So what if the girl's pastimes include dance, track & field, vocal
performance, drama, graphical design, and rock climbing?Too often
parents and educators try to pigeon-hole multi-talented, multi-faceted children
into one personality type. It's best to let them explore many different
varieties of activities so they can discover their own sometimes hidden talents.
It seems odd to compare chess to dance and soccer. I doubt many children would
the dedicate a similar amount of time to chess as compared to those who are in
soccer or dance.
Or maybe they choose one particular activity because they stink at the others.
Couldn't agree more with Solomon. When our daughter was young we exposed
her to many and varied interests including sports, arts and dance. What we
learned is that she gravitated to the things she enjoyed the most. After
looking at the article on The Atlantic's website, it's clear that the
parents the author interviewed are hyper-focused on making their girls
successful in ways they deem important rather than allowing the girls to become
who they are on their own. This is very problematic to me as it
feels like micro social engineering. My opinion is based on my belief that each
child comes to this life with their own talents and abilities that should be
nurtured and grown rather than engineered to fit s certain expectation.
I agree, it seems pretty silly. We'll let our daughters decide their own
hobbies, I hope they are interested in what I am, but if not than oh well. We
are a very non sport family, just like my parents, but if one of my girls
decides she wants to play basketball, I will support her in that. My only caveat
is that whatever you decide to do, do it the best you can.
Let's not label the kids under a "specific" area. I thought we were
just teaching our kids to explore possible talents, and they choose what they
want to continue with. I wasn't labeling my kids at all. I feel this is
such a sham. My kids, btw, loved music, soccer, baseball, softball,
volleyball, martial arts, swimming, theater, running, and just meeting great
friends in each area. They had to choose which ones they wanted to focus on, but
that was their choice, not mine.
One more reason to put kids in soccer over dance, then.