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Published: Tuesday, July 16 2013 6:35 p.m. MDT

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byu rugby
Crystal Lake, IL

Firstly, Beauty is only skin deep. Ugly goes to the bone.

Secondly, while I agree with the premise of the article, I still think all people of either gender have a responsibility to do the best they can with what they have been blessed with. So, often especially in college I associated with women who went out of their way to be unattractive or frumpy under the mistaken idea that a real price would see past it. Not so. The best candy bar still requires an appetizing wrapper.

GiuseppeG
Murray, Utah

Does anyone think his wife slugged him after his conversation with her?

BYUtah Fan
Herriman, UT

Yes, men can imagine what it is like to be sized up and judged every day of their lives. Men compete with each other for status, women, money and just about everything else every day of their lives. But enough whining! We all are born with a genetic endowment. Some win the lottery; most don't. Men are primarily attracted visually. That is not going to change. Women are attracted by status - also not going to change. Women have a path for maximizing their attractiveness and so do men. I work hard every day to further my career. I also hit the gym almost every day. It is dominated by men. If women wish to be as attractive as possible to men, they should be there with me. It is not easy. But, you get what you work for, not what you wish for.

Elaine Douglass
Grand, UT

Great story by Katie Harmer. Read it as soon as I saw Dustin Hoffman's pic. He is a truly great actor. I knew that when I saw "Midnight Cowboy." But when I saw "Tootsie," wow! A straight man, disguised as a straight woman, then he turns into a lesbian. Layers of characterization. A truly masterful acting performance. I have nothing but admiration for Dustin Hoffman! As for what the article is about--the pressures on women to look good, yes it is a terrible burden. There's a lot of pressure on men to look good, too. Not as much, and if a guy makes enough money or is a high achiever in the arts, for example, or other fields, it's less. But there is pressure on men too. But the people who REALLY suffer from discrimination because they don't look good is the elderly.

jeanie
orem, UT

I thought it was a very heartwarming epifeny Dustin Hoffman had, and that he made it public is wonderful and humble thing for him to do. A woman should not have to be "attractive" in the sense Hoffman described to be worth associating with. He wasn't saying he regreted not being attracted to these women, he regretted not associating with them because they didn't measure up to what he had been brainwashed into believing women needed to look like to be worthy of a man's time.

He explained that once he had been made up by professionals to be as attractive as nature allowed he recognized that if he were actually a woman he would not have measure up and he felt how painful that would be. Thanks to our popular culture this is a common fear of many women.

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