Comments about ‘2 mothers charged with leaving small children home alone’

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Published: Wednesday, July 24 2013 8:45 p.m. MDT

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Lasvegaspam
Henderson, NV

Sorry, no compassion coming from me. Zero. And that’s also the number of children these “mothers” should ever be allowed to raise.

Give those precious children to someone who will actually care for them and their basic needs.

The stupidity of some people makes me lose hope in the human race.

OlderGreg
USA, CA

And where was "the Dad" in all this?

Meg30
Providence, UT

Wow las vegas. Super brutal. I am a foster parent and I have been involved in all this stuff for years and my heart still goes out to this woman. You are fortunate to have never felt so desperate and helpless. People need help finding resources and not everyone is as capable as others. Doesn't mean she should lose her kids.

Strider303
Salt Lake City, UT

Casual sexual relationships, lack of commitment (marriage is a form of commitment) juvenile sexual behavior and poor life choices, including education and job skills lead to what we have here. Get used to this type of news because it is where we are headed if we haven't already arrived.

The lack of nurturing and bonding between mother and child (who can bond with someone who locks you into a room for days on end with your fears), and later lack of permanent male role model (husband) will create an interesting child when he/she matures to repeat the process.

A free people have to learn to govern themselves and perpetuate the society. This situation leads to anarchy and totalitarianism in the name of compassion.

Sad? Yes. Commonplace? Yes. Able to be reversed in today's politically correct society? Fat chance.

Turtles Run
Missouri City, TX

@ Las Vegas

Many families have difficulty finding affordable quality childcare, add in disabilities and the cost and availability make it near impossible for many.

I would suggest instead of taking children away from homes we find ways to make quality childcare more accessible to people. These Mothers are not abusers but people that have to live with the reality of supporting their families with little resources. Punishment won't fix that issue.

Prodicus
Provo, UT

Calling healthy 3- and 4-year-old children "disabled" is just an excuse to find criminal charges here. Do we really think no decent parents have ever left their 4-year-olds unattended for a few hours? In a modern middle-class home we might feel we can't leave kids unattended for any length of time until they're "babysitting age," but throughout history and in poorer parts of the world people haven't felt that way. Would we charge most parents in human history with felony abuse for leaving their kids unattended? Or are these criminal cases of "parenting while black" and "parenting while Hispanic"?

These parents' choices aren't what I would do with my own kids. They may not be the most wise or prudent decisions. But are they really *felonies*?

Soon coming to a nanny state near you: an absolute legal requirement to have your children watched over every second from birth until they turn 18. "If you can't do that, help is available- you can turn your children over to the state." Sad.

trekker
Salt Lake, UT

People wake up, you never leave a child home with no supervision. There is help for child care its called call DWS they assist in child care, food, etc. Children are not pets, you can not lock them up in a pen environment with a bowl of food and expect they are going to be okay. The fact this lady lied and has done this numerous times before speaks volumes. I would rather lose my job than risk my child's life and well being.

Nanners
OKC, OK

While the mother may feel the child is capable of taking care of himself or herself with a potty and snacks for the day, there are many other factors that can contribute to a bad situation. Recently here in Oklahoma City a mother and her boyfriend left a 7 year old at home alone to go to the bar. While they were gone, two people entered the house to look for valuables and intentionally started a fire. The child was killed and now the mother and boyfriend are being charged with negligent homicide. Very sad.

county mom
Monroe, UT

Children under the age of 12 should never be left home alone for any length of time.

There is no excuse for this and no plausable reason these mothers did this.

Having been a daycare provider for 18 years, and at the time I was the only stay at home mother in the neighborhood, I know that women who do this do it all the time, not just once or twice.

I had mothers who locked their children out of their home while they went to work, knowing full well that their children would come to my house and be cared for. Then they would refuse to pay me because they had not actually "asked" me to tend their children. DWS did nothing.

This is a selfishness, nothing more, nothing less.

Lasvegaspam
Henderson, NV

Super sorry Meg30, but feeling desperate and helpless (which all people do at times) is NEVER reason to put innocent childrens’ lives at risk. Some people today wouldn’t dream of leaving their dog alone for the length of time these “mothers” left their children.

As a foster mom you must be aware of the thousands of qualified couples just dying to adopt a child and offer love and care. I wonder if any of them would ever choose to leave their innocent child (if they ever are lucky enough to get one, that is) locked up for hours while they went to work?

I guess it’s all about the value one puts on the life and well-being of a child versus the inconvenience of arranging child-care for a parent.

Lasvegaspam
Henderson, NV

Turtles Run, You must be a politician, what with your rhetoric of how “we need to find ways to make quality child-care accessible.” If by that you are suggesting government subsidies, I say, how about encouraging moms to stay at home and raise their own children? Or encouraging women to find a stable, committed man, and marry him BEFORE having a child? Or how about young couples not thinking they need to start out with what their parents worked 30 years to acquire? I know, I know -- such politically-incorrect ideas, but nevertheless prudent.

Child-care is hard work. Hard work which perfectly aligns with each mother willingly doing it for the benefit of her own child. How about that for a model?

My2Cents
Taylorsville, UT

They seem like good caring mothers in a bad situations and trying to make it on their own without government help but apparently its against the law.

So what are these other options and resources when you are alone and turned away if you ask for help from public services?

Parents with children are turned away all the time with petty excesses out of money, out of sympathy, you're a man, and they don't offer any alternatives. These young mothers should be given respect for their independence solutions they had to work with. I'm sure that their entire work day was one of fear for their children well being because I know I was.

I know how it is to be told by public resources they will not help you feed or care for your three children because you are a man, and don't come back. Through many hard times and low income I clothed, fed (they took sack lunches for school), and paid for our home, their needs. But I was always there when public resources didn't care.

Turtles Run
Missouri City, TX

Las Vegas wrote:".....I say, how about encouraging moms to stay at home and raise their own children? Or encouraging women to find a stable, committed man, and marry him BEFORE having a child? Or how about young couples not thinking they need to start out with what their parents worked 30 years to acquire?"

- Many woman are single parents that do not have the luxury of staying home, there must provide for their families in the best way the can find.

- Some men are not what they seem. Many women remove themselves from abusive relationships to protect themselves and their children.

You and everyone else that is criticizing these women do not know their home situations. You are passing judgement on these women without even trying to understand the root cause of why these incidents occurred. These women were going to work to support their families, not going out to the bar.

Instead of self-righteous outrage how about actually doing something about it.

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