Published: Thursday, May 9 2013 3:05 p.m. MDT
I had a neighbor whose wife confided in me that her husband spent so much of his
time playing a (non pornographic) role playing game on the Internet that she
felt lonely. Given that we are all wired differently, I can imagine there are
men who would rather spend time looking at pictures of women than they would
spending time with real women (their wife). But what of other men who would
rather spend time with a real woman? Are we going to generalize and say that
porn is harmful to all marriages? Alcohol ruins lives. But it doesn't ruin
all lives. Not everyone is disposed to alcoholism.There are women
that after they get married become less affectionate at least for a time.
Pornography can help bridge this gap, at least for a time. Looking at porn can
therefore help prevent infidelity at least for men who would rather remain
faithful. Though any woman who withdraws her affection is playing with fire so
far as her marriage is concerned, because frankly porn is a poor substitute for
the real thing.
@cjb:"I had a neighbor whose wife confided in me that her husband
spent so much of his time playing a (non pornographic) role playing game on the
Internet that she felt lonely.""There are women that after
they get married become less affectionate at least for a time."Let's cut to the chase...Speaking generally, the female role
is that of attracting the male. Once that task is complete and the wedding
bells have chimed, their job is done. The drive to attract is substantially
diminished. Yet, on the other hand, the male drive for sexual relations is
never diminished, always constant, and strong. This dichotomy drives the male
to porn. Women would be smart to realize this and take the necessary action to
provide abatement... or just live with it. Most don't fathom this human
situation until it's too late.
Love and trust is what makes a relationship strong. Pornography objectifies
women. They become an object of deep animal lust, not love. Lust alone, on a
base level does not lead to love, respect or happiness in a marriage. Porn
addiction leads to selfishness, and away from the self-less, unity, caring for
others, love and mutual respect that are the foundation of "real and lasting
intimacy". It is a base instinct, that if left unchecked, can lead to very
Des News moderators are doing their best to prevent anyone disagreeing with this
article, even in a respectful manner.I think porn is perfectly fine
for adults and does not necessarily lead to damaged relationships.In
fact, in can enhance them.
Are we in for a spate of porn articles again?
Free speech may be a constitutional right, but those who engage in harmful forms
will find that they still have to pay the price. Sadly, their families pay for
their 'free speech' too.
Re WestGrangerLust a part of a healthy marriage. Take lust away and
most marriages wouldn't even happen. take less the way a lot of marriages
would dissolve. lust is a God given the emotion you make it out to be a four
This article presumes that pornography is viewed by one spouse or the other
(typically the husband) without the knowledge of or against the wishes of the
non-viewing spouse. What isn't acknowledged is the possibility that the
couple view pornography together as an occasional enhancement to their love
life. Nothing more or less than any other love life enhancement the couple
might decide to share together. Addictions of any kind are
typically harmful to an individual and that individual's relationships.
Porn addiction is no worse than other addictions in that regard. And, porn can
serve a beneficial role in a marriage in terms of providing a spark and variety.
If viewed in moderation and in a shared way, I don't see any harm.
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