My husband Alex Boye grilled in UK for 'I'm a Mormon' campaign


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  • John Pack Lambert of Michigan Ypsilanti, MI
    June 24, 2013 8:22 p.m.

    There are clearly biased and combative ways to ask things. To phrase what some count as sacred as 'secret" is clearly an attack method.

    It is all the more odd considering how many Hindus there are in England and that many Hindu Temples do not allow in non-believers, or the many Muslims in Britain, and non-Muslims being banned from Mecca. However the BBC has not fully accepted the new Britain.

  • JM Lehi, UT
    June 24, 2013 3:28 a.m.

    I think we're all proud of you & your husband!

    ..even the anti-Mormons who hang out here in the comment sections, work in media, etc : ) :) how could anyone not love you?

    To the critics in sheeps clothing: my Black family members have never felt discriminated against among Mormons, only among anti-Mormons& the LDS Church has always had fewer issues than ya'll, so look to that beam first : ) still luvya'll & miss you.

    &I agree that anyone may go to the LDS Temple, it just takes a little time. Also, while the Temple Ordinances (Sacraments) were kept sacred by early Christians, there are some Christians that now let non-Members view (Armenian Apostolic etc) you can also learn much by reading on LDS.org, FAIRlds (The Israelite Temple& Early Christians) etc etc

  • MormonDemocrat Salt Lake City, UT
    June 21, 2013 2:35 p.m.

    If you are going to be part of a very high profile PR campaign for the Church, you better be prepared for some tough questions by the media. They are not going to just report all the warm, fuzzy stuff we put forward without asking some questions. I am sure addressing the media inquiries was stressful and difficult, but it should not have been a surprise. Let's get over this idea that we are being persecuted when we thrust ourselves into the public discourse and then are met with normal curiosity and even skepticism. All that said, from what I have seen of Alex Boye, I am sure he did a great job. He is a pro.

    June 19, 2013 8:30 p.m.

    {Part 2}

    "Unlike many religions, one does not need to publicly profess belief in Shinto to be a believer. Whenever a child is born in Japan, a local Shinto shrine adds the child's name to a list kept at the shrine and declares him or her a "family child" (氏子 ujiko). After death an ujiko becomes a "family spirit", or "family kami" (氏神 ujigami). One may choose to have one's name added to another list when moving and then be listed at both places. Names can be added to the list without consent and regardless of the beliefs of the person added to the list. This is not considered an imposition of belief, but a sign of being welcomed by the local kami, with the promise of addition to the pantheon of kami after death."

    Sound familiar? so how come Shintoists in Japan get to do that (essentially follow the family around with a "Ward List" and keep temple death records) but Utah Mormons get strung up for it?

    June 19, 2013 8:29 p.m.

    {Part 1}

    @GK Willington

    Oh, 'cause a carefully constructed propaganda piece is infinitely more reliable than personal experience, eh? (My graduate was in Film Producing, I know propaganda when I see it.)

    As I look back at it, just some of the sites from the denominations I named are member-only:

    Coptic (Ethiopia): St. Mary of Zion church
    Muslims: Entire city of Mecca
    Hindus: This requires adherence to make a pilgrimage to, say, Swaminarayan Akshardham, but Hinduism has no concept for apostasy or blasphemy. All are accepted. Now, explain to me how that is different from the one-year-before-admittance policy of Mormons.
    Taoism: Dai Temple
    Buddhism: This all depends on the amount of sacrifice you are willing to make to reform your life and make a pilgrimage to one of their holy sites. (Again, explain to me the difference . . . ?) I'm very familiar with Buddhism, having a Buddhist wife.
    Shintoism: Okay, in context of the temple conversation we are having, this falls down. I only added them because they sounded cool, but when I looked up the details, their places of worship are very open. However, there was this tidbit that will sound familiar to Mormon-subject nitpickers:

  • atl134 Salt Lake City, UT
    June 19, 2013 2:07 p.m.

    "When I go to the doctor, isn't what I talk to the doctor about just between me and the doctor, or would you consider that secret also."

    Technically, yes, but I tend to use the term personal for that.

    "Do you understand my point of view?"

