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Published: Thursday, May 9 2013 3:05 p.m. MDT

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cjb
Bountiful, UT

I had a neighbor whose wife confided in me that her husband spent so much of his time playing a (non pornographic) role playing game on the Internet that she felt lonely. Given that we are all wired differently, I can imagine there are men who would rather spend time looking at pictures of women than they would spending time with real women (their wife). But what of other men who would rather spend time with a real woman? Are we going to generalize and say that porn is harmful to all marriages? Alcohol ruins lives. But it doesn't ruin all lives. Not everyone is disposed to alcoholism.

There are women that after they get married become less affectionate at least for a time. Pornography can help bridge this gap, at least for a time. Looking at porn can therefore help prevent infidelity at least for men who would rather remain faithful. Though any woman who withdraws her affection is playing with fire so far as her marriage is concerned, because frankly porn is a poor substitute for the real thing.

Miss Piggie
Pheonix, AZ

@cjb:
"I had a neighbor whose wife confided in me that her husband spent so much of his time playing a (non pornographic) role playing game on the Internet that she felt lonely."

"There are women that after they get married become less affectionate at least for a time."

Let's cut to the chase...

Speaking generally, the female role is that of attracting the male. Once that task is complete and the wedding bells have chimed, their job is done. The drive to attract is substantially diminished. Yet, on the other hand, the male drive for sexual relations is never diminished, always constant, and strong. This dichotomy drives the male to porn. Women would be smart to realize this and take the necessary action to provide abatement... or just live with it. Most don't fathom this human situation until it's too late.

WestGranger
West Valley City, Utah

Love and trust is what makes a relationship strong. Pornography objectifies women. They become an object of deep animal lust, not love. Lust alone, on a base level does not lead to love, respect or happiness in a marriage. Porn addiction leads to selfishness, and away from the self-less, unity, caring for others, love and mutual respect that are the foundation of "real and lasting intimacy". It is a base instinct, that if left unchecked, can lead to very destructive behavior.

Chris B
Salt Lake City, UT

Des News moderators are doing their best to prevent anyone disagreeing with this article, even in a respectful manner.

I think porn is perfectly fine for adults and does not necessarily lead to damaged relationships.

In fact, in can enhance them.

Hutterite
American Fork, UT

Are we in for a spate of porn articles again?

Christian 24-7
Murray, UT

Free speech may be a constitutional right, but those who engage in harmful forms will find that they still have to pay the price. Sadly, their families pay for their 'free speech' too.

cjb
Bountiful, UT

Re WestGranger

Lust a part of a healthy marriage. Take lust away and most marriages wouldn't even happen. take less the way a lot of marriages would dissolve. lust is a God given the emotion you make it out to be a four letter word.

merich39
Salt Lake City, UT

This article presumes that pornography is viewed by one spouse or the other (typically the husband) without the knowledge of or against the wishes of the non-viewing spouse. What isn't acknowledged is the possibility that the couple view pornography together as an occasional enhancement to their love life. Nothing more or less than any other love life enhancement the couple might decide to share together.

Addictions of any kind are typically harmful to an individual and that individual's relationships. Porn addiction is no worse than other addictions in that regard. And, porn can serve a beneficial role in a marriage in terms of providing a spark and variety. If viewed in moderation and in a shared way, I don't see any harm.

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