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Published: Tuesday, July 9 2013 5:31 p.m. MDT

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suzyk#1
Mount Pleasant, UT

These poor babies - all I can do is shake my head at the lack of responsibility these young mothers choose to show. So many images come into my mind of what could have happened to that precious, innocent baby. It just makes me shudder at the laxness of Mothers such as this one. And yet, what is wonderful is there are more Mothers who are responsible, loving and protective of their children.

Kate Hutch
Kenmore, WA

Not every woman is cut out to be a mother. The sooner you accept that, the better off we will all be. Do not define a woman's role in life. Let her find it herself.

Reasonable Person
Layton, UT

@suzyk#1
This was not a "young mother"; this was a 32-year-old woman.

Mental illness, post-partum depression?
At least she didn't harm the child, but left it somewhere where it would be found quickly -- in one of Utah's "best" neighborhoods.

We don't know how many other children this woman has, or what else went on in her life.

Did she do the right thing? Probably not; but the alternatives are worse.

samhill
Salt Lake City, UT

To "Kate Hutch", who advises us that, "Not every woman is cut out to be a mother. The sooner you accept that, the better off we will all be. Do not define a woman's role in life. Let her find it herself."

So, tell us Kate, if we accept that this woman is not "cut out to be a mother" but who, nevertheless, **is**, and who furthermore abandons the baby she is the mother of, do you honestly think we or, more importantly, the child, is better off if we simply accept the fact that she abandoned her child and leave it at that?

Is that what you're trying to say? Because, coming in the context of this story, that's about the only conclusion available.

It is certainly possible, and considering these circumstances, probable that this woman should **not** be the guardian of this child, whether she's the mother or not. BUT, it is an unreasonable stretch to say that she is somehow not responsible for her negligence and/or that society should simply "accept" it.

Strider303
Salt Lake City, UT

Uh, Kate in Kenmore. It is true that some people seem ill prepared for roles they find themselves in. I suggest that the biological mother of this infant seemed OK with conceiving and delivering the child and retaining custody. So I presume she agreed to the basic concept of motherhood by her actions up to this point.

If she wants to find her own way, I suggest she put the child up for adoption, let us not forget the father in the matter, his rights need to be addressed too, if he's available.

In the end we cry that protective services are for the child yet his/her interests are the least and last concern as we spend time and funds trying to put innocent children back with broken adults to form some form of "family" when it would be in the best interests of the the child, the victim of poor or abusive care, to sever all ties and place him/her with a stable married couple who can provide nurture and shelter and care.

acgirl
SALT LAKE CITY, UT

I think you guys are taking Kate Hutch too literally and pinpointed to the situation. She's making general commentary about how people who are irresponsible should not have children. I agree with this statement.It's also a very political jab at our state culture where as a whole the state seems to believe that women are supposed to be mothers first, whether they like it or not, and everything else second. I'm definitely not cut out to be a mother to a baby. Not that I'm not responsible...people make fun of me for being overly responsible, but I just am not comfortable.

cassadove
Tampa, FL

Why isn't this woman being arrested and charged for negligence or potential child endangerment? This is yet another reason my husband and I WON'T be raising our children in Utah... Sheesh. Get your act together, Salt Lake City police.

Kate Hutch
Kenmore, WA

samhill : "if we simply accept the fact that she abandoned her child and leave it at that?" Nowhere in my post did I say that.

acgirl: You got it. Not everybody is cut out to be a mother. When girls are young, they need to know they have a choice on whether or not to marry and/or bear children, and to know that choosing not to become a parent is a perfectly legitimate choice. They should be given choices in life and told that not everybody has to become a mother, that being an aunt or relative of children is sufficient if they don't feel moved to parent a child. They should not be shamed into motherhood because society expects them to birth and parent a child or children.

How many diapers have you changed, samhill?

Kate Hutch
Kenmore, WA

Strider303: You write: "I suggest that the biological mother of this infant seemed OK with conceiving and delivering the child and retaining custody. So I presume she agreed to the basic concept of motherhood by her actions up to this point."
How can you possibly know the circumstance surrounding the conception and birth of this child? Were you there? Are you another male who feels free to comment on women's private reproductive health issues? Can I comment on YOUR private health issues? Come on, let's hear them!

We have politicians telling us that a woman won't get pregnant from rape, and if a woman does get pregnant from rape, she should bear the child. Make lemonade. It's a gift from God. And this golden nugget: If it's a legitimate rape, the body won't allow pregnancy to happen - which is not true. The current scientific consensus is that rape is as likely to lead to pregnancy as consensual sexual intercourse - to the tune of 25,000 to 33,000 pregnancies per year in the United States, depending on the source.

Kate Hutch
Kenmore, WA

Anyway, the point is that nobody knows what this mother is going through. Post-partum depression? Does she have access to resources to deal with that in this richest nation on earth? Is she poor? Did she want this child? We simply do not have all the information needed to make a judgement, and so I suggest you NOT judge. Let he who is without sin....and all that.

Juan Figuroa
Seattle, WA

Wow, Kate Hutch. Your screed against being judgmental is awfully...um...judgmental.

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