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Published: Wednesday, May 8 2013 5:00 a.m. MDT

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kattawn
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May I tell you something as an LDS 50-something woman who has never had marriage or children, and who did not grow up with the "ideal" LDS mother? I've learned over my years that these articles make LDS mothers feel terrible about themselves and how they are raising their kids. I use to think I hated Mother's Day and avoided it at church because I am not a mother, but then I realized many mothers hate it and some avoid it too. I did not grow up LDS. My father was an alcoholic. My mother worked nights. But I figure my mother did what she could with the knowledge that she had at the time (which wasn't much). There is no such thing as a perfect mother (or child, for that matter, which I certainly was not). So feel free not to run dozens of articles before every Mother's Day about this subject. As Pres. Hinckley said (paraphrased) just do the best you can [with what you've got]. Thank you for listening.

jeanie
orem, UT

Kattawn - I am not sure if you read the article all the way through. Your point is basically the point the author was making. Do the best you can with what life throws you and recognize that there is no "ideal" mother.

Mother's Day for my mother in law and also my mom to some extent was full of guilt and negative emotions. I determined that I would enjoy the day with no guilt and no expectations. My kids could tell anyone just how often I wasn't the mystical ideal mother. They love telling stories about the times I lost it and sadly, there are a few. In spite of all the difficulties I have done my best. If perfection was a requirement for motherhood no-one would have a mom.

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