions! Unless something from his past totally turned him
off to the marriage idea.
What an awesome story! Thanks for sharing it. I have been
impressed with the 1984 team. They are out doing great things all over the