George - A good mom without a good dad is only half the team!
Thanks for the praise, But I know it's all because my kids have a good
Having a mom and a dad in the life of a child is like having a body with two
working feet. Walking is so much more successful with both. These
studies point out the obvious. A child has more balance, more ability to move
forward confidently, more stability, etc., with both feet, like close
association with a mom and a dad. Studies are necessary because there are
elements that say children only need one "foot" (a mom) and do just
fine. Yes, children can get along with only one parent, and
unfortunately often through no fault of a parent, a child is left with only one.
Their life is not doomed, but it is harder than it would have been with two
functioning parents, a mom and a dad, just like walking is much smoother with
two feet than one.
@Ted --"which usually have plenty of confounding variables and
are not intended to be prove causation. There are so many exceptions to the rule
that it's difficult for me to give the rule much validity."You are absolutely correct here, Ted.Parents are great things. Two
parents creating stable, loving homes for children are great things. We all know
this.But none of this research actually proves -- or is even
constructed to prove -- that FATHERS in particular, as opposed to two stable
parents in general, are great things. For instance, none of these studies
compare stable straight homes to stable gay homes or stable lesbian homes -- so
none of these studies show how such homes would compare.Therefore,
the results of such research should never be -- but often is -- misapplied to
the issue of gay marriages.Yup, fathers are great. But that
doesn't mean stable gay or lesbian are any *less* great.
Ted's Head,The world needs to be told what Feet are for. If
the people who have figured out how to walk don't help other people walk as
well, then they will just roll around all day going nowhere.
Great article, it fits the day. How can anyone against an article like this?
unless you're for same sex parents in which the child has either two dads
or two moms - is that your point Ted's Head?
@ Ted's Head. It is kind of like saying wear your seat belt. Yes their is
a .1% chance that is you get in an accident you will not be able to get out, but
then their is the 99.9% chance it will reduce injury. The basic jist is that
have a father around is good for kids. While no man is perfect, the majority of
them are a positive influence in their children's lives. Unfortunately,
society and many women do not hold this view. Watch TV and the father is almost
always the dufus in the family. I hear alot of women who complain about their
husbands. He works too much (is he trying to pay for your spending habits?) He
is not decisive ( do you criticize every decision he makes?) He never does
anything with me (are you ever interested in things he wants to do?)The value of fathers is pretty clear, anecdotal evidence to the contrary.
Unfortunately, both society and their spouses often undercut that.
Truly...I am not just being contrary when I say that this type of article and
its associated "research" has little value to me. Might as well say
"feet are good" and go on to support the idea that having two feet means
that you have better families, will get better grades in school, do better at
sports, etc. I'm not pushing an agenda of any kind; merely reacting to the
massively broad brush strokes that are used in interpreting research study
results, which usually have plenty of confounding variables and are not intended
to be prove causation. There are so many exceptions to the rule that it's
difficult for me to give the rule much validity.
This is an excellent article! Thank you, DN, for publishing this. Great
fathers are essential to the welfare of each child and the strength of the
Fantastic article! We all know of the importance of father's, but these
days it's good to get studies that show some reasons why they are so
important. Society has strayed from recognizing the importance and necessity of
fatherhood and having a father in the home. The impact of fathers on children is
priceless. Pop culture subtly (and not so subtly) promotes
otherwise, but hopefully we and the rising generation will see it for what it