Judging the judgers. Hmmmm. Almost everyone I know judges others harshly in some
area. We do all need to give each other some slack that it's ok to not be
perfect - even in judging. As the general conference quote goes,
"Don't judge me because I sin (or judge)differently than you.".
Lets remember that the Savior loved the Pharisees even though he condemned their
actions. They were an offense to him, but he still loved them. One of the
greatest joys in this life is loving others. Pray to love and appreciate those
who are different than you.
Interesting article. My wife is quite social and enjoys going out with her
friends dancing, dinners, GNO activities, etc. I am sure the activities she
engages in are totally above board, but there are people in the ward who view
her differently. Mostly because she puts it on FB. I do know that
the LDS population can be very judgemental at times. That can cause problems in
friendships. I see this more with the women, than with the men.
The author doesn't say that the VT was pushing her ideas (whatever they
were) during her visit, so that is good. Regardless, there is no requirement to
be friends with your visiting teacher. She and her companion should come over
together at a scheduled time, visit briefly and leave a message, and leave. One
should not feel guilty for not having a relationship with a visitng teacher. If
it happens, great, but that isn't the purpose. If this woman wants to be
friends with the woman assigned to be her visiting teacher, then that exists
outside the VT assignment and VT should not be part of the discussion. If
she's a friend or you want her to be a friend, invite her out to lunch and
then ask the question that Ask Angela proposes. But don't do it in the
It is apparent to me that at least one person in this visiting teaching
relationship is narrow minded. I cannot conceive refusing to associate with
someone because they happen to disagree with me. In fact, my greatest learning
comes from those with different world views and paradigms than mine. That's
how I grow.
@bw00dsSo am I to interpret that you have read those Facebook
comments by what you wrote? You didn't write your opinion, just your
reactions to other's opinions. How about forming your own opinion instead
of simply reacting to others? If I'm being judgmental and
hypocritical and jumping to conclusions without having read any of that
woman's Facebook comments, then you have no legs to stand on because we
just don't know what this woman said on Facebook. No specific clues were
made as to what they were. At least I try my meager best to give
this lady enough benefit of the doubt because we simply don't have all of
the facts. You take little snippets of my opinions and twist them out of
context.I strive to state my honestly formed opinions, not
reactions. I stand by what I write, and if someone doesn't like it, they
are entitled to that. I can live with that. I do hope we learn
something from this article about treating each other with greater kindness,
charity, and love.
@LDS LiberalYou assume so much. Wonder if it was the other way
around...@Bro Ben FranklinI agree with your premise, but
you are being hypocritical. You say don't be judgmental and don't jump
to conclusions. Yet, without having read any of the FB comments to which the
woman is referring, you are doing exactly that.
Don't tell me, let me guess....You are a Tea-Party Republican,
and your Visiting Teacher is Liberal Democrat......and YES, she IS a
This woman needs a talking to from someone who loves her enough to tell her you
should not judge people like that. If you want to know what a person thinks
about something, or what's really going on, ask them politely!!This woman ought to be ashamed of herself. It is people like this that are
the problems in all churches and in life nowadays, that jump to conclusions
without having all of the facts. It is little wonder so many are offended and
don't come back to churches, social groups, schools, and the like because
of thoughtless and inconsiderate things like that. I think some
people just need to have some kind of experience in life that will help
carefully and lovingly show them that people are not always what they seem. Cut
it with the assumptions!!
Visiting Teachers are not a saving ordinance of the gospel. Just ask for someone
else to be assigned, or ask not to be visited at all.If it does not
edify, why waste time with it? Life is too short to waste listening to
narrow-minded people. Move on and find friends who edify your life.
Wow, Angela, what insightful and great advice!The only other thing I
would recommend is to either hide all comments by said person or unfriend the
Loyalty is something I have to learn more about. Because it has to be both ways.
It's got to have something to do with understanding. But by the grace of
God go I. So I'm just trying to be gracious.