    Yes, which is why I figure we're mostly just arguing over semantics.

    "I don't get why anyone who isn't mormon cares."

    Depends on the person. My dad who is agnostic doesn't care since he figures if someone wants to give him a sort of insurance policy in case that church is right, it can't hurt. For my grandmother who is a devout Catholic, she viewed it as an insult to her faith to suggest that her baptism was illegitimate to the point she'd need another one by proxy.

  • JayTee Sandy, UT
    June 19, 2013 10:49 a.m.

    Far too many media people in every country get a few "sound-bite" tidbits, and then automatically come across as experts on any given topic. It's the way it is there, it's the way it is here, it's like that everywhere. If you've ever had first-hand experience with a situation and then seen how it can be skewed in publication, you know how the game works.

  • donn layton, UT
    June 19, 2013 9:06 a.m.

    @LDS Revelations,President J Reuben Clark once said of the LDS Church: "If we have the truth, it cannot be harmed by investigation. If we have not the truth, it ought to be harmed."

    RE: MoJules, one of the reasons Mormons were driven out of areas was because they did not support slavery?

    RE: History of the Church, Volume 5, pages 218-19

  • GK Willington Salt Lake City, UT
    June 18, 2013 9:31 p.m.

    to Number6

    Didn't watch Religulous w/ B Maher did you?

  • Mister J Salt Lake City, UT
    June 18, 2013 9:29 p.m.

    It's ridiculous that someone is being grilled over something such as this.

    to Malihini & Mayfair

    I thought I had some of the answers. They were probably identical to what you two got.

    Turns out, I still have have not found what I'm looking for.

    That is the beauty of life is the beauty of life; its dynamic and fluid not static and absolute.

  • David W. Brigham City, UT
    June 18, 2013 8:32 p.m.

    Could someone please provide the link to the BBC World Service interview with Alex Boye. It does not appear to be in the story. When searching on Google, an older interview with Alex comes up but not the combative one mentioned in the Deseret News article.

  • Hollybugs Eagle river , AK
    June 18, 2013 7:32 p.m.

    Dear Julie,
    I just wanted you to know how thankful I am for your sacrifices so your hubby can continue on this journey. We were stationed with the Air Force in Ft Walton Beach, FL, the first time I had ever heard of your husband. He did a free concert for our stake and I didn't attend because my hubby was deployed and I had small kids. BUT, he attended our sacrament meeting the next morning and it was fast Sunday. He was asked to sing and he chose "How Great Thou Art" and melted my heart! I had been really struggling with my own testimony and was so strengthened by his. I had to bear my testimony as I could feel it swell inside me! I am a convert of almost 26 years and would have a hard time answering those questions. Sometimes all we can do is bear that amazing testimony and say we don't have all the answers but we cannot deny the gift and knowledge we have received from God. Please know how thankful we all are for you and your husband and all you have done!
    With love,
    Holly :o)

  • The Caravan Moves On Enid, OK
    June 18, 2013 4:39 p.m.

    @ atl134 - Salt Lake City, UT, @The Caravan Moves On
    "we can know that Satan is scared by what we are achieving in the Lord's vineyard and smile thinking about our eventual victory over all that is evil"

    Someone's being overdramatic today..."

    Nope, not over-dramatic...just speaking the truth. Someday you'll see that for yourself.


  • GD Syracuse, UT
    June 18, 2013 4:37 p.m.

    The African American's hold the priesthood, go to the temple and are welcome in every detail as any other person inthe LDS Church. Why they weren't accepted or allowed to attend Christian churches during the 50's and 60's was a much greater problem in my eyes.

  • Noodlekaboodle Poplar Grove, UT
    June 18, 2013 4:05 p.m.

    OK, So I don't get the temple thing. I mean, I don't get why anyone who isn't mormon cares. I mean, I know you do baptisms and marriages for the dead, not really my thing, but hey, if it makes you feel better go for it. The real issue is the whole black people are inferior to whites and can't hold the priesthood thing(pre 1978)There have been no good answers, leaving people to draw their own conclusions. Joseph Smith ordained black people with the priesthood, then Brigham Young stopped the practice. For the next 100 plus years no blacks were allowed to hold the priesthood. Then there was a revelation, and poof, black people are equals. There are some issues that are unavoidable, the biggest being that most religon(and all atheists) don't believe in direct revelation. To them it seems like a PR stunt, maybe the church was getting popular in Brazil, and many people there have african heritage.....

