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Published: Wednesday, April 24 2013 5:20 a.m. MDT

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dr.bridell
mclean, VA

I think the Eyres nailed it on this one!
Maybe same sex marriage is just a decoy to keep our attention off of the REAL thing that is redefining marriage--and that thing is cohabitation!
Thanks for getting this HUGE issue out there!

amazondoc
USA, TN

"Because cohabitation (unmarried couples living together) is growing and spreading at an alarming clip and replacing the healthier cells of traditional, committed marriage. And because the statistical results of the shift are overwhelmingly negative both for children and for couples."

And yet, people who WANT to get married aren't allowed to. How does that make any sense??

"Those of us who worry that the same-sex marriage movement will redefine marriage ought to consider the much larger issue of cohabitation. The 50 percent of couples who cohabit instead of marrying will redefine marriage far more than the small percentage who would practice same-sex marriage."

Absolutely right! People should be encouraging marriage throughout society, not obsessing over who does or does not deserve to get married.

Marriage *is* important. It has many benefits to society, including important benefits to children. Don't shoot yourself in the foot by fighting battles against people who *want* to get married.

John Charity Spring
Back Home in Davis County, UT

This article is absolutely correct. Cohabitation is a selfish act, and it is destroying America.

Cohabitation is little more than a mechanism for facilitating recreational sex. Indeed, its sole purpose is to facilitate sex without traditional commitment and responsibility.

Areas with higher rates of cohabitation have documented higher rates of crime and substance abuse. This overwhelms both law enforcement and social services. In essence, the taxpayers are forced to finance the recreational sex of the cohabitants. This is the very definition of selfishness.

amazondoc
USA, TN

@John --

"its sole purpose is to facilitate sex without traditional commitment and responsibility."

That's baloney. For instance, my own brother and his SO have been together, unmarried, for more than 20 years now. That's a lot more commitment and responsibility than you see from a large percentage of married people.

There's a lot of reasons why people choose to not marry -- and most of them have nothing to do with sex.

"Areas with higher rates of cohabitation have documented higher rates of crime and substance abuse."

This may or may not be true -- but even if it is true, it doesn't mean that cohabitation *causes* that crime and abuse. Poverty and lack of education are more likely to cause *both* cohabitation *and* crime.

Cats
Somewhere in Time, UT

The Eyres are absolutely right and they have the statistics to support it. Same sex so-called marriage is only one example of the degradation of society and the attacks on marriage and the family that exist today. Of course, a homosexual relationship will never be a marriage no matter how many laws get passed or how much we pretend.

We can easily see that when we choose to go against morality, we hurt ourselves. When an entire society does it, entire civilizations will crash. We have thousands of years of experience to prove it. Now there are statistics that prove it. Of course, when we don't want to face the truth, we can always find a way to deny it.

FatherOfFour
WEST VALLEY CITY, UT

So herein lies the question: What do we do about it? We can complain about people not getting married, sex on TV, and those darn kids listening to that rock and roll music. But that is it. Those who agree with the article will nod their head and complain about loose morals and society crumbling. Those who disagree will move on to the next article. At the end of the day, if this truly is a problem (ie. a cancerous curse), what do we do about it?

I know it. I Live it. I Love it.
Salt Lake City, UT

To FatherOfFour:

There is only one think I know we can do.

I've been offended. mistreated, etc. Most of us have at some point. There is always someone in our life who is abusing, cheating, stealing, hating, etc. They either directly or indirectly cause suffering to us or our loved ones. I've seen marital and family problems hurt more people than anything else. It's a cancer.

But when someone wrongs you, should you correct them? Point it out to them? Show them their error? It may be as simple as remembering to worry about the mote in our own eye rather than "tackle" social issues by taking the fight to their doorstep. The more we get our own houses in order, the more light we can hold up to show others the way.

In order to share that light with others, they need to understand it. There are times when it's necessary to say "I'm a Mormon. I believe this, sustain this, not that" but the most powerful way to help others is through holding up the light for everyone to see. I believe this way we can do more than we realize.

amazondoc
USA, TN

@Cats --

"Same sex so-called marriage is only one example of the degradation of society and the attacks on marriage and the family that exist today. Of course, a homosexual relationship will never be a marriage no matter how many laws get passed or how much we pretend. "

Quite a few religious denominations, both Christian and non-Christian, are already happy to perform gay church marriages. Many religious people support gay marriages. Many gay people are religious themselves -- and quite a few serve as pastors or in other church-related positions.

None of these people believe that gay marriage constitutes an attack on religion, marriage, *or* the family.

Why would you believe that your personal views on religion, marriage, and/or the family get to win?

amazondoc
USA, TN

@I know it --

"In order to share that light with others, they need to understand it. There are times when it's necessary to say 'I'm a Mormon. I believe this, sustain this, not that' but the most powerful way to help others is through holding up the light for everyone to see. I believe this way we can do more than we realize."

I'm not Mormon, but IMHO this sort of behavior is when LDS members are at their most admirable.

I lived in SLC for five years. While I lived there I could really admire LDS members when they concentrated on leading **by example**. You guys have some powerful family and social values, and you put a lot of energy into turning those values into reality.

If you could just concentrate on shining that light, and forget about being judgmental of others who are different than you, IMHO you would be doing a huge service to society as a whole.

Kazbert
VAIL, AZ

I am 53, and it is sobering to me to realize that when I was born nearly every state in the union had laws prohibiting cohabitation. The foundation for today’s permissiveness was laid stone by stone over several decades. Today we’re merely reaping what was sown, and sown again until what was good is now called evil and what was evil is now called good.

I know it. I Live it. I Love it.
Salt Lake City, UT

amazondoc,

Two more things:

1) Regarding what you asked CATS on marriage... I don't have room here, but perhaps on another article in the future I will. I just wanted to say that there are people who have reasons that aren't rooted in 'winning our form of marriage', etc. You may already know that or disagree, just wanted to add that...

2) In case my last comment on this article gets posted... I meant to say "It's NOT rooted".

On a BSA one I worded the "The factor isn't against..." incorrectly. It should have read that "the factor is with people being alone with the gender they are attracted to".

My wording errors may yet cause mass mayhem and public disorientation. lol

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