Las Vegas wrote:".....I say, how about encouraging moms to stay at home and
raise their own children? Or encouraging women to find a stable, committed man,
and marry him BEFORE having a child? Or how about young couples not thinking
they need to start out with what their parents worked 30 years to
acquire?"- Many woman are single parents that do not have the
luxury of staying home, there must provide for their families in the best way
the can find. - Some men are not what they seem. Many women remove
themselves from abusive relationships to protect themselves and their children.
You and everyone else that is criticizing these women do not know
their home situations. You are passing judgement on these women without even
trying to understand the root cause of why these incidents occurred. These
women were going to work to support their families, not going out to the bar.
Instead of self-righteous outrage how about actually doing something
They seem like good caring mothers in a bad situations and trying to make it on
their own without government help but apparently its against the law. So what are these other options and resources when you are alone and turned
away if you ask for help from public services? Parents with children
are turned away all the time with petty excesses out of money, out of sympathy,
you're a man, and they don't offer any alternatives. These young
mothers should be given respect for their independence solutions they had to
work with. I'm sure that their entire work day was one of fear for their
children well being because I know I was. I know how it is to be
told by public resources they will not help you feed or care for your three
children because you are a man, and don't come back. Through many hard
times and low income I clothed, fed (they took sack lunches for school), and
paid for our home, their needs. But I was always there when public resources
Turtles Run, You must be a politician, what with your rhetoric of how “we
need to find ways to make quality child-care accessible.” If by that you
are suggesting government subsidies, I say, how about encouraging moms to stay
at home and raise their own children? Or encouraging women to find a stable,
committed man, and marry him BEFORE having a child? Or how about young couples
not thinking they need to start out with what their parents worked 30 years to
acquire? I know, I know -- such politically-incorrect ideas, but nevertheless
prudent.Child-care is hard work. Hard work which perfectly aligns
with each mother willingly doing it for the benefit of her own child. How
about that for a model?
Super sorry Meg30, but feeling desperate and helpless (which all people do at
times) is NEVER reason to put innocent childrens’ lives at risk. Some
people today wouldn’t dream of leaving their dog alone for the length of
time these “mothers” left their children.As a foster mom
you must be aware of the thousands of qualified couples just dying to adopt a
child and offer love and care. I wonder if any of them would ever choose to
leave their innocent child (if they ever are lucky enough to get one, that is)
locked up for hours while they went to work?I guess it’s all
about the value one puts on the life and well-being of a child versus the
inconvenience of arranging child-care for a parent.
Children under the age of 12 should never be left home alone for any length of
time.There is no excuse for this and no plausable reason these
mothers did this.Having been a daycare provider for 18 years, and at
the time I was the only stay at home mother in the neighborhood, I know that
women who do this do it all the time, not just once or twice. I had
mothers who locked their children out of their home while they went to work,
knowing full well that their children would come to my house and be cared for.
Then they would refuse to pay me because they had not actually "asked"
me to tend their children. DWS did nothing. This is a selfishness,
nothing more, nothing less.
While the mother may feel the child is capable of taking care of himself or
herself with a potty and snacks for the day, there are many other factors that
can contribute to a bad situation. Recently here in Oklahoma City a mother and
her boyfriend left a 7 year old at home alone to go to the bar. While they were
gone, two people entered the house to look for valuables and intentionally
started a fire. The child was killed and now the mother and boyfriend are being
charged with negligent homicide. Very sad.
People wake up, you never leave a child home with no supervision. There is help
for child care its called call DWS they assist in child care, food, etc.
Children are not pets, you can not lock them up in a pen environment with a bowl
of food and expect they are going to be okay. The fact this lady lied and has
done this numerous times before speaks volumes. I would rather lose my job than
risk my child's life and well being.
Calling healthy 3- and 4-year-old children "disabled" is just an excuse
to find criminal charges here. Do we really think no decent parents have ever
left their 4-year-olds unattended for a few hours? In a modern middle-class home
we might feel we can't leave kids unattended for any length of time until
they're "babysitting age," but throughout history and in poorer
parts of the world people haven't felt that way. Would we charge most
parents in human history with felony abuse for leaving their kids unattended? Or
are these criminal cases of "parenting while black" and "parenting
while Hispanic"?These parents' choices aren't what I
would do with my own kids. They may not be the most wise or prudent decisions.
But are they really *felonies*?Soon coming to a nanny state near
you: an absolute legal requirement to have your children watched over every
second from birth until they turn 18. "If you can't do that, help is
available- you can turn your children over to the state." Sad.
@ Las VegasMany families have difficulty finding affordable quality
childcare, add in disabilities and the cost and availability make it near
impossible for many.I would suggest instead of taking children away
from homes we find ways to make quality childcare more accessible to people.
These Mothers are not abusers but people that have to live with the reality of
supporting their families with little resources. Punishment won't fix that
Casual sexual relationships, lack of commitment (marriage is a form of
commitment) juvenile sexual behavior and poor life choices, including education
and job skills lead to what we have here. Get used to this type of news because
it is where we are headed if we haven't already arrived.The
lack of nurturing and bonding between mother and child (who can bond with
someone who locks you into a room for days on end with your fears), and later
lack of permanent male role model (husband) will create an interesting child
when he/she matures to repeat the process. A free people have to
learn to govern themselves and perpetuate the society. This situation leads to
anarchy and totalitarianism in the name of compassion.Sad? Yes.
Commonplace? Yes. Able to be reversed in today's politically correct
society? Fat chance.
Wow las vegas. Super brutal. I am a foster parent and I have been involved in
all this stuff for years and my heart still goes out to this woman. You are
fortunate to have never felt so desperate and helpless. People need help finding
resources and not everyone is as capable as others. Doesn't mean she
should lose her kids.
And where was "the Dad" in all this?
Sorry, no compassion coming from me. Zero. And that’s also the number of
children these “mothers” should ever be allowed to raise. Give those precious children to someone who will actually care for them and
their basic needs. The stupidity of some people makes me lose
hope in the human race.