Kattawn - I am not sure if you read the article all the way through. Your point
is basically the point the author was making. Do the best you can with what
life throws you and recognize that there is no "ideal" mother.Mother's Day for my mother in law and also my mom to some extent was full
of guilt and negative emotions. I determined that I would enjoy the day with no
guilt and no expectations. My kids could tell anyone just how often I
wasn't the mystical ideal mother. They love telling stories about the
times I lost it and sadly, there are a few. In spite of all the difficulties I
have done my best. If perfection was a requirement for motherhood no-one would
have a mom.
May I tell you something as an LDS 50-something woman who has never had marriage
or children, and who did not grow up with the "ideal" LDS mother?
I've learned over my years that these articles make LDS mothers feel
terrible about themselves and how they are raising their kids. I use to think I
hated Mother's Day and avoided it at church because I am not a mother, but
then I realized many mothers hate it and some avoid it too. I did not grow up
LDS. My father was an alcoholic. My mother worked nights. But I figure my mother
did what she could with the knowledge that she had at the time (which
wasn't much). There is no such thing as a perfect mother (or child, for
that matter, which I certainly was not). So feel free not to run dozens of
articles before every Mother's Day about this subject. As Pres. Hinckley
said (paraphrased) just do the best you can [with what you've got]. Thank
you for listening.