Gail FitchesLayton, UTAgreed!But BIG pharm does
want anyone to know this dirty little secret combination. $$$
Domestic violence can include verbal abuse, and emotional abuse. Friends or
family had to know why she was leaving.
Murdering a house mate is DV. It infrequently happens in a good relationship
unless there are unique circumstances such as a terminal illness. Neighbors
seldom know everything that goes on behind closed doors, so making the
association is not a very big leap.
Domestic Violence is obviously the media narrative on this one...even though it
had nothing to do with any kind of history of violence, they'll twist it
till it fits, it's the progressive way.
I think the reason one assumes that there was abuse is because when you kill
your spouse, you are abusing her (or him). Honestly I find the
article very unsatisfying, jumping to a soapbox about how discussing abuse might
have saved them is kind of socially irresponsible. So would wearing a
bulletproof vest when your husband has a gun and you decide to leave him, but
you don't hear an outcry for that, do ya? The fact remains that
our socity has no structure whatsoever to handle a situation like this. If you
suspected something like this might happen, what would you do as a neighbor or
friend? Honestly what could you do?
Dixie Kid and fish8,It seems this article is trying to point out that
because there was no history of domestic violence - history means that there
would be documentation of, or it was known by law or others - then it could
have been hidden or kept private. Nevertheless, just because there is no
"history" or "evidence" does not mean it didn't exist. Try
to follow the story line.
I agree with The Dixie Kid. Why did the paper jump to DV as the issue. They
admitted there was no evidence of DV in this relationship. I guess they could
have also jumped on the anti gun issue or maybe even the marriage vs co
habatation issue. If you aren't going to stick to the facts it really
doesn't matter what you report.
In most of the cases like this, usually the person is on antidepressants or
antipsychotics. I am curious what prescription drugs he was taking. This is so
very sad, and is happening more frequently.
I don't know what more the public can do to curtail Domestic Violence. What
will likely happen is more government spending, is a feeble attempt to control
People, than to stop DV.Men and Women who indulge in DV know that it
is wrong, but their own selfish desires want allow them to take steps to make
the necessary changes to quit. Violence is part of our society and only the
people who engage in it can stop it.People in DV situations will not
listen to reason, they believe that things will change, so they continue in the
relationship until something tragic, like this, happens. I
don't beleive that someone, somewhere, didn't know about the problems
in that relationship: a friend, family member, co-worker, or neighbor. Someone
knew about the situation, if there was any. I am saddened over this, she is such
a lovely lady.
Divorce? They weren't even married, just two people sharing a house and
bills with one expecting a little more than the other was willing to give.Cohabitation is a fake love that is not built on trust, love, unity, or
equality. They were using each other and that is not a foundation you can build
on for a family or each other and there is no commitment or accountability to
each other at all.This is the inevitable outcome of cohabitation and
it can't be called domestic violence because each has no commitment or
obligation to the other. Nor do children out of wedlock bond and bind a couple
with any lasting commitment. They can bond to children but not each other. A
lifestyle without trust and commitment is not worth the risk. Most
likely the rift began with financial obligations that neither could justify as
cause to remain together, and the root of 90% of all breakups. Unmarried people
remain single for all their life in mind and commitment. If police do get
involved with violence in cohabitation the law is clear, they can leave anytime
and it becomes self induced pain and suffering or suicide.
They said that there was no history of domestic abuse, but then the article
jumps to the conclusion that there was? What did I miss?
I gun in the house is not all that great of a thing is it.
Pencils don't misspell words anymore then guns kill.
This is without a doubt very tragic. People often view DV as being or only
being physical and or sexual abuse and forget that the most dangerous is
emotional. It leaves no visible scars or marks and is much much more lasting.
Without knowing the full circumstances, I would dare to say that emotional abuse
was there, however, not recorded by the public. We need more education in the
area of DV and how to stop it. My heart goes out to the families.