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Published: Tuesday, July 16 2013 5:00 a.m. MDT

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george of the jungle
goshen, UT

I'm pretty confident about the 3 questions. I have a Big problem with regrets. I'm sad and feel heart broke about some thing stupid I've done. A black cloud has came over me. I can't change or undo or make any thing better. I think that haven is looking at me sideways. There wouldn't be any consequences hear on earth but I'm sick about my actions. I stuck in a dark place.

MPeace
Provo, Utah

Is gravity with you. Is it still holding you to earth. The One that loves you created the law that makes it exist. Therefore, He is always with you and loves you. It is not His fault if you misuse it. Therefore all things written in the Scriptures are excellent for learning and reproof to be safe.

Christmas Carole
LAS CRUCES, NM

...I write this with tears in my eyes...THANK YOU!, sweetheart. "Beauty is about the contents of the package, not the wrapping". From one who has been told that my "wrapping" is pretty, I can emphatically say...IT DOES NOT MATTER. I have spent a lifetime asking those three questions, as probably many have. I have had forty years of two failed marriages and am alone as many others are. I have spent years striving to tap into the divine, eternal, and beautiful core that my Heavenly Father lovingly bestowed upon me. May we all accomplish that within the precious time allotted....

G L W8
SPRINGVILLE, UT

Just a little curious, Jason. What kind of response did you get? It'd be interesting to know if you touched "the one" or more you felt impressed to reach out to. Certainly, your column should reach out to a few more.
As to George of the Jungle, seek to obtain the Lord's forgiveness, then forgive yourself. Regrets can kill, especially if others remind us of past mistakes. But if the Lord has forgiven, and you have, that doesn't matter.
We're all in the same situation. We're here to gain experience. We have to learn from the bad ones as well as the good, and move on.

G L W8
SPRINGVILLE, UT

Just a little curious, Jason. What kind of response did you get? It'd be interesting to know if you touched "the one" or more you felt impressed to reach out to. Certainly, your column should reach out to a few more.
As to George of the Jungle, seek to obtain the Lord's forgiveness, then forgive yourself. Regrets can kill, especially if others remind us of past mistakes. But if the Lord has forgiven, and you have, that doesn't matter.
We're all in the same situation. We're here to gain experience. We have to learn from the bad ones as well as the good, and move on.

ALH
Enumclaw, WA

To George of the Jungle: I, too have been tormented by dozens of faux pas in my life that occurred decades ago. It seems to be one way the adversary keeps me feeling negative about myself. He wants us to feel helpless, hopeless, worthless, and generally inadequate. My husband and I lead the local Addiction Recovery Program. The associated manual (available online) is powerful for every person trying to grow personally, regardless of the nature or severity of their challenges. Ultimately, one has to do what they can to recognize their character weakness, then enlist the Lord's help in changing them and asking His help in taking away the pain associated with those memories.

donn
layton, UT

RE: Beauty is about the contents of the package, not the wrapping. You deserve to know this and to never forget it.

Sinners are beautiful because they are loved; they are not loved because they are beautiful. God’s love is not dependent upon our achievements, nor can we earn our salvation. We do not need to be high achievers to become Christians; it is God, not us, who achieve things. ”Martin Luther”, Justification by faith.

Tyler D
Meridian, ID

@Christmas Carole

Beautiful comment Carole. I wish you all the best in your efforts to “tap into the divine” whatever that may look like for you. Reading some of these comments (e.g., donn from Layton) I’m reminded of a Hindu proverb:

““There are hundreds of paths up the mountain, all leading to the same place, so it doesn’t matter which path you take. The only person wasting time is the one who runs around the mountain telling everyone that his or her path is wrong.”

Keep searching for your path… it’s out there.

ulvegaard
Medical Lake, Washington

@ALH and George of the Jungle,

I can appreciate the burden that comes from regrets; especially of things that cannot be changed. But I am reminded that Salvation is just about being good, its also about doing good. We can't change the past, but we can determine the future. I am convinced that the Lord looks upon us, not so much by what mistakes we have made, but by what we are currently doing to improve our situation and the situation of those around us. The Atonement covered the mistakes, but it does not force us to do better --- but if we will do better, then the Atonement becomes infinitely brighter, if that is even possible.

