When I lived in Georgia there was a family in our ward who had an autistic kid
named Teddy. He made awkward, noisy outbursts constantly in sacrament meeting
and other church meetings. It was odd, I admit, but you got used to it most of
the time. His parents had a neighbor come and talk to them about the noise
Teddy made in his (Teddy's) back yard, complaining about it. I
almost busted out laughing one day when our bishop, in the middle of sacrament
meeting, mentioned tongue-in-cheeek that Teddy's parents had this neighbor
who complained about the noise Teddy made and my bishop suggested that
Teddy's mom and dad should give him some pots and pans to bang on when he
was hanging out in the back yard.No, it may not have been exactly
what Christ would have recommended but it sure was funny.On a more
serious note, I hope this family STANDS THEIR GROUND and does not move or give
in to this neighbor. No, don't be mean, because then you lower yourself to
their despicable standards, but definitely stand your ground!
As the mother of a child with autism, this is difficult to read. But I take
heart in a few things. First of all, this story, which took place in another
country, has gone viral. The vast majority of people I know find this behavior
unacceptable. I have encountered people who have not understood and who,
upon looking at my son, assumed that he is poorly disciplined and
"spoiled". These people are ignorant. But I have also encountered
people who have been kind. One time at McDonalds, my son was having a meltdown
because he didn't appreciate the wording on his food packaging. A young
boy, a few years older, came up and offered him a toy. My son rudely rejected
the offer. I apologized to the boy and his mother and thanked them and
explained that my son has autism. "So does my son", she said. All in all, my experiences with people have been positive. I see people
wanting to learn and understand. People who are cruel and hateful seem to be
the exception, at least to me. Maybe because my child is higher functioning. I
worry about Junior High and High School, though.
Sometimes people don't think of the consequences before they offend
children such as this incident. What would Jesus want me to do? He would want
me to be kind and show love for individuals of all types, no matter what age or
abilities. With some books and media, there appears to be instant
answers or results. That is not always the case as we all know someone and even
ourselves who have limitations in some areas. Some people show problems outward
and others have problems inward.It is sad that we partition people
as we would our computer and segregate the world from our lives. At least in
the United States of America we have experience of what segregating people and
the impact that had through war and civil strife. We know the consequences even
if some don't accept the change readily.We are a nation that is
truly mixed with people from every nation, language and status. That is a
blessing for our children to be in a non-compartmentalized world. Some nations
have had their own civil wars for generation after generation and still
on-going.We aren't perfect but most people are against bigotry.
I can only imagine what kind of hatred and suffering the letter writer must have
endured that made her sufficiently jaded and angry to write such a letter.The letter writer is to be pitied, not hated. All the hateful comments
here are just people stooping to her level.How sad.
who ever wrote that letter,needs to be charged with.a hate crime that is so sad
.they have no feelings for.the.better people
Life tip to the letter writer: hate mail is not a great way to win friends and
This sounds like an uneducated, narrow-minded, cowardly person. Age
doesn't matter. I have a high-functioning autistic son who
deals relatively well in public, but an adult neighbor confided to one of my
older kids that my son "creeps him out." (Of course that gossip is going
to come back to me!)Some people just can't understand anything
beyond their immediate surroundings, and the world is a weird, frightening place
to them. A little education, a bit of patience, and an open heart changes
everything.Unfortunately, many people simply won't make the
effort. They'd rather destroy what they don't understand. No wonder we
have so many problems in the world.
Contrarius,That's a pretty accurate Hollywood stereotype, but
it is just as likely to be someone younger. I'm not critical of your
opinion, as plenty of people do in fact hold on to their bitterness tighter with
age. But honestly I've met people who are 20-25 who have similar opinions
and speak with just as rude demeanor.
Coming from a family with 2 autistic children, one of which is very low
functioning, this is extremely hurtful. The lack of compassion shows a complete
egotistical "mother" with no sense of responsibility to her own children
to do the right thing.I love my brother and niece VERY much, no
matter their social "pitfalls". The person who wrote this letter better
be punished with the same scrutiny of any major offender in civil suits, or
likewise. I was sickened to read the letter and know there is someone out there
with that audacity to make such evil comments towards and innocent child.
I'm betting it's a little old lady or little old man who is very
unhappy in his or her own life.
I also do not feel this is an act of a teenager. Nor do I feel that this woman
is very educated or she would have the wherewithal to explain to her children
the needs of this young man and would be more understanding of the situation.
Instead she decided to cower behind the computer to verbally harass and threaten
this young mans family. What a horrible thing to say about a child, and
especially to guardians who have worked so hard to give their loved one a normal
life. Shame on this woman. I am so disgusted. I am glad the police are
looking into it and I hope they catch her.
Having read the letter over several times, I doubt that it is a teenager. The
language reads more like a college graduate or at the very least a high school
grad. It is a shame and hopefully the letter writer gets help.
Christopher B,You may be right. Even so, it needs to be taken
seriously. And I agree with you. If it is a prank, it's not ok or
My guess is this is a teenage prank. And before you all freak out,
did I say it was ok?I simply said my guess is this is a teenage