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Published: Sunday, May 5 2013 10:25 p.m. MDT

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MormonSean
Salt Lake City, UT

In October 2005, President Gordon B. Hinckley gave a talk titled "Forgiveness".

Maybe someday this kid will see the comments posted here. He'll surely see a variety of attitudes. I just hope that he or anyone else that can profit from this talk will take the time to listen to it or read it.

I forgive the boy. I hope and pray for his future to be bright. I also pray for this family to feel comfort.

MormonSean
Salt Lake City, UT

I want to share a quote from President Hinckley's talk I mentioned.

"I know this is a delicate and sensitive thing of which I am speaking. There are hardened criminals who may have to be locked up. There are unspeakable crimes, such as deliberate murder and rape, that justify harsh penalties. But there are some who could be saved from long, stultifying years in prison because of an unthoughtful, foolish act. Somehow forgiveness, with love and tolerance, accomplishes miracles that can happen in no other way.

The great Atonement was the supreme act of forgiveness. The magnitude of that Atonement is beyond our ability to completely understand. I know only that it happened, and that it was for me and for you..."

"May God help us to be a little kinder, showing forth greater forbearance, to be more forgiving, more willing to walk the second mile, to reach down and lift up those who may have sinned but have brought forth the fruits of repentance, to lay aside old grudges and nurture them no more. For this I humbly pray, in the sacred name of our Redeemer, even the Lord Jesus Christ, amen."

Lightening Lad
Austin , TX

Why the big coverup? We don't even know what organization was sponsoring the match, or who the teams were or what
league was represented. It's not the job of the newspapers to aid in creating a snow job but to investigate and pass along all the details they can gather. Statement's from other players, the other ref(s), what spectators saw, etc. I get that the offender was over 17 , but not yet 18 and an adult: so his name can be withheld, but why the complete lack of all other details. Nationally, this sick story is getting lots of play in the Las Vegas Review Journal, Arizona Republic, LA Times, Denver Post, NY Times that I know of, making it seem as if Utah is some wild untamed place where you shoot the ref for making calls that bother you. The number of Utah related parental assualts during kids games is well known also as well as the coach who was accused of whacking a football player from the other team giving the kid a concussion. Maybe law enforcement needs some new laws to deal with the mess, kids frown on dad being locked up for bad behavior

SundanceKid27
OREM, UT

This story is very sad. I feel bad for the family and those who knew this man who passed away. I also feel bad for the young man who made this poor decision. I am sure his intentions weren't to kill this man.

This needs to be a reminder that sports are recreational. We can all get too heating playing. We need to remember common sense and perspective.

Jazzledazzle
Provo, UT

Not sure what religion this family is. I hope it is ok to say that I believe the atonement of Jesus Christ will help this family during this rough time. My condolences. A careless act took your Father's life. May the Spirit of the Lord comfort you.

The young man that made this choice will need the atonement too. Maybe he did what he did without thinking and never thought it would end this way. I don't know. Only he does. Hopefully people will think things through next time. This all happened over a soccer game, and someone not being able to control their temper.

God bless the families involved in this tragedy.

DH48
West Jordan, UT

The comments saying the league officials must do something, they must provide more security, miss the mark. I understand they come from someone that is grieving and I don't wish to criticize but our nation needs to realize that more security is only treating a symptom. The cause is whatever lead up to this young mans anger, or whatever made this young man believe that it was appropriate and ok to punch someone in the head.

Our society is sending such mixed messages. We glorify violence to such a high degree then become shocked when people act out with violence. If we want change the change starts within our own hearts and minds.

My sympathies to those impacted by this tragedy.

Shimlau
SAINT GEORGE, UT

well said DH48. my condolences also to all the parties involved.

Whoa Nellie
American Fork, UT

Condolences to this family and hopes that the Atonement will help them heal.

Lad, there's no coverup here. This is an article about the mourning of a family not whatever organization did or did not sponsor a soccer match.

MormonSean, why do you feel the need to forgive the perpetrator of this violent act? Are you related to the Portillo family? Were you injured or offended directly by this boy?

Christmas Carole
LAS CRUCES, NM

I have heartfelt sadness for this family/friends. I don't understand how zero tolerance results in this man being seriously injured 3 different times with the last resulting in death. This "almost a man" did not make a "poor decision"...he reacted violently to an official doing his job. Our bodies are not meant to act out in anger to others. He apparently has never been guided to control his anger resulting in physical harm to others. NO ONE has the right to harm another human being! As I taught my children...his rights ended where the officials body began..

procuradorfiscal
Tooele, UT

Re: "Previously, he suffered broken ribs and a broken leg following incidents of violence from irate players . . . ."

Sounds like a rough league. Hopefully, police officials are looking into the league, as well as any gang affiliation status of the young toughs comprising it.

athought
Salt Lake City, UT

I am so sorry for this families loss. Just a day or two previous to Ricky's death, his daughter made the statement that he seemed to be doing better. I was hoping for a recovery and was shocked when they announced he had lost his battle for life. Only time will help with the loss, just remember the good times you had.

I hope this thoughtless act doesn't affect the sports. These kids need an outlet for their energy, and need to be active. This in no way condones what was done, but in my granddaughter's school, because of the actions of a couple, their sports program no longer participates in any sport that may include any physical contact. Hopefully this thoughtless act won't affect hundreds in the league. Parents, this is an ideal time to take this as a teaching moment for your kids. NEVER, I repeat NEVER should a parent condone any type of violence. My kids were taught to not be bullied and a target, but never to instigate anything.

FrankSegesman
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Something about this situation just isn't right. Not sure what it is yet, I am sure there will be some details coming out shortly. Sad for the family. Can't help wonder what kind of example the punk's father has been at other sporting events. But, something just isn't feeling right about the whole thing.

washcomom
Beaverton, OR

"Portillo-Lopez said her family will take some comfort in the fact that many people’s lives will be better because her father's organs were donated to others."

What a precious gift you have given to others, so their lives may continue on.

My most sincere sympathy. I know how hard it is to lose a father who is well loved, and who died too soon.

Something to think about
Ogden, UT

Let's not confuse forgiveness with justice. We can all be forgiving... even "more" forgiving in our lives. However, justice must also be served. I agree with the posts that call for this young man to be punished to the fullest, as per the laws of the land. This was a violent and selfish act. The act cost a man his life. It cost a family a husband and father! This case will be critical to the type of actions people take in the future (in regards to sports and sports officials). It is of critical importance to me that the punishment is such to deter any further such actions.

Tough deal for all involved. I wish all parties involved internal peace.

MormonSean
Salt Lake City, UT

Whoa Nellie

As I have been given much, I too must give.

I care for others. I do not wish harm on the boy, the referee's family, or anyone. I believe justice is a righteous principle and I believe that this boy can learn and grow and change for the better. I know I have changed a lot of things in my life. As a teenager I was very different than I am today. I have been given a lot of second chances and my life is blessed for it. I simply want to give the same to others.

I do believe in justice. But many seek vengeance and call it justice. I want to give the boy a chance to change and be better. I want to give him an opportunity to not spend years in prison, marked a felon for life, etc. I want to help him.

The real question isn't why I want to help him, but why others care so much that someone does.

cjb
Bountiful, UT

It is time in Utah sports to get an acknowledgement and agreement, verbally and in writing

that there will be times when frustration will occur, but the participant and parents agree not to engage in violence or to raise his/ her voice against the ref or others.

Agreement would include an appropriate penalty for those who violate the agreement.

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