Many years ago my mom had 3 under 3 - which was not uncommon then and isn't
really all that uncommon now - and she would put us all down for naps and then
try to grab some shut eye herself, since she was usually up at various points
during the night. One day a neighbor called, waking my mother from her nap,
informing my mom that my brother, who was not quite 2, was running around
outside as naked as the day he was born. This was the end of naps
for my mother and the start of many naked trips around the block by my brother.
There are a great many explanations for what happened - very few of
them are criminal and none of them are deserving of life in prison.
I've never been in this situation as a Mother but have observed different
situations such as this. When you have several children and they are precocious
and very active it seems to me to be almost impossible to watch them every
minute, get the cleaning, washing and ironing and everything else done that a
Mother has to do and still keep an idea on those children. They don't want
to be cooped up inside, being children, their thinking is that waiting is not
for them so they do what they want and not what they are told. My heart goes out
to these young Mothers and the challenges they have. I really don't know
how they manage to do what they do.
It's fascinating that while police have to conduct an investigation to find
out what happened and whether anything criminal transpired, at least one reader
here has already reached the conclusion that the parent or guardian is so
incredibly guilty that a life sentence in prison is mandated. And while another
commentator tells us that the child was "incredibly filthy", anyone
who's raised a child knows how quickly a two year old can cover himself
with dirt while playing outside. Let's find the facts before we act,
@Reasonable PersonI don't know if you are a parent or not, but
it is certainly reasonable and reality that a person in charge of a child takes
a nap.Here's another scenario: Child in care of a babysitter.
Somehow the toddler gets out while supposedly taking a nap. Sitter doesn't
know how long toddler takes a nap and doesn't want to chance waking it. The
parents get home. Hours have now passed. They check on their child, who is gone.
They call the police. So now the accurate news story is as printed. Especially
if the other details are not known.Don't pass judgment. Just be
glad the toddler ended up being safe.
Ah, how quickly we jump to judgment regarding something about which we know
The child was reported as "absolutely filthy", and wasn't just gone
a few minutes. HOURS elapsed before "a relative" called to report the
child missing.Hours should not have elapsed. You don't
"take a nap" while in charge of a child.
Years ago I lived in Germany and put my 2 year old son to bed. It was still
very light outside. While I was in my office with my two other children, my son
climbed out of bed, opened the front door and went for a walk. German doors
have levers as handles and mine did not have a dead bolt lock. A while later I
noticed the front door was wide open, and after about 10 long long minutes, we
found him. After that we had to look the door on the inside (with my keys) to
prevent this from happening again. Was I was a bad mother who needed to be put
in jail for life? Of course not, I was young and underestimated what my 2 year
old could do, so let's not jump to conclusions and condemn the parents too
Wise words, Nan.
It might seem that great negligence is involved here, but it could be that the
2-year old is skillful in escape techniques. It could be that someone who was
supposed to be in charge thought the toddler was taking a nap, or any one of
other odd possibilities. I would never want to sit in judgment of scenarios such
as this without knowing a lot more than the article explains.Our son
once found a toddler walking along 3900 South at 4AM in winter when he was
returning from work. He took the toddler to a nearby convenience store and
authorities were summoned. Our son was told that he would be given a call so he
would know the child made it to a secure place, but he never learned anything.
We always felt bad that he wasn't given an update for his peace of mind.
However, we know from experience that young children can manage amazing feats.
Our daughter was once locked in her basement by her 2-year old, who then fell
asleep. He could have been blocks away by the time she was able to escape the
basement via window. Naturally she was in panic.
Why was no one arrested and thrown in jail.......for life!