  • cindyacre Shelley, ID
    June 18, 2013 4:01 p.m.

    With regard to Mr. Boye's experience with the reporter, he wasn't given enough time to answer in a satisfactory way. He should have brought that to the attention of the questioner, whose motivation obviously was not to acquire information or knowledge. You can refute "barrage" type questioning by asking what the intent of the questioning is, ask for enough time to answer. If that is too much to ask of the reporter, then the reporter isn't doing their job.

  • LordPillsbury Mcminnville, OR
    June 18, 2013 3:42 p.m.

    I think we all need to be ready to answer questions of the gospel, however in this type of situation you could just honestly say, " I think these are all great questions, but to try and explain the "how's" and "why's" in 30 seconds, I would simply say to those honestly seeking answers is to invite those missionaries into your home and ask them. They will be able to explain in greater detail, through scripture, the answers."

    I think we as Latter-day Saints forget the rule of "inviting" to meet with the missionaries. This reminds me of when Brandon Flowers, lead singer for "The Killers" was ambushed on Norwegian TV show when they also invited famous atheist Richard Dawkins and watch the reaction of a very uncomfortable Flowers. Flowers was invited under the pretense of talking about his music as was I'm sure Alex Boye' was.

  • WRK Riverton, UT
    June 18, 2013 3:27 p.m.

    First, thank you for the honest discussion and candor. I did not take it in the nefarious or shady way, and I do appreciate you clarifying that.

    Now, let me try another way. When I go to the doctor, isn't what I talk to the doctor about just between me and the doctor, or would you consider that secret also. I am not being facetious, just trying to understand your definition of secret, that way, we could come to an agreement.

    If, indeed you find that as secret, then I agree with you, that we have sacred secrets. That just sounds wrong though and because it sounds wrong, I personally don't like to see it that way.

    Personally, I like to see it that I have a sacred relationship with my Father in Heaven. Do you understand my point of view?

  • snowman Provo, UT
    June 18, 2013 3:17 p.m.

    A1994: Just so you know, People who are doing family history and run across relatives who were holocaust victims can and should baptize those relatives.

  • atl134 Salt Lake City, UT
    June 18, 2013 2:36 p.m.

    Okay, I'm pretty sure you, like most LDS members, do not discuss the endowment ceremony with non-members or even a lot of members who haven't been through the temple, at least not in great detail. The reason given for this is that it's sacred (hence all the comments here about "if you want to know then get baptized and be temple worthy"). I accept that it's considered sacred... but it's still a secret. Considering it sacred is just the reason for why it's treated in a rather secretive manner. I feel like it's kinda disingenuous to say there are no secrets but then say you have to be part of a particular group to know about it.

    We might very well still disagree (I'm aware you might be at your comment limit here) but I guess our disagreement would be based on what the definition of a secret is. For me, a secret is something that is kept limited in access, it doesn't have to be anything nefarious or shady (my apologies if it sounded like I was suggesting that).

  • tdorf Boise, ID
    June 18, 2013 2:07 p.m.

    Chris B, many of the mormon temple ceremonies are available via hidden camera footage on YouTube, if you really want to know what goes on in the temple. The ceremonies are sacred, not secret, so it doesn't really hurt anything for you to see.

  • WRK Riverton, UT
    June 18, 2013 1:56 p.m.



  • atl134 Salt Lake City, UT
    June 18, 2013 1:11 p.m.

    I still think my analogy holds. I'm aware of the "sacred not secret" argument, I just don't agree with it. To me the more accurate phrasing would be "secret because it's sacred". I think secret just has a negative connotation that is desired to be avoided. Fact is that you make a covenant to keep parts of the ceremony secret (obviously I won't say what it is out of respect) which is fine... just don't pretend you aren't doing something you're doing, that's all.

  • terra nova Park City, UT
    June 18, 2013 1:04 p.m.

