As my children grow older, I find my priorities shifting rapidly. Suddenly, the
carpet-like lawn doesn't seem such a pressing need. The weeds on the hill
can wait, and the garage can be cluttered just a bit longer. And I'm not
the first to volunteer for the out-of-state work trip, anymore. I have only a
month left - a *month!* - before my son begins his senior year of high school.
And my daughter isn't far behind. Dads, do all you can to be with your
children as much as possible, because their lives without you (for the most
part) begin much too soon.
This is a very nice article. Thank you DN. I can personally attest that modern
fathers feel a need to spend quantity, not just quality, time with their
children. We should support and applaud men who chose to be at
home, even when that decision comes at the sacrifice of career or church
Nice idea, but many fathers are not necessarily a positive influence in their
family's lives. Some families are better off with an absentee
"Dad".Different strokes for different folks. Hands-on,
engaged fatherhood is not for everyone.
I've always been annoyed when I hear women talk about how they can't
have it all, because guess what, men can't have it all either. I want to
spend as much time with my children as possible, but I have to balance that with
providing a living for my family. None of us can have it all.
I needed this article today. My son's wife just left him...and the
kids.But I truly believe he has it in him to be both a good Dad AND a Mom.
That's just how he is. He's been very involved since day one. I think all Dads should be more involved with their kids, it helps both
of them a lot...and you never know when you will be very glad you have done so.
Did the author purposely ignore the massive single motherhood problem which we
have because of our kangaroo custody courts?Kids are being s
mothered from every angle- schools, the media, etc. It's more fathering
they need to inoculate them against all of that. Mothers, themselves, have a
role, sure. But the father's role has been so deemphasized, it's not
hard to see how the real trend is for young men to avoid marriage and fatherhood
to begin with.
Smaller house, don't eat out much, lesser car, decent job. That's my
future. Enough of this high paying stress garbage.
With increased in productivity technology, there is no reason we can't have
it all, enough money AND time to enjoy it. How?Don't but the
most expensive house you can afford. Buy the least you can get by with.Same with your car. Your clothes and your toys.Take care of
what you have. Do timely repairs on your house and car.Eat healthy
food. Save some out of each pay check.Vote for people who will put
the burden of taxes on those who can afford them most. The well to do. Our
country has gotten wealthier due to increases in technology over the past
several decades, but all this increased wealth has gone to the top (very) few
percent. If the wealth were distributed more equitably, this too would help
enable all of us to earn a decent living and have time to enjoy life.There are jobs that aren't being filled because there aren't enough
people with the required education. You can earn more by researching what these
jobs are and qualifying for them. Get the (right) education. Find something
that society needs and that you are interested in and enjoy doing.
Well said PGViking.If there is a stigma that fathers fear of seeming
to "feminine" by wanting to be kids more, I couldn't care less.The older I get, the ONLY thing that seems more important everyday is my
relationship with my wife and kids. Somewhere along the line, the perfect job,
the nice car, the manicured yard and the image of success has faded into the
sunset.Just give me my wife, my kids and the good health to enjoy
Isn't it time for the LDS faith community, with its emphasis on the
importance of families, to lead out on this issue? Shouldn't LDS
businessmen make it a high priority to ensure their workers have the
accommodations necessary to be able to be real parents? I think Elder Quentin
Cook said it best in a recent conference talk--we LDS should be out in front in
terms of developing family-friendly accommodations in the workplace. Our faith
community should start right here in Utah. Maybe the Church itself could lead
out in terms of its employees . . .