Thanks Tim. Sometimes lessons we are taught subtly and with respect for the our
agency are learned much better.Each child is different, of course.
But, if your parents had simply told you "You cannot play," the effect
may have been to engender resentment and anger more than help you gain a love
for the sabbath.I am sure your parents struggled a bit as to whether
to show up at your game, at least for a while. I am not sure I would have done
that as a parent, but I think it was a wise choice and, as you said, taught you
something important.Thanks for sharing your story. It taught me
Very good. Today is a good day to hear this. I've tried to do this several
times...like teaching my daughter there are kinds of music which out of bounds
when she was young and a few years later, giving her an encyclopedia of
rock...to show that I appreciated her different point of view. Several years later .... Today .... I realize that sometimes I express
opinions that she has asked for. Trouble is, she takes them as expectations.
Mine, not her own. That ended today, kind of abrupt, but the right thing.
Sometimes letting go gives a strong sense of worth to kids that cannot be
accomplished any other way. Children find they have meaning and value in this
world. Good story.
Love this article. I read it because I thought maybe I could use it in my
Sunday School lesson to the 13 year-olds on keeping the commandments. I read
it and decided hmmm, maybe not. I decided to keep it for a future lesson with
adults. Then, as it turns out, I found I need to skip church completely
tomorrow to help an "errant" son in need of finding and moving into
another apt all in one day. This story was just what I needed to hear.
Thanks for the feedback! It's surprising to look back on life sometimes
and pick out those "game-changing" moments--even when it didn't
really go the way we thought it should. You never know what children pick up
on, and it's up to us as parents to live in tune enough to see the bigger
picture. I hope to get the hang of it before retirement.
Great story. Not quite how I expected it to go, but I appreciate the lesson!