    One of the best tactics Alex could have used when broad-sided by rapid-fire questions is to laugh out loud and say, "Oh! This is really funny. Some of the Brits I've met told to expect something like this. They warned me that some radio, TV and print journalists try to take you by surprise and ask questions that are way off topic. They asked me not be think all Brits like that. And I've learned that most of of the people in your lovely country are wonderful people. In fact, most of the strongest early members of my church came from England." Then wait a moment and, while they reload, laugh again and add, "Listen, I'm happy to direct you to people who can answer that question fully and completely. In fact, to those of you listening, go to LDS.org to find answers to these and other questions. That's LDS.ORG"

    "As you know, I am not an official spokesman for my church. It is better by far to go to the source... Would you be offended if I redirected your questions to my career in music?"

  • Shelama SALT LAKE CITY, UT
    June 18, 2013 12:45 p.m.

    If Mormon beliefs are weird at all then the weirdest are those that derive from the Bible.

    Indeed, believing that the Bible is the word of a god and not purely man-made may be the weirdest of all.

  • Redshirt1701 Deep Space 9, Ut
    June 18, 2013 12:22 p.m.

    To "Chris B" on the LDS web site there is a page that has a form you can fill out, and 2 nice young missionaries can come by your house and answer those questions for you.

    If you want to know what goes on inside the temple without talking with the missionaries, you can go to the LDS web site and do some searches there.

    Another thing that you and "Red Corvette" should do would be to go to a Temple Openhouse. There will probably be one for the new Provo Temple in a couple of years, and hopefully there will be one for the Ogden Temple when that is done in a couple of years. If you are more anxious, there should be an openhouse in Ft. Lauderdale Florida for the temple there later this year or early next year.

    Rather than relying on what others say, why no go and see for yourself?

  • dixiebrit Springville, UT
    June 18, 2013 12:03 p.m.


    I agree with your Swedish reader, Europe can be quite combative. After living in the UK with my British husband for about 8 years, I've come to understand that the British are very blunt, don't beat about the bush and they also tend to go on the attack when someone like Alex (a UK homeboy) does well. They seem to have it out for those who do well and you have to put up with quite a lot from the British press if you want to make something of yourself.

    That being said, I'm sure Alex has seen it all before. It was probably a bit of a shock after the "niceness" of Utah. By the way, my British non-member husband LOVES it in Utah and calls himself the best Mormon non-member you would know.

  • Gracie Boise, ID
    June 18, 2013 11:13 a.m.

    To Red Corvette who said, "They are all honest and valid questions. So sorry if they make you feel uncomfortable, because they should. You should be asking them yourselves."

    You must have missed the part of the article that said we solid LDS already HAVE struggled to understand comoplicated issues like these for many years. We love the truth we learn as we do this. The problem isn't the questions or what can be learned from the answers, but that one cannot condense those deeply important answers into a few seconds of a sound bite, especially during the pressurized and unexpectated snake pit of a brutal interview. You've got to know that philosophical studies of any kind, such as this, require much time and desire to master. The "journalists" know this and they probably have already heard at least a portion of the answers before. The intent was to embarrass a decent person--that worked--and undermine truth in the process--that didn't happen.

  • MrNirom1 Clatskanie, OR
    June 18, 2013 10:37 a.m.

    There are many doctrines which when taught out of order, are not accepted. There were many doctrines and mysteries of the Kingdom of God that were revealed to Joseph that the Saints did not understand and did not accept. Christ admonished us not to cast our pearls before swine. We don't have to answer every question posed to us.

  • DonO Draper, UT
    June 18, 2013 10:04 a.m.

    The BBC is notorious for it's "ambush" tactics. (Remember what they did to Jeffery Holland?) Per Red Corvette and Chris, the questions they asked Boye may be legitimate but their MO is reprehensible.

  • Mona Beaverton, OR
    June 18, 2013 9:27 a.m.

    Julie, cheers to you and Alex for standing tall under public scrutiny, and for you holding down the fort alone. Thousands of us have been in that position and know it's tough.

  • jsegovia Lexington, MA
    June 18, 2013 8:36 a.m.

