To "A Scientist" thanks for helping to make my point.You
apparently agree that it does take a strong family culture to overcome the
negative and destructive influences coming from TV and the internet.Since when is dichotomous thinking unhealthy and untruthful? Jesus taught
that you are either for him or against him and many other dichotomous ideas.
Are you saying that the things that Jesus taught were not healthy or that he was
Redshirt -You are correct. The popular culture ("the world"
in LDS vernacular) does not teach healthy behavior. It actively promotes the
opposite. Working with over 600 kids each school year this is what
I notice. Kids who come from a strong family culture are more confident,
resilient, and happy. Kids who are more influenced by the popular culture
struggle socially and are more insecure.
RedShirt wrote:"To 'A Scientist' but it is a
way."You are OK with unhealthy, untruthful ways of seeing
things?and"Just look at the influences coming into
our homes through TV and the internet."These
"influences" have always been around. Many people teach their children
not to be "acted upon" like puppets. Many people teach their children
"correct principles" and empower them to govern themselves. Is that
missing in your home?As for all the rhetorical questions, research
shows that:- teen sex and pregnancy are down;- drinking and
drug abuse are down;- kids viewing their parents as ignorant people is
limited to certain Western and Southern States;"The world
teaches our kids that they are special, and are wonderful at everything, even
when they are not."Who is this "the World" to which you
refer? I suggest it is a figment of LDS imagination, invented in order to create
an enemy against which to rally religious zeal.The fact remains:
dichotomous thinking is unhealthy and untruthful.
I think so many commentors are looking for picky things and not looking for the
overall message of this article-create a family culture of strength and
committment because kids will look for that either at home or elsewhere. How we
each choose to do that is what is unique and makes us strong as a family. also
the 2nd point I think is being judged for what it is not. I found that being
active in a church gives families and individuals opportunities to serve others.
Our family has been very committed to church callings as bishop, stake pres, yw
and RS pres and how we approached those helped strengthn our kids and taught
them to serve and helped us grow as a family unit. You can also do the same
things if you are not religious by serving in the community around you. I was
raised in a nonreligious family yet my parents were always serving and took us
right along with them to community gardens, homeless shelters, school tutoring
which gave me a rich heritage of watching over those around us.
To "Unwieldy Toaster" I hate to break it to you, but Helen Mar Kimball
didn't engage in sexual relationships until she was married at age 16. For
that time in history that was young, but not too uncommon.As for
families spending time together. Other than Bishop or Stake President, what
callings interfere with "family time"? Even those don't interfere
unless you allow it to.
1. Create a family culture of time spent together - agreed. What about turning
down callings that interfere with family time?2. Create a family
culture of full church activity and commitment. - not necessarily. Strong
families are built on love and commitment. You can be as religious or as secular
as you want.3. Create a family culture of prioritized relationships.
- Agreed. 4. Create a family culture of rich family traditions and
family laws. Agreed.@ redshirtDo you think it is good for
teens to engage in sexual relationships as early as 12? How about 14? ie
Helen Mar Kimball
To "A Scientist" but it is a way. Just look at the influences coming
into our homes through TV and the internet. Even the Disney shows that are
geared towards tweens have all sorts of behaviors that are not healthy for
raising kids.Do you think it is good for teens to engage in sexual
relationships as early as 12?Do you think that it is good for kids
to think that drinking and drug abuse are normal?Do you think that
it is good for kids to view thier parents as ignorant people that know
nothing?Do you think that kids should be allowed to ignore any
restrictions that you place on them?Do you think that it is healthy
for kids to feel entitled to whatever they want regardless of their behavior?The world teaches our kids that they are special, and are wonderful at
everything, even when they are not.That is what "the world"
teaches. Do you think that leads to a healthy society?
Excellent article! A strong family culture and involved parents do more to
create stable, healthy and contributing adults than any public institution. It
also stacks the cards in favor of young people staying away from destructive
behaviors. As a public school teacher I see ample evidence of this.
More black-white thinking, us vs them, treating everything simplistically and as
a war...this is neither a healthy nor truthful way of seeing things.
AMEN, and Thanks for this! If we as parents don't do it, who will?!