I try to remind my little girls regularly how beautiful they are -- and not just because they are cute, but because of all the wonderful things they do.

terra nova
Park City, UT

Hope you helped someone. But the article felt pretty light-weight. Wouldn't it have made more sense to focus on serving others? Wouldn't that tend to address all these issues more effectively?

donn
layton, UT

RE: Tyler D, I’m reminded of a Hindu proverb: “There are hundreds of paths up the mountain, all leading to the same place, so it doesn’t matter which path you take. The only person wasting time is the one who runs around the mountain telling everyone that his or her path is wrong.”

Jesus said, “I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one can come to the Father except through me. (John 14:6)and See John 3:36 .

Gildas
LOGAN, UT

It seems to be one way the adversary keeps me feeling negative about myself. He wants us to feel helpless, hopeless, worthless, and generally inadequate.

QUOTE

"Ye cannot say that ye are even as much as the dust of the earth; yet ye were created out of the dust of the earth; but behold, it belongeth to him who created you.."

Mosiah 2:25

Moontan
Roanoke, VA

It's one thing to say forgive yourself and press ahead, but quite another to actually do it. Bad memories don't disappear because 'things are different now'. The embarrassments and regrets, the guilt, are alive and well for many of us. Certainly for me, anyway. Yes, I've received God's forgiveness, but I still remember ...

I think it was Milton who wrote "thy contempt for life seems to argue for something more sublime within you". Bingo, I thought when I read that years ago. The very contempt for the things I've done which I'm not proud of proves there is a better part of me, an essential part of me, that I can be proud of. I hang on to that, and resolve to never repeat the bad actions about which I castigate myself.

I think God is more interested in my ATTEMPTING to overcome, than in me actually achieving it.

Tyler D
Meridian, ID

@donn – “Jesus said, “I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one can come to the Father except through me. (John 14:6)and See John 3:36.”

Assuming this is an exact quote from Jesus – questionable since it was written by a guy on a small Greek island around 80 years after Jesus died and no other gospel has this quote (or many others found exclusively in John) – are you 100% positive you know what it means?

In other words, are you sure it’s a call to belief (in propositions) and not a call to action (the same action espoused by many teachers throughout history)?

I M LDS 2
Provo, UT

Sounds like his speech was pandering to people for whom life is all about themselves - If you are worried about whether you are loved, beautiful, and divine, doesn't that mean you are one of the Kardashians?

Moontan
Roanoke, VA

@I M LDS... No, not at all. It means one is a living, feeling human being with normal needs and concerns.

One doesn't reach Kardashians levels until image and cameras are divine.

I would hope one can tell the difference, but holler if not.

donn
layton, UT

@Tyler D: are you 100% positive you know what it means(John 14:6)?

Acts 4:12, (NIV)Salvation is found in no one else, for there is no other name under heaven given to mankind by which we must be saved.

Ephesians 2:18(NLT) Now all of us CAN come to the Father through the same Holy Spirit because of what Christ has done for us.

Hebrews 10:20 (AMP) By this fresh (new) and living way which He initiated and dedicated and opened for us through the separating curtain (veil of the Holy of Holies), that is, through His flesh,

cindyb
CASPER, WY

I truly believe in inspiration and have been greatly blessed by speakers and others who have listened to the spirit and taken action by doing what they are prompted to do. If a feeling to change the topic was experienced, then it was most likely meant to help someone there, and we are the beneficiaries too. I believe that the small details of our lives matter to our Father in Heaven and he uses these to tutor us in the finer things of the spirit.

Tyler D
Meridian, ID

@donn – “Acts 4:12, Ephesians 2:18, Hebrews 10:20, et al…”

donn, I understand that for you the Bible is authorative but for many it is just another book. For those people (me included) all arguments as appeals to the Bible are circular and ultimately take the following form:

“I believe X, Y, Z because the Bible says so. Well why is that authoritative? Because God wrote, dictated, inspired, etc. the Bible. Well how do you know that? Because the Bible says so.”

See what I mean?

This is wholly unconvincing to anyone who believes the Bible is simply a collection of (wise) books written by Bronze Age men.

Think about it this way – why don’t you lose any sleep over the same sort of arguments related to the Quran, since around one billion people think it is (also) the “perfect word of the Creator?”

teeoh
Anytown, KY

Tyler D, I've heard that saying about different paths up the mountain many times before, usually by people who wish to feel comfort in believing that we can take any path we want and we all somehow end up at the same place.

I appreciate the beauty of the saying, and even acknowledge the truth found in it (that we each have a unique journey). But I think the question we need to ask is, which mountain have we chosen to climb?

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