    Thanks so much to Alex and Julie for the wonderful way in which they demonstrate and live their values. This past Sunday I had the opportunity to speak to Debbie Osmond and pass along my appreciation for her husband Donny and the wonderful representative he is for our church, and I gratefully extend the same thanks to Alex and Julie.

    Is there an internet link where I can hear the interview?

  • WRK Riverton, UT
    June 18, 2013 7:39 a.m.

    To Chris B. and atl134 (part 2),

    Look what is being done to those things that some believe are sacred today. The family is being redefined; white males that are 35-50 are the demons of humanity - no matter what good they do; the list can go on and on.

    Again I say, as has been said: anyone can go into the temples if they fill requirements to do so, just the same as you filling requirements to belong to a bank, be able to drink, or any other worldly thing that has regulations surrounding it. I believe the requirements to enter the temple are easier than any that I have just metioned.

  • WRK Riverton, UT
    June 18, 2013 7:38 a.m.

    To Chris B. and atl134 (part 1), since it is apparent in most of your posts that you are both set in your ways against the LDS church for something that offended you in your past, this post will mean nothing to you, but may help someone else understand about the sacredness of temples.

    The best analogy I can use is that of your own homes. Would you let just anyone into your homes, even those that try to destroy you. How would you know if someone where trying to do you harm, unless you talked (interviewed) them first to know if they would be a safe guest.

    Look at the history of the Nauvoo Temple. At the point that "everyone" could come into the Nauvoo Temple, those people that first entered desecrated the temple. So if you invite just anyone into your house, how do you know that they will not desecrate your house, steel your property, make fun of your most sacred family heirlooms, etc.?

    Why do people have to be worthy to enter the Temple, because we believe that it is a sacred House of the Lord.

    June 18, 2013 7:20 a.m.

    I will never understand the slobbering over the "secret temples!" Usually by very provincial ex-members, or just as sheltered non-members who has spent their whole lives nowhere but in the West. Try looking up the practices of BILLIONS of varied Coptic Christians, Muslims, Hindus, Taoists, Buddhists, and Shintoists in this world. All of them have sacred places that nobody but the most initiated is allowed into. All of them.

    Hey, when I was at Graduate School in California I lived right across the street from a Hindu temple that featured ARMED GUARDS out front to keep the uninitiated away. Mormons don't have that, now do they?

  • earthquakejake Logan, UT
    June 18, 2013 7:16 a.m.

    Any publicity is good publicity. Nobody has anything to be ashamed of. I enjoyed the article.

  • morpunkt Glendora, CA
    June 17, 2013 11:42 p.m.

    Having served in Germany, that situation was a typical snippet of what we had to face, in cities like Heidelberg, where atheism is the official religion. Welcome to Europe, the spiritual famine persists over there, and is growing in America too. It's now trendy to criticize all faiths.

  • Hutterite American Fork, UT
    June 17, 2013 11:15 p.m.

    The 'freethinker from Utah' sticker on my trailer gets me some looks, too.

  • Johnny Moser Thayne, WY
    June 17, 2013 10:47 p.m.

    There have been movies about what goes on in a Mormon Temple. Some of them pretty accurate some not worth the electrons that they equate to in cyberspace. No matter how many ways the temple is explained to someone the only way you really understand the Mormon Temple is to go. I am not talking about sneaking in and watching, because that experience won't be any better than watching one of the attempts to mimic it on film. To understand the Mormon Temple requires more than a few 10sec soundbites and that requires more than a fly-by of the Mormons.
    Just an Observer is telling you THE way to know what goes on in the temple. Anything less than that approach is like buying a Gucci purse in Chinatown; it looks the same, it might even smell the same, but all it is, is a cheap imitation.

  • MapleDon Springville, UT
    June 17, 2013 10:44 p.m.

    Zzzzzzzzzz What? Huh? Oh, uh, zzzzzzzzzz.

  • A1994 Centerville, UT
    June 17, 2013 8:46 p.m.

    It doesn't seem too difficult to me to answer some of these questions.
    -'What is the Church's stance on gay marriage?' The Church opposes it because is runs counter to the plan of God according to the doctrine of ancient and modern prophets. If you don't believe that, that's fine. It's a free country.

