Never invest your time or money in another man's future wife.
Friendship can be a fine basis for a good marriage. More girls (and guys) ought
to see a date as a friendship thing. Then let it progress if it is supposed to
progress. Just relax and let it happen. Have a little fun. So many want to
rush the process... and when they go into "DTR" mode it ends up ruining
Friends is what all I think you can expect. When there is kids or a huge student
lone. I don't think I would want to get serious with other factors.
i was 32 years old (1977- you do the math), when i finally realized that it was
possible for people of opposite sex to be just friends - in the real sense of
the word- with no sexual implications. i think it is important for people who
are not married yet to fully understand that- maybe many o you do- but i did not
until i was - well, much older, and i cannot tell you how that makes me feel- to
have missed out on many possible friendships because of that viewpoint. yes,
dating can have a serious purpose, but it can also serve to develop friends for
members of both sexes. you are living in a very different time than i lived in
when your age- don't get side tracked, follow the counsel given by our
church leaders regarding dating and marriage. yes, i finally did get married- at
32- why it took that long, i am not sure- but i do think that not being
comfortable on a friendship only basis with women slowed down getting married.
so- my bottom line to those who are not married yet- heed the counsel given by
our church leaders on this topic.
I wish I had this article last year at college when I was on a dating committee
to help encourage dating around campus. Our committee spent a semester
researching cultural values, gospel values, and well, all the things people were
afraid of, and came to the conclusion that a LOT of people were afraid to do
more than "hang out" because they felt that a date DID mean marriage.
To be honest, coming from not dating at all in high school, to a
church college full of return missionaries who were still high on their mission
president's final interview made me really overwhelmed. As I started
dating, it became frustrating to feel like dates had to meet some standard of
"magic", instead of just having fun! I felt I couldn't be myself,
wondering which one was "the one" It felt like a run on the banks;
desperation seemed so tangible at times. I would get frustrated with guys who
instead of getting to know me, seemed to be looking me over like a heifer at
auction, checking off a list of "must haves", just to make sure that
their trophy was qualified to take to the mission reunion.