    -'What goes on in the temple?' Baptisms for and in behalf of our dead ancestors as well as marriages and endowments for and in behalf of our dead ancestors. It's really that simple. We don't divulge the details or wording of the ceremonies because they are sacred to us, even if they aren't to others.

    -'Why did the church posthumously baptize Holocaust victims?' Because someone who meant well thought it would be a good idea.

    -'Why didn't the church give Black people the priesthood until 1978?' I don't know, but my guess is that the church members at the time were ready for that kind of a change. We all have prejudices to overcome. ALL of us.

  • KristinD Saratoga Springs, UT
    June 17, 2013 8:18 p.m.

    Alex should feel no shame for how he handled his responses. We didn't hear it here, of course. But he is a good man of integrity. He can hold his head high and never fear. And mom power to you! We (moms) can all relate to you description of church and family home evening. Made me laugh!

  • LDSareChristians Anchorage, AK
    June 17, 2013 8:15 p.m.

    Red Corvette posted: They are all honest and valid questions.

    Me: Yep, they are. To bad the interviewer wasn't honest and valid in his approach asking them. Alex really wanted to answer, but wasn't given a chance.

    I've seen youtube videos of LDS missionaries being stopped on the street and this very same "attack" approach applied to them. Really, the only answer to such contentious actions is to turn and walk away.

  • snowman Provo, UT
    June 17, 2013 7:46 p.m.

    Chris B:We are very open about what happens in the temple. Nothing is secret but sacred. If you want to know become a member in good standing.

  • tripletiote Clovis, CA
    June 17, 2013 6:02 p.m.

    Not everyone can qualify for top secret government clearance. All can qualify to attend the temple.

  • Just an Observer Salt Lake City, UT
    June 17, 2013 5:11 p.m.

    @atl134: The point is that there is nothing to get worked up about. I don't know what goes on in many organizations; why should I have to? I think it's reasonably well-known that the temples of the ancient Israelites were far more restrictive than LDS temples; only the tribe of Levi could perform the ordinances there (someone correct me if that's not accurate). Perhaps the Philistines of the time complained about not knowing what was going on in those darned secretive temples, but was it their place to do so?

    @LDS Revelations: My point regarding blacks and the Priesthood is that nobody knows how that came about. A lot of us who were old enough to remember didn't like it, the same as most black people. Not knowing why has nevertheless not stopped those of us--including blacks--who were concerned about it from believing and moving forward.

  • coltakashi Richland, WA
    June 17, 2013 4:50 p.m.

    As a practical matter, we Latter-day Saints should be prepared with an "elevator version" of our testimonies that we can offer to people when they have only a minute or two to listen to us. Personally, I would state that we believe that the Churchof Jesus Christ, as He established it with the original apostles Peter, James and John and the rest, has been restored with its full authority and doctrine to the earth, and that includes the ability to continue receiving revelation from God just as the ancient Christians did. I would be happy to talk to you more about the LDS church--here is my phone number and email address--and you can also visit Mormon.org to find out more about Mormons and what we believe. You will find me there, including the answers I wrote personally to many of the questions you are asking today, but don't have time to listen to my answers.

  • Pollyjms Salt Lake City, UT
    June 17, 2013 3:57 p.m.

    Julie, you are an amazing woman. I was like you being alone at church Doug was on the Stand from when Stephen was a few months old. Five kids it's hard but you can do it. Here we are and the kids are all grown and Doug still sits on the stand Stephen is 23 next month.
    You can do it girl you ARE strong!!!! And the best part it is worth it!!!!

  • atl134 Salt Lake City, UT
    June 17, 2013 3:23 p.m.

    @The Caravan Moves On
    "we can know that Satan is scared by what we are achieving in the Lord's vineyard and smile thinking about our eventual victory over all that is evil"

    Someone's being overdramatic today...

    @Just an Observer
    "To those who want to know what happens in LDS temples, I would say all you have to do is read the Book of Mormon (sincerely), pray about it (sincerely), then act on the answer by getting baptized. Then after a year of showing your conversion is sincere, you can enter the temple. "

    That's like saying all you need to do to have access to gov't classified records is to get a job with the gov't and get a security clearance high enough for it. Don't we still call those secret programs? I almost think you're making the opposite case you were trying to make.

  • LDS Revelations Sandy, UT
    June 17, 2013 2:24 p.m.

    President J Reuben Clark once said of the LDS Church:
    "If we have the truth, it cannot be harmed by investigation. If we have not the truth, it ought to be harmed."

    Likewise Elder Hugh B. Brown said:
    "Now I have mentioned freedom to express your thoughts, but I caution you that your thoughts and expressions must meet competition in the market place of thought, and in that competition truth will emerge triumphant. Only error needs to fear freedom of expression."

    I think this is good to keep in mind when members of the Church get asked tough questions by those outside the faith. Certainly any belief system that cannot stand up to scrutiny is not worth much. Does that mean this this fun for believers?Nope. But I think it comes with the territory.

  • LDS Revelations Sandy, UT
    June 17, 2013 2:16 p.m.

    @ Just an Observer-

    "With regard to the history with blacks, you can always ask a black member about it."

    Actually I think this might help one understand how black Mormons feel about the Church and priesthood ban now but it likely would do little to address the reasons/doctrines behind the ban and the Church's current views on those past views. The Church's intentional vagueness on this topic has made it tough for anyone to understand what took place and the reasons for it— unless thy are inclined to research on their own— let alone where the Church stands now on things such as skin color as a mark of curses and such. Until there are some honest, public and frank discussions of these items these questions will continue.

  • hubbardesquire Alabaster, Alabama
    June 17, 2013 2:01 p.m.

    Just tell them that you are not there to debate religion. Tell them the Church has many resources available both online, and through its missionaries and members, for anyone who is interested. Tell them the best way to get to know us Mormons is to attend our Church services and visit with our members.

    Also, tell them that Latter-day Saints are first and foremost Christians. So, if anyone knows the Bible then they know a lot about us. Further,you might want to let them know that we are called Mormons because we also believe in the Book of Mormon: Another Testament of Jesus Christ, along with the Bible, as the Word of God. Then I would just let the rest go unanswered.

    I would also let them know that if they want to pile on with loaded, obscure, false-premised questions which are designed simply to embarrass the LDS Church and its members; then, they need to submit their questions in writing and wait to get a written response from someone authorized to make such responses.

  • MoJules Florissant, MO
    June 17, 2013 1:16 p.m.

    Dang it!!! I focus on someones comment and not on saying that I really admire and respect that Julie and Alex are willing to be out in the spotlight and stand up for what they believe.

  • MoJules Florissant, MO
    June 17, 2013 1:14 p.m.

    Chris, you are more then welcome to know what goes on in the temple, become temple worthy and attend. Oh, and maybe you don't know, blacks do have the priesthood. Now one thing you might not know, one of the reasons Mormons were driven out of areas was because they did not support slavery. Hmmmmm, so has our country answered the hard question why they owned another person for such a long time and didn't give them rights?

  • Just an Observer Salt Lake City, UT
    June 17, 2013 1:05 p.m.

    To those who want to know what happens in LDS temples, I would say all you have to do is read the Book of Mormon (sincerely), pray about it (sincerely), then act on the answer by getting baptized. Then after a year of showing your conversion is sincere, you can enter the temple. Once there, you will find what every other Latter-day Saint knows: it's not a big deal. The reason LDS leaders have to persuade and cajole people to go to the temple is because it's more than two hours (at a minimum) out of what is often a busy day, and it's not particularly interesting. Those of us who have exercised faith and made time to go on a regular basis despite not reasonably having enough time to do so nevertheless find our lives blessed in other ways--like, my garden is doing FAR better than it has any right to do. ;-) But that doesn't make temple attendance itself any more exciting or newsworthy.

    With regard to the history with blacks, you can always ask a black member about it. That's far better than getting up in arms about it yourself.

  • Chris B Salt Lake City, UT
    June 17, 2013 12:37 p.m.

    Until the Mormon church is open about what you do in your temples and until you answer hard questions about blacks and your priesthood, Mormons will always be viewed with caution.

    And for good reason.

    Note moderators I have broken none of your rules. Just because I post something that your church would not like to hear is not justification for not posting it.

  • Chieftess Ivins, UT
    June 17, 2013 12:00 p.m.

    I love Alex, what a brave soul! I have been under fire myself and sometimes responded how I meant to and sometimes, not so much. I have learned a lot from those situations. If the question, or accusation really, is about doctrine, I have learned to politely suggest checking Mormon.org or LDS.org which allows a person to study all they want. People sometimes want to start a bible bash or test my knowledge in an effort to make me look bad, so I feel no shame ignoring them, if possible, or reminding them to show respect - in a respectful way of course. It's not like they really want the answer anyway.

  • Mayfair City, Ut
    June 17, 2013 10:56 a.m.

    Good old Red Corvette--has all the answers, yet can't resist making snarky comments to belittle those he dispises. Why is that Red? ?

  • Jerri Burk uaa, NM
    June 17, 2013 10:53 a.m.

    I 2nd the comment " well done." All of us need to brush up on our responses, and I haven't personally had to respond in a couple of minutes. We can become a master at it. Although with 3 little children, our time is limited.
    My oldest grandson is serving a mission in the UK at this time and I KNOW he is challenged with these questions and comments daily. He is growing in his knowledge as a result. I am proud of him .
    On a side bar....I personally do not feel it is appropriate to leave a comment using a " screen name " What is wrong with your real name?
    Alex and Julie use their real names , as did President Hinckley and many others.

  • Sneaky Jimmy Bay Area, CA
    June 17, 2013 9:39 a.m.

    All publicity is good publicity.

  • eastcoastcoug Danbury, CT
    June 17, 2013 8:59 a.m.

    All missionaries going out would do well do read and practice their answers (in 10 second soundbites) to Alex' interview. We all need to get better at preparing to discuss why and what we believe. The challenge is discerning why they are asking and answering in a way that is respectful and brief (see Elder Ballard's talk a few years back). This is not just something members in the UK need to be adept at, it is for all of us.

  • Malihini Northern, UT
    June 17, 2013 8:59 a.m.

    While I can appreciate the stress that a situation like what you described could create, those questions, or any questions about the church, are not difficult to answer. Just answer them honestly, candidly, and directly. Truth is truth, we don't need to market it in a certain way or present it in a certain way, just say what it is. There is nothing secret about the church...NOTHING.

    And to our friend Red Corvette in Sacramento, no problem. I, and millions around the world, have asked themselves these questions and have understand the answers. If you are wondering, I hope you find the answers you are looking for.

  • samhill Salt Lake City, UT
    June 17, 2013 8:38 a.m.

    Having 10 seconds to answer questions with eternal implications. Sure sounds like a set up to me.

    Hopefully, as "Swedish reader" said, those who are honest enough to be interested in the truth will see the truth that the interviewer had no interest in the answers at all, only in pushing their own veiled connotations.

    Incidentally, to "Swedish reader", "Hur står det till?" :o)

  • BYR Woods Cross, UT
    June 17, 2013 8:08 a.m.

    Julie, you (and your family) are so celestialized. Well done.

  • The Caravan Moves On Enid, OK
    June 17, 2013 7:22 a.m.

    Well.....we can either be angry.

    Or....we can know that Satan is scared by what we are achieving in the Lord's vineyard and smile thinking about our eventual victory over all that is evil while we keep working dilligently to prepare the way for the Lord's Second Coming.

    I choose the latter.

    Goodness and truth: you simply can't beat it.

  • Swedish reader Stockholm, Sweden
    June 17, 2013 6:01 a.m.

    Welcome to Europe! This kind of bombardment intended to more or less nail you to the wall is something every member here has encountered when others find out that they are members of the LDS Church. Of course there are also lots of people who treat you with respect regardless if they agree with the Church's stance on things, and people who are genuinely interested in knowing what you believe. Unfortunately, the media sometimes tends toward this kind of behavior, too. It's a small comfort, but anyone with an open mind and heart hearing this interview will think the interviewer was behaving badly.